Opinions please on nannying situation

bestpud

Just in case she comes to her senses, have a think about what you are prepared to accept.

Are you prepared to stay if she pays you for the morning for example, and if so, how would you feel is she asked you to pick up some shopping/dry cleaning/whatever for her (because she is paying you :rolleyes: ). I can see it happening quite easily...

Or would you like a pay rise (I would in your position) and paying for the morning?

If you are clear in your head then it will be easier to negotiate, if it comes to that.

Great she is as concerned with her house being cleaned as she is her dd being properly looked after isn't it? :eek: Cheeky mare is thinking she can condense both jobs into one now her dd is at nursery!

Have a look at some ads for the area and see what the going rate is for someone with the same experience as you. I think you'll find she is getting a very good deal! I'm pretty sure she already knows this too!

MrsTinks

Definitely don't let her get away with it... the question that really weighs on my mind is IS she paying your NI and tax??? You're now an experienced nanny - go and find a better paid position! £6 an hour is what I might expect to pay for a live in nanny if I provided her with a car for her use and all her meals... NOT a live out nanny!

Rachel85

It all depends whether you want to stay working for her or not. You don't say whether you hold formal nannying qualifications?

Before you hand in your notice, find out how much similar childcare would cost in your area and what arrangements they have in place regarding when children are at nursery, holidays, sick pay, parents being late home, etc. etc. It would be good grounds to ask for a payrise and more reasonable terms. If she says no, then hand in your notice and you've lost nothing.

londonlass001

It sounds like you've made up your mind about giving in your notice? I just wondered whether it might be helpful to think about how this situation came into being so you can avoid it next time round?

It sounds like you had some discussions about the beginning about how it would work but you were equally responsible for the lack of contract. Did you subsequently find it difficult to ask her for the money owed for trips and stuff? To be fair to your friend/employer, she may have just forgotten about it/ assumed you were happy taking her child out or equally she might be trying to get away with something for nothing :rolleyes:. I just sense that maybe a situation has developed where she made assumptions about things and you didn't say anything but quietly fumed!! How is she to know that you are unhappy if you haven't said so? Maybe you have said something but I couldn't see that in your posts.

I would suggest you learn from this as, I might be wrong but, it sounds like you might be as lacking in assertiveness. You say that the child has already started nursery? So have you already put in place this new arrangement? It could salvageable but i get the feeling you want to avoid the confrontation?
I appreciate why it might be easier to just up and leave rather than rock the boat after all this time. If that's the way you go, just learn from it and don't be afraid of being firm in future. As others have said, good childcare can be hard to find and being clear will save you stress in the long term

Good luck

Debt_Free_Chick

Just an observation .... do you have to give her one month's notice? It's just that you mentioned you had no contract. If there is no agreement over notice, then you don't have to give any - although, it would be a decent thing to do so.

LondonDiva

look for another job: www.netmums.com

hermoine_2

My daughter is paid £8.50 per hour as a live out nanny.

I have to say that she has been qualified for a few years and has had a few jobs but they all seem to end up the same. The parents want to load more and more on to her for the same money. Then they start to make conditions about what she can do with the children. She has been told by one parent that she must stay home and paint and cook and read. Then the other parent in the same family will say why don't you go out more!

You need a contract which says exactly what you are doing and for how many hours. Get a book or get work through an agency who will assist you with your contract etc.

Good Luck
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markelock

irrespective of the mum taking advantage, I think the month's notice at least gives the little one some time to adjust.

shame when children are involved, but you would appear to be underpaid by some margin. odd how come parents don't attach any value to their most precious things.

I couldn't do it for double that to be honest. very difficult job.

margaretclare

You should be paid for the on-call time i.e. when the child is at nursery. If the little one is taken ill/falls over, whatever, it will be you who gets called in, not the mother. You should be paid for this.

You should be regarding yourself as a skilled professional, not just as a dogsbody employed only on a casual basis. You HAVE got a contract - a verbal contract is just as much a contract as one on paper. Your employer is the one who is moving the goalposts. I don't know of any other professional who doesn't get paid for on-call time!

Rachie_B

MrsTine wrote: »

Definitely don't let her get away with it... the question that really weighs on my mind is IS she paying your NI and tax??? You're now an experienced nanny - go and find a better paid position! £6 an hour is what I might expect to pay for a live in nanny if I provided her with a car for her use and all her meals... NOT a live out nanny!

exactly what my first thought was !