It is tough NOW. So how are we coping

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ginnyknit wrote: »

Today though I got to dig out an gift I have been holding onto for years - a silver baby hairbrush for my first grandson Mikey who was born last night 7lb 2 oz. I didnt think my kids were going to bother with babies:beer:

Wonderful news Giinyknit :T on St Georges Day too!
Are you going to be Grandma, Granny or Nana?

On the memory front, I am seriously thinking about getting the old HRT dosage upped a bit to see if that will help - the worse of it is - at Christmas I sort of thought I had bought some sweet stuff but couldn;t find it so I then assumed that I'd thought I had but hadn't IYKWIM

I live with a family of gannets (aka oh & dd's) and if anything sweet isn't squirrelled away, its scoffed in double quick time so I have to stash so it lasts the week. Over the years, the children have sniffed out the most of my special places so I have to be more 'creative' in thinking up new hiding places!

rolo-polo1965

sammy_kaye18 wrote: »

Hiya

Just thought I'd pop on and leave a note about how my midwife check up went today.
Had a sample done and there was a bit too much sugar in it for my midwife's liking but she is going to monitor it and ive been banned from my sweetie cravings now so no more star burst for me.

Holly was having a bit of a diva moment as well because when ever the midwife put the ultrasound stick on my stomach, she would just find Holly's heart beat before holly decided she'd had enough and would kick the stick and then wriggle out of the way of it so we couldn't get it again. Just proves she's alright though because she had a right fidget on before I went in.

did mention that I had period pain like cramps on Sunday whilst I was in work but only had it once and then it subsided and the midwife did say that I was perhaps too active and should maybe take things a bit easier (it was quite busy) but told her I presumed it was Braxton hicks (fake contractions) and she said they shouldn't be painful just uncomfortable but what I described - lower back ache with mild cramp like pains around the front - could be a sign of early labour so she has put it in my file now as a warning that I might 'pop' a bit early. Although Owen is adamant that if she comes on June 21st he is still not sharing his birthday presents!

Apart from that my blood pressure is fine and I'm measuring a little bit bigger than I should be (oh what fun!) but everything else is ok.

I've got a nasty inter muscle injection on Friday which I'm not looking forward to so may be a bit delicate that day to say the least - stupid rhesus negative blood - but oh well it has to be done and as quick as they are stabbing me to put something in one end they'll be taking 4 viles of blood out of me for more random blood tests.

Next appointment is on May 25th at 9.30am so will be dragging Benjamin with me and I will be 34 weeks by then and its helpfulyl the day before Ben's birthday and in the half term. : )

Have had a money saving day today though too - looked on a mummy site and found a travel system locally that is cream inside and a shiny midnight navy blue outside but it comes with pram, car seat, auto click car base (to be kept in car) foot muff and rain cover and the woman wants £50 for it so spoken nicely to my mummy who will go and have a look at it for me and if it looks good she'll collect it for me too and I'll give her her £50 back when I next see her but I thought that was a good bargain - emailed woman to say I'm interested and am waiting for more pictures to be sent to me now. :D:D:D:D

Whats the mummy site you have been looking on?I am intersted!

Thanks

sammy_kaye18

rolo polo - the mummy site is https://www.netmums.com
:T

BigMummaF

One year, around beginning of November, the Offspring had been dispatched up to bed & I sat waiting for the news that cam on at 9pm then. Not quite sure why I wanted to see it but still--it's not important to the story. I'd turned the volume down a little as one of the bedrooms is over the lounge, but then heard one of the drawers under my bed being opened.
I managed to creep up the stairs & look thru the bannister, to see the youngest--maybe 8--on point duty at my bedroom door & the other two using a bike lamp to see what was in there. I couldn't help smiling & had to bite my sleeve to prevent my hiding place being discovered as they struggled to close the drawer.
I then made out I was going up to collect some washing & boy! did the three of them jump! On questioning "just what do you think you're doing!" they sheepishly admitted they were looking for the posh crisps & snacks they suspected were hidden away for crimbo Other kids would be looking for presents but my lot have always been motivated by their bellies :rotfl:

slowandsteady_2

Hi everyone,

Congratulations Ginnyknit:j Mikey is such a lovely name!

Hope everyone is ok, have been MIA on MSE for a few days, have been spending too much time on Netmums (notice you're a fan also SammyKaye!) on the weight loss threads-i have lost over 3lb this week so not time wasted!

Things my end are not so brilliant unfortunately:(

Having been off sick for 5 weeks, I kind of told the GP i was ok so i could be signed back on to work, so she signed me back on (reluctantly) but i have had to give in and confess to dh I am far from ok to be going back to work and dont expect to be for a while:( I dont think i was ever ok to go back, had three months off sick last year with it and then took a PT post, but tried again in my own role since Jan this year. I have really tried. I spent 5 hours crying to him on Friday night about how i am and the effects its having on me, i have been too scared to say anything really because i am the one in our house who sorts everything out, iykwim, and the one who is always strong and has the answers, but i cant do it anymore, i need someone to look after me for a while.

So we had a good chat and we have decided-

dh is a SAHD at the moment, has been since having dd

so

-i am going to be a SAHM and he is going back to work
-i am going back to GP this week, to explain again how i am and get some more help, and another sicknote-as the GP wanted me too
-i am going to leave my job and either take a job i was half and half about or if dh finds something, do a few hours a week with a care agency.The new post i was offered is FT but much less responsible and , just, nice if dh cant get anything. Im ony waiting for the relevant checks as far as i know. I have to wait for a criminal records check, that takes ages, been about 6 weeks now. I havent had my copy yet so i assume they havent either. Will give them a ring soon i think.

It will be hard at first as it is a complete change for us really after the last 16 months or so since dd came along. But i really cant carry on the way things are with myself. Hubby is a 7.5 ton lorry driver and should find work easily and is going to agencies tomorrow.

I just have one worry i dont know if anyone will know about. Either way i can not function in my job (i should probably explain im a qualified nurse and can not knowingly work when unwell, i can be struck off and also obviously dont want to put patients at risk, hence why i am doing this) and i cant stay off sick for the duration, so if i was to hand in my notice and for some reason the job i have as a back up doesnt happen and dh doesnt get any work, and we end up both being unemployed, will the benefits people sanction us if we end up in that position and have to sign on?
I am terrified that they will say i have willingly and unnecessarily left a perfectly good job and therefore would have no right to help. I dont forsee this happening but still...Saying that i suppose i will still be off sick as GP has already said i require about 6-12 months treatment before i can consider coming off it. Therefore i suppose i would have to claim sickness benefits?

I do worry but i can help it. All i know is i am not well enough to do my job and i cant help that. I know i would rather not do harm to one of my patients because im not fit to work.

So there we go. I know people will think im daft, believe me i think that too sometimes but i know its for the best.

I will shut up now, i dont half go on!

Thanks for listening x

Floss

slowandsteady wrote: »

.....I just have one worry i dont know if anyone will know about.

Why not ask either the RCN or CAB for advice? Or even consider being signed off long-term sick, offering to be finished up in your current post for incapacity?

Rummer

slowandsteady wrote: »

Saying that i suppose i will still be off sick as GP has already said i require about 6-12 months treatment before i can consider coming off it. Therefore i suppose i would have to claim sickness benefits?

I am unsure as to the benefits situation however I would certainly take a trip to the CAB. If you are unwell then you have to follow the advice of medical professionals. Try not to worry about the situation you are in, find out about benefits, what your DH could do work wise and when you have all the info then make your decision.

It is so important to take care of your health so you can be there for your DH and DD. Thinking of you

ginnyknit

Thanks to all for the congrats, feel a little odd at the mo, guess its shock! Ive never had a full term baby myself nor had a regular birth so it was quite scary. Being Dd's birth partner was very exciting and I got to cut the cord:eek: Anyway both home now and we are a bit on the crowded side but will manage, also short of cash for a few days but well stocked up. I just need to get out of the house with Dh tomorrow as I have been on labour duty all last week and not been out except to hospital. Now her soldier boy is home for the week so he can give me a break - no complaints from him, he is a natural!

Slowandsteady best thing you did was talking about your struggle now you can start working out whats best for you and the family. I know how difficult it is when you are the one that copes and gets on with it but sometimes you need to come clean - I did when I was trying to work and travel for 60 odd hours a week and look after Dh when he first became ill. When I finished work to care for him I was quite ill myself due to my job and we decided to live the best way for both of us. So for a year we slept when Dh could ( 3 hours a night if we were lucky) cooked in bulk so we could just pull a meal out of the freezer and rested when we needed. Now we are doing ok and with the help of Mse saving a bomb:j

kidcat

Just wanted to send hugs to slowandsteady - take care

BigMummaF

I can relate to the pressure of always being the strong one while holding down a job & raising a family. Even while the Offsprings father was here, it was me who had to keep an eye on the household finances & make sure things were sorted. When he walked I guess I was lucky in respect that I already knew what was what, but now the kids are grown I can't help feeling it should be MY time.
Now tho, my octogenarian mother relies on me for virtually everything. OK--she still lives in her own home & doesn't have any help--but that doesn't stop the phone calls & checking my diary to see what appointment comes next. My youngest suffered terribly during school years & has taken 10 years to gain any sort of confidence & relies on me to keep them organised. Ditto No2 during a very difficult time taking on the Benefits system following extensive medical intervention for a back issue--absolutely useless with doctors appointments [just like Grandma :whistle:] so mum has to trail along too.
No1 is in full time employment at the moment, but is dyslexic so the phone will go & I need to know how to spell obscure terminology in a split second _pale_ So no--Life is never dull here, but just every now & again, I wish it were