Benefit help needed

SomeBozo

candygirl wrote: »

I think she was clear, in her second post where she explained why she changed some minor details to avoid recognition by people who she knows read this forum.
Is that so wrong? when someone needs help like this, in such a traumatic situation, why do you feel the need to challenge her?
She's asked for help in post 1 and has been given it and post 2, and has explained her situation as to why she changed minor details to avoid recognition on other threads. :rolleyes: :rolleyes:
I'm caring for my Dad who has terminal cancer at the moment, the pressure is immense, and I can only imagine what she is going through right now:o

On the "Benefits" board we are all here to give our free time and advice. We do it because we want to and we want to help people.

I feel that we (as in the helpers) have a responsibility to foster a culture of openess and honesty. There are too many comments like "Why didn't I just say I was single etc" on this board.

I feel that where this is apparant, it should be challenged. The OP starts off contradicting herself on being a only child and whether her father is alive or not (both changed add to her case, notice that?)

While her personal circs are certainly distressing, and a white lie on this board is no big deal, out there in the benefit office these "minor details" are a big deal. It can lead to all kinds of trouble.

Best case would be another distressing post from the OP about having to pay benefits she was not enetitled to, or worst case prison.

Is it really that bad to point that out?

Bozo

Pssst

Can i just say that there is no guarantee that life is easy. I expect that we could all claim to have suffered varying states of depression. Its part of lifes ebb and flow of emotion and you just have to deal with it. The way not to deal with it is to run up the white flag,hang your boots up and give up. Now then, i have never been out of work,i get depressed sometimes just like anyone else,i get IBS,have a knackered back etc etc but i carry on because there is nothing else to do. Get on or go under...thats it,simple.

alba37

I think I'm just not accustomed to the "benefits board."

I read the OP as a girl at rock bottom in a tragic situation asking for advice. I find it hard to understand what difference it makes whither someone has family around them or not. It doesn't change the fact she is finding it very difficult to cope and is therefore seeking advice.

Oldernotwiser

alba37 wrote: »

I think I'm just not accustomed to the "benefits board."

I read the OP as a girl at rock bottom in a tragic situation asking for advice. I find it hard to understand what difference it makes whither someone has family around them or not. It doesn't change the fact she is finding it very difficult to cope and is therefore seeking advice.

Well, she's not just asking for advice, is she? She's asking for money as well and is already committing benefit fraud.

It's always suspicious when people change their stories to make their situations more worthy of sympathy and it often seems as if they're using these boards as a try out before they offer up their story to the authorities. This may not be the case here, but having a history of giving different facts on other threads ( father dead, only child, sister's daughter pregnant, etc) sets all my alarm bells ringing.

Sorry, I'm getting cynical in my old age!

hazeyjewel

Ok looking at it now I was daft to try and disguise my identity, in previous threads.I have already explained why I did it in this thread, and I wasn't claiming JSA under false pretences, I was willing to work in any job, and have only been claiming it for a very short time.I have been to see my Dr today who has agreed that I am unfit for work, and has signed me off.
I have also rung the benefit agency up for advice on claiming IB and they agree that I should.
Thanks for your help and support on here, I made an error in trying to disguise my identity for very good reasons, but there is no way I would ever be fraudulent with the DWP.
I always thought I could keep on keeping on, but at the moment I have hit rock bottom, and luckily my Dr knows me, knows my family and medical history, and can make a decision without judging me:o
Thanks candy girl and alba for your support, and thanks anyone else for the benefit advice:o

alba37

I felt "....and am wondering about the possibilty of being able to claim incapacity benefit or sick benefit" Was asking advice?

I wouldn't have said she was knowingly committing benefit fraud as many people don't know the benefit system and what is available for them. It can take someone months to even open a letter with stress/anxiety/depression, so I don't think it can be uncommon not be on top of claiming correct benefits. I would have thought health would come in to consideration when prosecuting for benefit fraud? (should it ever go that far)

HJ will now see the posts advising she should not be on JSA and I am sure she will take steps to check what she is entitled to and claim whatever benefits she should be on.

alba37

hazeyjewel wrote: »

Ok looking at it now I was daft to try and disguise my identity, in previous threads.I have already explained why I did it in this thread, and I wasn't claiming JSA under false pretences, I was willing to work in any job, and have only been claiming it for a very short time.I have been to see my Dr today who has agreed that I am unfit for work, and has signed me off.
I have also rung the benefit agency up for advice on claiming IB and they agree that I should.
Thanks for your help and support on here, I made an error in trying to disguise my identity for very good reasons, but there is no way I would ever be fraudulent with the DWP.
I always thought I could keep on keeping on, but at the moment I have hit rock bottom, and luckily my Dr knows me, knows my family and medical history, and can make a decision without judging me:o
Thanks candy girl and alba for your support, and thanks anyone else for the benefit advice:o

Ops, hadn't seen your reply when I posted. Thanks for the update, just work through things one at a time, getting your benefits sorted out will be one less stress/worry.


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Oldernotwiser

I'm sorry, when you say "I recently had to give up my job to look after my Mum ", it doesn't to me sit with "I was willing to work in any job".

Maybe it's just me!

SomeBozo

I can't see the point in trying to disguise yourself when you are posting from the same account name! All your posts are one click away.

I see you now have a brother and a sister.

Bit different from a "only child".

Despite it all I wish you luck, its just easier to help if you have all the facts straight.

Bozo

candygirl

SomeBozo wrote: »

I can't see the point in trying to disguise yourself when you are posting from the same account name! All your posts are one click away.

I see you now have a brother and a sister.

Bit different from a "only child".

Despite it all I wish you luck, its just easier to help if you have all the facts straight.

Bozo

Read post 26 in way of an explanation, and give the girl a break for gods sake:rolleyes: :rolleyes:
I was going to ask for some benefit help for my Mum and Dad but wont now, I can't take on any additional stress:o
bye:o .