How did you teach your kids to wipe themselves properly after going to the loo ??

Mics_chick

galvanizersbaby wrote: »

I can 2nd this one! - my sister's OH works for a drainage firm and it is very common to be called to a baby wipe incident! :eek:

I can 3rd it (if there is such a thing ???) coz I was staying at my in-laws earlier this year and the toilet didn't flush properly - the water drained away but it didn't take the toilet paper with it...
Luckily they had some sort of home emergency cover with their house insurance so they called someone out.
When he had a look he said that it was almost completely blocked from the manhole at the front to the bathroom at the back - a distance of about 30ft and it was ALL baby wipes :eek:
The thing is this only happened at the beginning of this year and they had only moved in the previous November.
The drainage guy said that it had probably taken at least a couple of years to get like that coz it was SO compacted therefore it must've been the previous owners :rolleyes2
My in-laws were just lucky that they didn't have to pay for the work it took to clear it out...

Nicki

Hi ZZiggi

Can't give chapter and verse as my DD didn't have this input, but AFAIK it involves being taught the skills of wiping a sticky mess off difficult to reach areas on a model (not a bum shaped one!) and also the skill of knowing when something is clean, then when this is mastered transferring that knowledge into the toilet situation.

However if your son can do this at home, it suggests there is maybe an issue with the toilet itself at school rather than his skills. Sounds like he is maybe rushing to get out of the toilet, which could be either because he doesn't like the environment or because he wants to get back to what he was doing. Or could be an issue with the toilet paper - different texture, colour, toilet roll dispenser than what he's used to. You might need to do a site visit to see if you can work it out!

Good luck

mum2one

Zziggi wrote: »

This is a useful thread as I am having the same probs but with my DS who is 6!! When he was toilet trained we did everything you lot have wrote in the earlier posts. Then he started school and he comes home in a real mess ALL THE TIME. He does suffer from diahorrea a lot (which apparently a lot of ASD kids do) but his pants are always in a right mess. I have tried telling him again how do sort himself out at school, DH has tried repeatedly too but we just don;t knwo what to do. I am absolutely loathed to mention it to the school because (a) it is embarrassing and (b) i am not sure what they could do about it.

Any suggestions (please!!)

Might not be much help, but with dd we have put a clean pair of knickers in her pe bag, there in a little purse, just incase of emergencies. xx

galvanizersbaby

You are right. He has a bath most nights to keep him "fresh" downstairs. He manages to use the loo to "expell" but anything left on his backside ends up on his pants. I am sure he often doesn;t even try and wipe. He doesn't smell (at the minute) but without his nightly baths then it might cause a problem. Apart from embarrassment, the reason i haven't mentioned it earlier to school is that i thought it would draw attention to his needs if i mentioned it and i thought he would master bum-wiping himself sooner.

I don't think this is an uncommon problem in 6 year old boys tbh!
My son often comes home with skid marks on his pants (I am giggling now - how childish of me!):o
I spoke to some of his friends mum's (don't ask it was on the back of a poo type conversation) and quite a few of them confirmed that they had the same problem.
I know in my son's case this is due to lazy ars*d itus :mad:

jackomdj

galvanizersbaby wrote: »

I don't think this is an uncommon problem in 6 year old boys tbh!

sorry I think you did a typo...... it should say I don't think this is a problem in males!!!!!

Nicky :rotfl:

Woodyrocks

We started off on wet wipes before moving to tissue. I kinda scare-monged (!) Woody by telling her that you can catch horrific diseases if you don't clean your bum properly and that it HAS to be from front to back!

Milford_Cubicle

I wonder if it's worth popping a travel size pack of moist loo paper into their school bag and if they know they're going to the toilet to have a poo, to collect the packet from their bag on the way past?
Or making a travel size pack, putting a couple of wipes into a small food bag?

andyrules

Yup, what they all said, wipes, checking, baths (we also had blocked manhole due to wipe overload, try wrapping them in tissue and putting in a lined bin (empty very often!).
They all get it in the end, but what I REALLY would like to know is how, despite training hard between the age 2-18 , can you get the bu**ars to PUT THE LID DOWN?!!;)

Mics_chick

Milford_Cubicle wrote: »

I wonder if it's worth popping a travel size pack of moist loo paper into their school bag and if they know they're going to the toilet to have a poo, to collect the packet from their bag on the way past?
Or making a travel size pack, putting a couple of wipes into a small food bag?

Good idea Milford great minds think alike but I beat you too it...:p

Mics_chick wrote: »

Zziggi have you tried sending him to school with some wipes in a plastic bag or something he can put in his pocket ???
Sorry if this is a stupid idea but I don't have any experience of ASD kids but I just wanted to suggest it in case it helped

Savvy_Sue

Zziggi wrote: »

Toileting needs is something else to stick on the list to bring up at parents' evening. Gosh they're gonna love me with my long list of things i want to discuss.....

TBH, I wouldn't wait until parents' evening, even if it's soon. Because it's not always that confidential a setting, and even it is, you usually only get 5 minutes!

I would phone and say something like "I know there is a parents' evening soon, but I do have a number of things I would like to discuss with you in confidence regarding little Z's ASD (or whatever), and I think it may take more than a few minutes. Do you think we could make an appointment next week please?"

If you think he does need some extra help at school, then you might want to ask if the SENCO could be involved too.

What we've never mastered is the 'wipe and fold and wipe again' technique, or any sense of economy. So one of my sons pulls off a yard of paper, wraps it around his fingers, waves it at his rear end, and drops it down the toilet. Then he pulls off another yard, and repeats the process. Again and again and again ... He was blocking the toilet so regularly that I threatened to make him do his work experience with a plumber!

Yup, that's right, work experience. He's a teenager. Sorry to depress you, but if nothing else let that encourage you to get this right while he's young! I may have tried to rush things because I was just fed up of wiping bums, but he was also extremely reluctant to learn!