Landlord trying to sue my son

clio

martin who ??

asandwhen

Zandoni wrote: »

Thanks everyone who helped, very much appreciated.

For the few who will not accept that the Boilermate is faulty and the one who doesn't believe that you should care about your family, there is no thanks.

Please now consider this thread closed. This forum is not the place I hoped it was, it probably needs moderation.

Its a shame you feel this way - I have read through the post today and you have been given some good advice when you take out the silly posters - It is easy to ignore the posters you dont need to hear from anymore.

wolfman

Captain_Mainwaring wrote: »

I'm of the opinion that a young man who was goby enough to get himself in !!!!!, should be MAN enough to be posting and asking how to get out of it.

Heh, I didn't realise posting on a forum was a way of proving your manliness these days. Next time my mates tell me to down a pint, I'll tell them I post on MSE.

But seriously, it's a father inquiring about something for his son. I don't see what there is manly to be about. He's just asking for some opinions.

Father's help their son's, it's quite a common thing.

I know you're giving advice, but let's keep it at that. There's no need to get offensive, and force your views on others.

neverdespairgirl

I don't see what is wrong with young adults getting advice and support from their parents.

When I was choosing my options at uni, deciding on my Masters' degree, getting pupillage and tenancy, I talked it over with my parents, they are worth listening to.

When my son was born, I was 28, definintely grown up. I still wanted a lot of advice from my mother. (My Dad's less helpful child-rearing advice was, "you spend 2 years teaching them to walk and talk, and then 16 teaching them to sit down and shut up").

Captain_Mainwaring_2

wolfman wrote: »

Heh, I didn't realise posting on a forum was a way of proving your manliness these days. Next time my mates tell me to down a pint, I'll tell them I post on MSE.

But seriously, it's a father inquiring about something for his son. I don't see what there is manly to be about. He's just asking for some opinions.

Father's help their son's, it's quite a common thing.

I know you're giving advice, but let's keep it at that. There's no need to get offensive, and force your views on others.

Yes, they help, they tender advice, but surely they also expect that someone who is old enough to face criminal and civil charges on their own to put themselves out just a bit?

I would expect Dad to suggest that son uses this forum for a bit of advice, even suggesting questions to put to the forum, but I wouldn't expect Dad to do all the donkey work. We can also note that Dad "sorted the boiler" (fat lot of good that did). There is a time for boys to grow up and become adult, nothing about "manliness" as you put it, but rather becoming responsible for ones actions. This may or may not include dealing with the summons and requesting forum advice without having Dad do it, and also (worth remembering this) that there can be reprocussions for opening your mouth and involving yourself in business that doesn't concern you.

Captain_Mainwaring_2

Zandoni wrote: »

Thanks Soubrette, I do wish people would stop trying to disprove the fact that there is a problem with the hot water system. I am not an idiot I know when something doesn't work.

So if we could get back to my original question as I can assure you all that there is an actual fault and the Landlord will not repair. In the first communication with him he even suggested that it was my responsibility

Quite, but by the same token you don't have enough knowledge to diagnose the problem, or indeed fix it, thus you are in the dangerous middle ground of being an informed fiddler.
You'll probably find that if you cannot work out what is wrong by looking at the I&C manual then you really shouldn't get involved or comment.

You would be amazed the number of people who find the need to"turn the heating up" when it gets cold, or fiddle around with circ water temperature in response to outside conditions, even when the have TRV's - also surprising is the number of room stats in the entrance hall of a house, exposed to drafts up the stairs and disturbed when the front door is open and possibly in direct sunlight, but that is a different story.....

Zandoni

Captain_Mainwaring wrote: »

Quite, but by the same token you don't have enough knowledge to diagnose the problem, or indeed fix it, thus you are in the dangerous middle ground of being an informed fiddler.
You'll probably find that if you cannot work out what is wrong by looking at the I&C manual then you really shouldn't get involved or comment.

You would be amazed the number of people who find the need to"turn the heating up" when it gets cold, or fiddle around with circ water temperature in response to outside conditions, even when the have TRV's - also surprising is the number of room stats in the entrance hall of a house, exposed to drafts up the stairs and disturbed when the front door is open and possibly in direct sunlight, but that is a different story.....

Try to remember this is a rented house. If It had been mine or my son's then I would have fixed it myself. The landlord in question has a very bad reputation in this area for disrepair keeping deposits etc (didn't know before he moved in). So there is no way that we are going to pay him rent and do his maintenance.

I will also stress that I have been in engineering all my life and I know when something doesn't work. I am 100% certain the boilermate is faulty amd all I ask is that you accept that.

I'd imagine that Captain Mainwaring doesn't have chidren and this has made him bitter and very selfish.

guppy

jimc wrote: »

Zandoni - Hard as it may be to accept it, the Cap'n has actually given some good advice in between the rest.

I must have missed it too!

If I'd have been looking at renting next door, I'd have been glad to have been warned off a dodgy landlord.

I'm amazed this has got so far anyway...the small claim is laughable and has no legal basis.

wolfman

Captain_Mainwaring wrote: »

Yes, they help, they tender advice, but surely they also expect that someone who is old enough to face criminal and civil charges on their own to put themselves out just a bit?

I would expect Dad to suggest that son uses this forum for a bit of advice, even suggesting questions to put to the forum, but I wouldn't expect Dad to do all the donkey work. We can also note that Dad "sorted the boiler" (fat lot of good that did). There is a time for boys to grow up and become adult, nothing about "manliness" as you put it, but rather becoming responsible for ones actions. This may or may not include dealing with the summons and requesting forum advice without having Dad do it, and also (worth remembering this) that there can be reprocussions for opening your mouth and involving yourself in business that doesn't concern you.

I can understand the point you're trying to get across, and it is an important point. Children need to learn independence. But just because the son isn't posting on here, doesn't mean he's not doing anything. That's an assumption you're making.

MSE is just another source of information that the father is looking into obviously out of concern.

Zandoni

Thought I'd give you an update.

The landlord didn't file the allocation questionaire with the court. The court eventually gave him another seven days, but he still didn't file it so the case has been thrown out.

So all good in the end, I'll just wait now for the landlord go bankrupt, looks like he is in trouble.