Simplifying Life - Mark II

Lula-Hula

Ceridwen - not a problem ,

just didnt want pagangirl to miss out on the info that was meant for her - she may not have read it otherwise, thanks for the link & hope you're less tired now
lula

mary43

Hello all
Bit of a weak and wobbly day today -maybe did too much over the weekend, plus was up at 8am this morning (why????)............bit miffed when I got letter saying potato bags I'd ordered no longer available.......letter last week said they'd be a delay !!!:mad: Tried ringing but lines busy -expect everyones having a moan at them about it ! They're offering instead what looks like three black plastic pots (big ones) for £24 !!! Can get cheaper elsewhere !!

I'll keep trying............then I just might settle down with the radio and catch up on a few letters.

Can still do the crossword in the paper so at least I know brain still functions...........lol

meanmarie

Mary, take care of you...takes a while to recover from a nasty hospital stay.

Have been looking at transition towns and discovered that we have 3 in Ireland, including Kildare town...will see what I can find out from their site when time is more available

Marie

mary43

marie - thats what everyone, including OH, keep saying..........it's hard though not being able to do things. I did manage to wrap sons shoe box of birthday bits up for him though........doesn't sound much but to me, winning a battle with brown paper and parcel tape is a real achievement. Got some letters written as well as catching up with phone calls..........both 'sitting down' stuff..............lol

We were going to go to DIY store tomorrow to get some paint but OH can't open the boot of the car so its going to the local mechanic in the morning so that puts paid to that. Need to get the boot open to shift some rubbish out the back yard that seems to have bred...............lol

ceridwen

There's an interesting link on this on a blog I follow:

http://philipcarrgomm.wordpress.com/2009/03/25/guerilla-gardening/

includes how to make your own seed bombs....and dont forget the moneysaving angle on this - its not just flowers that one can plant (though some of them are edible, as we know) - but food.

mary43

ceridwen - interesting link.............think our garden's too full for anything else at the minute........it's getting to bursting point and a lot of thinning out needs doing.
OH has his tomato, chilli and courgette plants on order with the chap down the road who nurtures them in his greenhouse before we get them and potato barrels (well sort of canvas tubs) should be here by the weekend with 3 lots of potatos to go in. Our little veg in pots corner is about as full as it can get........or will be anyway.

I've managed to walk to the bottom of our street today (it's not far) and had my hair done !! Oh the bliss of a back basin hair wash and being pampered.......made me feel tons better and I even managed the walk back ! That's it for today though.........just a little thing like that seemed to tire me out so from now on the rest of the day is spend mainly sitting.

Parcels posted for sons birthday but OH just reminded me that Easter is only a week and a bit away:eek: Hadn't realised !! Got to finish off Easter cards and sort out something for grandchildren but think it'll have to be in cheque form instead of something I intended to 'create' for them.

But I'm thankfully getting there I think............every day seems just that little bit better. Papers to sign about Mum's flat but they can be sent to me and signed with a local solicitor here thank goodness.Big Bruv is amazingly good and understanding !! Maybe this whole thing has done something to break the barrier we always seemed to have. I do hope so.

ceridwen

Hi Mary

Well maybe some good will come out of this situation - ie things improving between you and Big Bruv...fingers crossed.

I think its not surprising that you are "at a low ebb" at the moment. What would be more surprising would be if you werent actually. Your mother had been ill, as we know, for some time ...and well...it was bound to "take it out of you". Personally - I am well aware that it will be a "danger spot" for me when my parents are no longer here....particularly my father. Because of the health problems they both have - then I will be relieved (for their sake) that they are no longer suffering. For my own sake personally - then I cant know until I am actually in that position - but I suspect it will "hit me for six". I am well aware that my father is certainly one of the few people that loves me unconditionally - he's realistic enough to know just how different I am to him in many ways (we've had "our moments" over the years)- but there has been a joint unspoken decision between me and my parents that we will work together to have a reasonable "relationship" between us anyway - regardless of our many differences.

They arent the only people who love me unconditionally - I know there are several other people who do as well - but I would be surprised if I dont "struggle" for a while once they arent around.

Oh heck...this is ceridwen being her normal "dead blunt" self here...and I hope you realise how I mean this and the intentions behind what I'm saying. I think you "know" me well enough by now to realise what I'm trying to say...though I'm probably expressing myself very badly...(subtle I am not - I know this).

Anyways...you know we are thinking of you here. Certainly Mardatha was "going off like an alarm bell" - as she had realised before most of us that something was wrong - but I think we'd pretty much all begun to realise by the time you got back in touch with us.

Anyways....take care....little by little things will come right again in your world.

mary43

ceridwen - you and your dad sound much like me and mine were. Strangely I don't remember it knocking me sideways quite as much when I lost him........it was the letting go of all his stuff I found hard. Dad was an old softie really............Mum was the one who dished out the discipline and always seemed to favour my brother. Now its like she wont let go of me, if you see what I mean.She'd been ill for so long and had so many 'near goes' and pulled through - it's like it never happened and she's still here waiting for me to go and visit ! Honest, in hospital with all the other elderly ladies around I felt I was being haunted ! Sounds awful I know but I've got stuff of my mums I can't bear to look at and would love to give it all away. I know that wouldn't make sense and there are things destined for grandchildren -maybe the sooner the better...........but not till I feel back on my feet again.
I think maybe once the property is sorted out and any money is distributed I'll be able to deal with the rest. Big Bruv doesn't have the same problem -it never affects him that way, he just sort of deals with it. I've spoken to him about how I feel and surprise, surprise - he was very kind ! Hope it stays that way. I know we'll never be bosom buddied but we're all we;ve got left of our parents so it would be nice to move on knowing we were ok with each other.
Course, mustn't forget OH in all this..........he's been a total brick all through mums illness and losing her, then the hospital saga.............it's taken it's toll on him too. SIL's not been well either...........blood pressure problems and all sorts that big bruv thinks must be brought on by stress - he thinks my sodium level drop could be stress related but I did ask the doctors and got no response ! Maybe I'll never be sure but I do know stress can play havoc with our systems so nothing would surprise me.
And don't worry about being 'blunt'............I know you well enough I think to know where you're coming from.

At the minute I'm feeling a bit tired but considering my walk this morning I expect that.Least my hair feels really good and I'm more like my old self.
Now off to keep OH company and 'seize the moment', as it were. We've time to ourselves to may as well make the best of it.

mary43

Not sure this will work............tried to log on to the site and got a 'security token missing' message Whats that I wonder............still, thought I'd try anyway.

Gigervamp

I can see you Mary!