Can I complain about Daughter's Driving Test?

Inactive

beachbeth wrote: »

I think everyone on here has decided that its just sour grapes on my part because she failed her test. Well, the DSA agreed on the phone that something went wrong on her test day which is why they are looking into it for me to see why she wasn't treated as a special needs.

Can your Daughter not use the telephone to call the DSA herself? .. She was the person involved at the end of the day, not you.

You are only going on what she has told you.

beachbeth

katiekittykat wrote: »

Please don't think i am being rude but i really don't understand what special needs your dd has? can she just not tell left from right?

This is a quote from a speech and language website and it sort of sums up her problem:

Receptive language is a child's understanding of the information she receives-through spoken, signed (if she is deaf), or written communication. An example of receptive language is when after being asked, "Where's the kitty?" a young child looks around and points to the family's cat. Expressive language is a child's ability-through words, sign language, gestures, or by written word-to communicate with other people.
Its a communication problem. She could see the headline "Pope's Death Shakes the World" and would think the Pope was killed by an earthquake. Its very hard to explain to people with no experience of it except to say that it is like Dyslexia except she has problems with the spoken word and not the written.

Even though she is 18, I have to go with her to the doctors or any other similar appointments because she can never understand a word they are saying and I have to explain afterwards to her what they meant!

Inactive, apart from the fact that she is at college all day and doesn't really have time to phone the DSA herself, she finds it hard to explain things to people.

katiekittykat

beachbeth wrote: »

This is a quote from a speech and language website and it sort of sums up her problem:

Receptive language is a child's understanding of the information she receives-through spoken, signed (if she is deaf), or written communication. An example of receptive language is when after being asked, "Where's the kitty?" a young child looks around and points to the family's cat. Expressive language is a child's ability-through words, sign language, gestures, or by written word-to communicate with other people.
Its a communication problem. She could see the headline "Pope's Death Shakes the World" and would think the Pope was killed by an earthquake. Its very hard to explain to people with no experience of it except to say that it is like Dyslexia except she has problems with the spoken word and not the written.

Even though she is 18, I have to go with her to the doctors or any other similar appointments because she can never understand a word they are saying and I have to explain afterwards to her what they meant!

Inactive, apart from the fact that she is at college all day and doesn't really have time to phone the DSA herself, she finds it hard to explain things to people.

Ok thanks for the explaination - i wasn't being rude i just wasn't sure what you meant.

xx

Inactive

beachbeth wrote: »

Inactive, apart from the fact that she is at college all day and doesn't really have time to phone the DSA herself, she finds it hard to explain things to people.

Well perhaps she should write in to the DSA then giving a full explanation of how things happened, or didn't, I am sure they will take more notice of a letter from herself, rather than a phone call from you.

beachbeth

Inactive wrote: »

Well perhaps she should write in to the DSA then giving a full explanation of how things happened, or didn't, I am sure they will take more notice of a letter from herself, rather than a phone call from you.

She doesn't need to though! Ive already phoned on her behalf and they have explained how to take it further. They are now looking into it for us so why does my daughter need to write? Its already ongoing.

lauren_1

So her special needs is taking things too litterally?

If she cannot understand simple instructions then she should not drive despite how good you think she is? If she is asked to drive a hundred yards and then continue over a
roundabout, would she do it?

beachbeth

lauren_1 wrote: »

So her special needs is taking things too litterally?

If she cannot understand simple instructions then she should not drive despite how good you think she is? If she is asked to drive a hundred yards and then continue over a
roundabout, would she do it?

I can see what you mean, but no. She has a language problem (it is a literal thing) but she is quite bright (dyslexic people used to be thought of as stupid but it doesn't follow!). I could even say "pull out in front of that lorry" or "continue forward over the cliff" and she wouldn't do it! She actually drives a lot more safely than my other daughter when she passed her test! She is sensible but just needs a bit longer to digest what she is told than someone else might. Believe me, I wouldn't let her out on the road if I thought she was a danger to anyone else or herself! I'd rather pay for taxis the rest of her life if I thought she couldn't do it!!! I love her too much to risk losing her. I have said to her on many occasions "go straight over the next roundabout" and she knows she has to slow down, give way from the right and stop if there is anything coming.

If you met her you wouldn't even be able to tell she was special needs. She has a sense of humour and is like any other teenager.

Reggie_Rebel

sturll wrote: »

What woman doesn't need things 'explained clearly and concisely' to them?

None of them, they all know everything

lauren_1

Is the speical needs actually diagnosed or are you assuming there is something wrong ??

Many people cannot tell the difference between left and right instantly or when pressured, i faff aound doing weird things trying to make L shapes which is pointless when you are dsyslexic as it makes no sense that way either.

I cracked it by buying a bright red bangle to wear on my right wrist, then when ever i heard the word Right, just had to think 'right is red' it takes time but it may help.

Is it just the Left and Right thing or is there more to it?

beachbeth

lauren_1 wrote: »

Is the speical needs actually diagnosed or are you assuming there is something wrong ?

She was medically assessed when she was about 3 by doctors, psychologists, speech therapists, physiotherapists etc and I was told she had a speech and language problem. She was given a Statement of Special Educational Need, which is a legal document that means that the school she goes to has to provide certain things for her. She went to normal schools but with a speech and language unit attached.