some advice please my ex threw out his 17 years old son where can he go?

seven-day-weekend

Sleep on the OP's sofa while she helps him to find a room in a shared house.

Or the OP and her daughter could bunk up together for a while and he could have the girl's room until he has found somewhere. I personally don't see why the girl can't give up her room if it is explained to her as helping someone and especially if it is only temporary.

Oldernotwiser

This young man is NOT a relative of the OP's and she has no responsibility for him! How many people would want their 6 year old daughter sharing a room with a 17 year old male who isn't related to them? As the young man in question may also be violent, the absurdity of this suggestion increases dramatically. Any suggestion that this would only be temporary implies that there's an easy answer to the situation which there really isn't; she could be stuck with him for years.

seven-day-weekend

ONW, I don't think most people have suggested they share a room. I certainly haven't.

Why can it not be temporary? It won't take him long to get a room in a shared house? The OP suggests that he does have a job.

Oldernotwiser

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

ONW, I don't think most people have suggested they share a room. I certainly haven't.

Why can it not be temporary? It won't take him long to get a room in a shared house? The OP suggests that he does have a job.

Bunk beds have been suggested, as has her daughter "bunking in " with him. (Not by you, I know.) Even having a problematic young man sharing the house seems a worrying situation to me. As the lad in question only works 3 days a week, the chances of his being able to afford rent elsewhere seem to be very slim.

I just can't see why everybody seems to think that the OP has responsibilities here, over and above those of any relatives he might have.

DigitalJedi

ClareEmily wrote: »

I hate people that don't take the time to read the original post properly

My sincere apologies for making a mistake in misreading the post. Personally I hate people who can't understand that people make mistakes but there you go.

ClareEmily

DigitalJedi wrote: »

My sincere apologies for making a mistake in misreading the post. Personally I hate people who can't understand that people make mistakes but there you go.

I will accept your heartfelt apologises

I accept that we all make mistakes, but to misread something, agree with another poster even if it is wrong, then not to backtrack to say actually sorry didn't mean what I put, well that is just rudeeeee.

seven-day-weekend

The lodger in my house in the UK works around 20-24 hours a week and he rents a room (all inclusive of bills) in my house and has done so for 18 months, so something like this should be easily available to this young man.

Try https://www.easyroommate.com and search for lodgings in the town he wishes to live. I bet he could get one today.

katiepoppycat

It's a few years ago now, but my parens got to the end of their tether with m then 17 yo brother they told the council they would not house him and they found him a flat very quickly. He was working but on day release to college.

Everything is good now, it was better for everyone for him to have his own space. hope you get everything sorted out OP.

Oldernotwiser

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

The lodger in my house in the UK works around 20-24 hours a week and he rents a room (all inclusive of bills) in my house and has done so for 18 months, so something like this should be easily available to this young man.

Try www.easyroommate.com and search for lodgings in the town he wishes to live. I bet he could get one today.

I hope you're right but don't forget how much lower minimum wage is for a 17 year old. He might only be bringing in £70 per week.

seven-day-weekend

I think in that case he may be eligible for Housing Benefit as long as he goes for lodgings .