feel desperate. Please advise

cobbingstones

foreign_correspondent wrote: »

what do you mean, kids stuff? does he have a child?

No the clothes from the catalogue that I bought where for my younger children.

MM

foreign_correspondent

thanks I misunderstood that!

Savvy_Sue

A third vote for Fam-Anon.

There's also The Recovery Network, which might also be useful to you.

mudgekin

hi Madsmum

I really have nothing to add apart from reiterating what the other posters have said.

You must tell your husband about this as you have enough stress to deal with without also dealing with the stress of hiding this from your husband. When you do, point out that him hitting your son will only add to the stress you have and will untimately end up with him going through the courts instead of your son.

Fam-Anon will provide an invaluable support mechanism for you and will allow you to talk to others who deal with similar situations.

If your son is unwilling to admit that he has a real drugs problem that is out of control and is not ready too accept help then this is the time to put "Tough Love" into place. You really need to get your mum on board to be able to do this effectively and cut off all access to money or goods that he can sell. A first step would be to calmly explain to your mum that she is actually empowering him to take drugs by supplying the means to do it.

Do you perhaps have a community policeman that you could have a word with to perhaps pay him a visit and hammer home the implications of what he has done?

My heart goes out to you at this time and I hope things work out /hugs