help son wants to moved out of home

squinty

Rabiddog wrote: »

I think the HA/LA would allow this if the Young son had been living there all his life?

What are you basing this on?

paddy's_mum

It strikes me that the mate's mum wants her head examining. If it all goes wrong with the boyfriend that she is going to move in with, then where does she go?

The whole thing seems ill thought out to me and can only end in tears!

glitterygert

Your son and his lover??? could enter a civil partnership to ensure they both have the right to stay there?

Who said they were lovers, I think they're friends??

Chris2685

haha, that's what I was thinking. This thread is like Chinese Whispers

LandyAndy

glitterygert wrote: »

Your son and his lover??? could enter a civil partnership to ensure they both have the right to stay there?

Who said they were lovers, I think they're friends??

I think you'll find it was a joke.;)

sammyjammy

With regards to the OPs temporary housing situation I believe the way it works is if your son moves out then he becomes independent of you, its not that he isn't allowed to move back in with you it just means when they house you permanently they will not take him into account when they look at he size of the house you need, I'm surprised they did anyway to be honest given that he is 19. My brother and his girlfriend and three children were in their temporary home for 5 years so by the time you get a permanent home I'm sure your son will long ago have flown the next for good.

kj*daisy

The HA will probably offer the son of the other tenant a bedsit or 1 bed flat. They are not going to give the som a 3 bed house.

daisykinn1

Why does he have to go through the HA? He works full time. Why can't he rent normally? Am I missing something?

poppysarah

daisykinn1 wrote: »

Why does he have to go through the HA? He works full time. Why can't he rent normally? Am I missing something?

Cos his mate thinks he is getting a 3 bed place.

Ironic when the OP is homeless.

tbs624

Squinty is right - your son's mate's mother's tenancy is likely to be an assured tenancy. The mother can only assign it with the HAs consent. Many HAs have specific criteria for tenants to qualify for their properties. Step back a bit and look at this logically - families like your own who are desperate for 3 bed accomm. having to wait whilst a couple of single young men hog that 3 bed house?

The next issue would be that your son would in effect be the other lad's lodger, rather than a joint tenant. Two issues here: one, again the HA would have to give consent for this and two, your son would have little security.

But say for the sake of argument those barriers weren't there - this one is still a recipe for disaster. Your son is working and the other lad is short of money. Your son is out all day and yet will be paying 50% of the gas/elec bills etc whilst the other lads sits around at home (maybe more if the other lad is really struggling). It's one thing if a flat/housemate maybe loses their job at a later date, and manages to get back into the job market, but to move in with this as the status quo is in my opinion a recipe for disaster. The other lads benefits would be affected too by having someone with an income moving into the property.

At 19 your son is an adult, has employment and will be capable of getting into the outside world by other means: someone else has already suggested a room in a shared house.Maybe he should check out some other options before making a final decision.

As parents, we can't (and shouldn't) provide living space for our adult kids for ever so don't add in worry about how he fits back in with all of you at this stage