Benefit help needed

candygirl

SomeBozo wrote: »

Please be clear when explaining your situation!

Bozo

I think she was clear, in her second post where she explained why she changed some minor details to avoid recognition by people who she knows read this forum.
Is that so wrong? when someone needs help like this, in such a traumatic situation, why do you feel the need to challenge her?
She's asked for help in post 1 and has been given it and post 2, and has explained her situation as to why she changed minor details to avoid recognition on other threads. :rolleyes: :rolleyes:
I'm caring for my Dad who has terminal cancer at the moment, the pressure is immense, and I can only imagine what she is going through right now:o

alba37

HJ

Just wanted to say I'm really sorry to read of the sad situation you are in just now. At times like this life is really hard and any constructive advice is helpful. I've been in a similar situation, so I understand how you feel, believe me, you will get through it. I don't know how we do, but we do.

As Healy said, claim IB, and make sure you claim AA/DLA for your mum under special rules. Talking to welfare rights would probably help.

My thoughts are with you & Candygirl too.

A x

candygirl

healy wrote: »

So your Mum has MS as well?

Also I have just realised you said your Dad was dead and now you have deleted it. I think it was pretty sick to say that and then strange to delete it whatever youre problems.

where's she said that?How do you know she's deleted it? I appreciate you're trying to help and have given excellent advice in post 2.I doubt hazey will want to come back if you keep up with this.She has told you why she changed some facts in her other thread.If you think she's sick.lying that's fine, but can you not see that regardless she has enough on her plate right now:rolleyes:
Hazey please ring welfare rights today, and please come back and let us know how you get on :A

alba37

candygirl wrote: »

where's she said that?How do you know she's deleted it? I appreciate you're trying to help and have given excellent advice in post 2.I doubt hazey will want to come back if you keep up with this.She has told you why she changed some facts in her other thread.If you think she's sick.lying that's fine, but can you not see that regardless she has enough on her plate right now:rolleyes:
Hazey please ring welfare rights today, and please come back and let us know how you get on :A

Exactly that was what I was trying to say too. All other details are minor when you have someone (you love) very ill.

If you can't give support in a sad situation such as this, then surely it's better not to comment.

Oldernotwiser

alba37 wrote: »

HJ


As Healy said, claim IB, and make sure you claim AA/DLA for your mum under special rules. Talking to welfare rights would probably help.

I'm my husband's carer and, like many other carers, I take anti depressants. However, that doesn't mean that I'd be eligible for IB, even if I wanted to apply for it. As I said before, caring for someone, even if stressful, and being eligible for IB are totally separate issues!

candygirl

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

I'm my husband's carer and, like many other carers, I take anti depressants. However, that doesn't mean that I'd be eligible for IB, even if I wanted to apply for it. As I said before, caring for someone, even if stressful, and being eligible for IB are totally separate issues!

I see what you mean , but I think the history of depression, depending on the severity could make a difference.
Let's hope she gets the help she needs, as too many people don't:(

alba37

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

I'm my husband's carer and, like many other carers, I take anti depressants. However, that doesn't mean that I'd be eligible for IB, even if I wanted to apply for it. As I said before, caring for someone, even if stressful, and being eligible for IB are totally separate issues!

Of course they are 2 separate issues, HJ has said she doesn't know how much longer she can cope, she feels rock bottom. IMHO she is eligible to claim IB, then her application will be considered. How can we know if she will get it or not?

I don't know much about benefits, but I can see HJ needs help and advice. That's what she was asking for. Along with advice here, talking to CAB or Welfare rights will help her get the correct information and guidance.

Oldernotwiser

Well, my advice was that she shouldn't be claiming JSA when she's not eligible for it, so that's relevant as well!

alba37

Yes, I know you gave advice, I didn't say or think you didn't.

healy

candygirl wrote: »

where's she said that?How do you know she's deleted it? I appreciate you're trying to help and have given excellent advice in post 2.I doubt hazey will want to come back if you keep up with this.She has told you why she changed some facts in her other thread.If you think she's sick.lying that's fine, but can you not see that regardless she has enough on her plate right now:rolleyes:
Hazey please ring welfare rights today, and please come back and let us know how you get on :A

She said in her first post her Father was dead. In another thread she says she helps her Father look after her Mother who has MS. She later deleted the part about her Father being dead. You can see her post has been edited. I wish I had quoted the original post but others saw it too.

She did lie and that is a fact and yes I do think it is sick to say youre Father is dead when he is not, whatever the circumstances.