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Flower08

Birdie - your OH sounds exactly like mine! He is such a lads lad that romantic things dont even enter his head!
He very occasionally buys me flowers, but he has to be prompted to do so, eg valentines day, birthday or when hes really really annoyed me!
Oh well i still love him! lol

Tete_en_l'Air

My OH used to be very outspoken about how he felt about me and how great he thought I was, but it made me feel uncomfortable as we hadn't been together long and I wasn't sure how I felt. I think after a few drinks I might have said something because now he just calls me things like 'simpleton', 'wheelie bin', 'Edna off Emmerdale'... I quite like it though, am I strange?

Cinny91

Yorkshire lads are pretty sweet! Well, if you think 'Ee by gum lass you look nice' is the language of love anyways.

OHs idea of romance seems the same as yours Birdie - Although he is into the flower buying. I remember when I was 14 he randomly came over with a bunch of flowers! I'm not comfortable with PDA, or big gestures. So I'm pretty happy with the lad the way he is!

Dinah93

Hmmm well so long as I get to be first wife I guess thats okay.

I refuse to do valentines, it makes me quesy and itchy all over! Enforced romance just doesn't sit right with me.

Flower08

Tete_en_l'Air wrote: »

now he just calls me things like 'simpleton', 'wheelie bin', 'Edna off Emmerdale'... I quite like it though, am I strange?

:rotfl::rotfl:funny you should say that, my OH calls me some very random things, anyone else would be offended but it just makes me laugh

N.I.M

Birdie85 wrote: »

I think a lot of guys just don't 'get' romance. Romance to my OH is to keep me fed and warm and happy and safe. He isn't creative enough to make things or write notes, and he sadly doesn't see the point in flowers. I keep buying them for the flat but he hasn't got the hint that I like them yet! I appreciate it when he does do little things and see it as him being romantic, he'll never write poems or hire a barbershop quartet to sing a love song for me- he's a boys boy and these things just don't enter his boy brain! Bless him!

Birdie birdie birdie, that would then mean I am not a man. And I can assure you, with Dinahs full support, that I am indeed a man. Ergo your assumption is flawed therefore your whole hypothesis is wrong. Admittedly I'd love to be able to keep D fed etc also. Admittedly I'll rarely do flowers for the next while but I'll always have my little bits here and there. I've written poems etc but barbar shop Quartets are very expensive (I'm waiting for martin to give me some advice on affordable ones).

Long story short he just needs to pull up his socks and get his britbut in gear.

Birdie85

Each to their own Tete! It's what is right in your relationship, some people go for super romantic mushyness, others go for jokes and playful insults. Ours is certainly the latter! OH just doesn't know when to stop sometimes though and I get upset with him! He's such a little brother he forgets that's he's not antagonising a sibling but his girlfriend!

Dinah93

I'd get upset if I was antagonised, but I could cope with an 'odd' name. I think... maybe not... ex used to call me odd names that always seemed like thinly hidden insults when I think about it.

Tete_en_l'Air

Flower08 wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl:funny you should say that, my OH calls me some very random things, anyone else would be offended but it just makes me laugh

Exactly, and that's really important too.

Loving your use of the word 'ergo' NIM, I'm going to try to incorporate it into my everyday language more often. Also loving your misspelling of the word 'barber' as I now have a mental image of a load of singing elephants in stripy jackets and straw hats! :rotfl:

Dinah93

Your OH can't be so unromantic Birdie, he did propose, rather than waiting for you to do it or just assuming it'd happen!