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help son wants to moved out of home

:eek: our son is 19 yrs old and works full time and he wants to move in with a mate
his mates mum is movin in with her boyfriend [the house is rented to her by housing assocation] the mum is having the house put in the son name its a 3 bed house
the lad my son is moving with dosent work ? where would my son stand ? council tax ect
if this goes wrong my son will not be able to move back in with us due t0 the homeless rules we have to live under ? any ideas anyone
1634 # 4 th jan £16.00 in sealed pot:j
jan grocery challange ....£200 / £8.oo
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  • You seem to be worried that it might go wrong and he'll come back home, but why is that a problem if he's been living at home all along?
    :T:j :TMFiT-T2 No.120|Challenge started 12.12.09|MFD 12.12.12 :j:T:j
  • robpw2
    robpw2 Posts: 14,044 Forumite
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    let him go , if its a mistake thats his hard cheese hes 19 hes not 19months
    be proud that you have a son who is ready and willing to face the big bad world and thats hes working


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  • whitewing
    whitewing Posts: 11,852 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 10,000 Posts Combo Breaker
    I agree to let him go, after you've nicely pointed out some pitfalls, and talked thro how to deal with any consequences.

    Better for him to learn tough lessons now than to have to learn when he is in a relationship with a family of his own.
    :heartsmil When you find people who not only tolerate your quirks but celebrate them with glad cries of "Me too!" be sure to cherish them. Because these weirdos are your true family.
  • You seem to be worried that it might go wrong and he'll come back home, but why is that a problem if he's been living at home all along?
    we live in a tempery home[homeless] and weve been told that if he moves out he will not be able to live back here , of course im worried hes 19 and i would rather he get a place of his own [hes on the houseing waiting list ]than move in with someone who is not working if his mates mum doesnt get the her tenecy moved to the sons name then and shes not living their they could be kicked out
    1634 # 4 th jan £16.00 in sealed pot:j
    jan grocery challange ....£200 / £8.oo
  • robpw2
    robpw2 Posts: 14,044 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    he will do it with or without your blessing .
    im assuming this non-working lad is getting benefits hb,council tax etc


    Slimming world start 28/01/2012 starting weight 21st 2.5lb current weight 17st 9-total loss 3st 7.5lb
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  • robpw2 wrote: »
    he will do it with or without your blessing .
    im assuming this non-working lad is getting benefits hb,council tax etc
    far as i know the lad is getting benefits ,
    1634 # 4 th jan £16.00 in sealed pot:j
    jan grocery challange ....£200 / £8.oo
  • I agree with the above.

    Let him go, let him learn, let him make mistakes.

    Cruel to be kind, but he needs to be hurt and disappointed to be more sceptical in future :)
  • robpw2
    robpw2 Posts: 14,044 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    he may make a huge success of it all ...:)


    Slimming world start 28/01/2012 starting weight 21st 2.5lb current weight 17st 9-total loss 3st 7.5lb
    Slimmer of the month February , March ,April
  • poppysarah
    poppysarah Posts: 11,522 Forumite
    He should get put on the tenancy too. But whether the HA will swap the tenancy like that is very uncertain. I suspect not.
  • Chris2685
    Chris2685 Posts: 1,212 Forumite
    19 isn't exactly young. It is hard to say, because you get mature 19 year olds and stupid ones, but I moved out of my parents home when I was 18 and it worked out fine for me. ;)
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