Help with 10 year old son please

moggylover

Steph998 wrote: »

Hi

I think what you are describing is totally normal for his age and the onset of puberty. My son was very similar. It's the transition between real childhood and the next stage...the mind maybe matures quicker than the body in some children.

My son is now nearly 18, and says he can remember being troubled about lots of things at that age...the reality of life 'hits' around about then. Horrible things we all have to deal with.... like the finality of death, the fear of losing someone close to them, wars..all the horrible things on the news. Not to mention more ordinary worries like secondary school, and all the mundane things in life. My son didn't want to talk about any of it fear of looking silly, or worrying me. I remember he stopped being interested in some of the the things he loved before ( whats that poem or verse about 'time to put away childhood things') and just started to change his habits. Watching more TV, more computer games etc.

I think in part it is natures way of preparing US too, for the changes in our children as they grow and become less dependent on us. My son was always a sensitive little soul....I could never bear the thought of him being hurt or upset and I tried to protect him all the time. (I probably still do if you seem my other threads!) But...when they start to change from this little angel you adore, into a monosylabic, grunting gorilla you still adore but feel less inclined to protect....you know it is time let them go a little.

I have never seen such a dramatic change in anyone as I did with my son between the ages of about 11 - 17.

That's how I see it anyway. I just wish I could take my own advice!

The "grunting gorilla" is DS1 - and this was what I was expecting tbh - it is the fact that DS2 is often so sad and clingy that I was worrying about:o - but it has helped so much that others have had the same thing with the onset of puberty.

He has always been a very deep thinker, with a VERY kind heart and soft nature, so I suppose it is to be expected that as he brings more "adult" thought to the things that worry him (saving the World:eek: , children starving in 3rd World Countries:eek: , and what to have for Christmas and whether Santa really exists:D ) he will find that harder, just as I did at his age (I had to dig hard for the memories and talk to my Aunt but I remember that I was quiet and sad around puberty and not grunty and bad tempered like his big brother (always knew he took after his dad;) ).

Thanks again all - your comments have really helped!