some advice please my ex threw out his 17 years old son where can he go?

pukkamum

I was under the impression it was her son?

If so i would def take him in for at least a week or two until he can sort himself out, to be honest even if he weren't my son i would do the same she obviously has a good relationship with him.

I'm sure her daughter wouldn't mind under the circumstances?

girleight@

The council has responsibility for under 18s so he needs to go down to Homelessness Advice and Prevention ASAP for an assessment. Connexions will be able to find out if he is entitled to any benefits but if he is working 3 days a week he might not be. Housing will ring his dad and ask if he can come back home and they will not house him if his dad says he can.

foreversomeday

The facilities available to him will depend on his area. Where I live we have a Young Housing Project which will house youngsters aged 16-25 with nowhere else to go.

I am not 100% sure on the rules but I believe since he is under 18 and in education he would not be expected to simply fend for himself - as you say there is no way he could afford to rent somewhere and continue his education.

Try this website: http://www.shelter.org.uk/ They are a homeless charity but their website is fantastic and outlines all the different housing options. Also homeless can mean sofa-surfing or temporarily staying with friends/family, it doesn't have to mean on the streets.

The college might also be able to house him, if they do housing for Higher Education (university level) students, so get him to speak to his form/course tutor. They would at the very least be able to point him in the right direction to get help, and it would he useful that they know the situation in case it is interfering with his college work.

This is a more specific link:
http://england.shelter.org.uk/get_advice/advice_for_young_people/leaving_in_a_hurry

It assumes you are in England, if you are in Scotland, Wales or Northerin Ireland, go to the main Shelter website and look for the "young persons" section.

Oh and this one:
Does the council have to house you? (Questionnaire/Tool)
http://england.shelter.org.uk/get_advice/downloads_and_tools/does_the_council_have_to_house_you

ClareEmily

pukkamum wrote: »

I was under the impression it was her son?

If so i would def take him in for at least a week or two until he can sort himself out, to be honest even if he weren't my son i would do the same she obviously has a good relationship with him.

I'm sure her daughter wouldn't mind under the circumstances?

I hate people that don't take the time to read the original post properly.

It is her Ex's son (as the title says) and her daughter is only 6 years old. You can not chuck a 6 year old out of her bedroom.

If the OP says she hasn't got room, then she hasn't arghhhh

mooma_2

The council will house him if his dad says he can't go back to live there. He will obv get some help with housing benefit etc too. Contact Shelter or the local Council.

Oldernotwiser

mooma wrote: »

The council will house him if his dad says he can't go back to live there. He will obv get some help with housing benefit etc too. Contact Shelter or the local Council.

Although this is technically correct, many councils are unable to help young people of this age and benefits are not available unless the estrangement is long term. You really couldn't have a system where teenagers were automatically housed and paid for every time they had a row with their parents!

In all this, nobody's mentioned the mother or other relatives; surely they have some responsibility towards this young man?

Savvy_Sue

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Although this is technically correct, many councils are unable to help young people of this age and benefits are not available unless the estrangement is long term. You really couldn't have a system where teenagers were automatically housed and paid for every time they had a row with their parents!

And I'll say it quietly, but if the lad is closer to 18 than 17 then some councils won't exactly pull their finger out to accept their responsibilities, because once he is 18 then he won't automatically be 'vulnerable'.

One thing I did pick up on though is a mention of violence. If it's just not safe for the lad to return home, that should be mentioned. Was the violence reported to police? that would strengthen case with the council, I believe.

Janepig

mooma wrote: »

The council will house him if his dad says he can't go back to live there. He will obv get some help with housing benefit etc too. Contact Shelter or the local Council.

The council will help him, but in my experience it's likely to be Bed and Breakfast accommodation.

Jxx

Oldernotwiser

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

One thing I did pick up on though is a mention of violence. If it's just not safe for the lad to return home, that should be mentioned. Was the violence reported to police? that would strengthen case with the council, I believe.

Rather depends who was violent to whom! I think I read the OP differently from the way you did.

skintas_2

what about bunk beds so he could stay at yours