Simplifying Life - Mark II

ceridwen

pagangirl wrote: »

How long has Weezl got left before baby arrives (rough date - days)????

About a week as I recall.

<goes off with visions in my head of airport departure lounge and Fergus sitting there with his ticket...thinking "Any minute now and my flight gets called">

ceridwen

MARY

good on you for making a start. Your on your way to getting it dealt with - thats what matters.

Re the letter to Fergus - well he wrote me a letter the other day on Weezl's thread.....with Weezl acting as "scribe" on his behalf. So - being an intelligent young man - I thought maybe he could "read" my reply via our Weezl's eyes;) .:rotfl: :rotfl:

firework

Hi Mary, thanks for that and you're right - 'there but for the grace of God go I......." a phrase i hear myself mutter many a time when i see how some poor souls have to make their way through life - an' in my job you see some sights i can tell you:eek: - alot of it through alcohol it has to be said - i don't mean i see it thru alcohol - lol! as i very rarely drink (christmas day was my last drop) but i see alot of poverty, despair and health problems caused by the effects of alcohol. it's very sad. we do alot of shoppers so tend to see into their homes when we help take the bags in for 'em.

(on a lighter note - some of them houses make mine look like a ruddy palace:rotfl: ).

anyway, i was inspired by your posting that you have already made a start with your mams things, i know how hard it has been for you with your dads things and i think it is lovely of you to be able to pass some things on to kind of share the memories of your mam. hope the recipients enjoy their treasures. i think you have a very very big heart.:A

p.s. thanks for all the support on here - it's amazing how it can just lift you up from the doldrums.

ceridwen

FIREWORK

You've got me remembering a friend of mine - with your comment about alcohol and the damage it can do if one drinks excessively. I'm remembering that friends funeral - he died prematurely from literally drinking himself to death. He was once on a VERY good income - by the time I knew him he used the local pub as his sitting room and was on VERY poor income (never did know whether the work went because of the drinking or his own choice). He had been warned this would happen - but he continued drinking. So - he'd had a lot of advantages - very good money/good family/lots of friends/sense of purpose in his life - but he still blew it....

One noticeable factor in this is that I attended his funeral with another friend of his - who is following in his footsteps. It is obvious this person will also drink themselves to death - but they continue doing so....

I'm thinking here too of someone else I know - who has twice over inherited a lot of money and duly decided that they would use that fact and being an attractive woman (ie hoping for financial support from men) to never do a days work again and they duly havent done so for many years - but I have the feeling that they will use this money up and then be totally bereft somewhere along the line (as they arent doing anything very constructive with it). I've wasted my breath trying to tell them that they need to do something more constructive about making provision for themselves....

So - maybe I'm the one in the better situation than either of them - though I've always been on low income :mad: - as I've been told by various different people that considering how little I've had - I've really made the best of my resources to get as financially sorted out as I am:D .

So - to some extent - its not just a question of how much you've got - but what you DO with it that matters.

(How can you tell that the Parable of the Talents is about the bit of the Bible I remember best?)

mardatha

Ceridwen please dont quote the bible at me this time of the day. Wait till I wake up fully andfeel stronger ! LOL
..sneaking very quietly out...

mary43

firework - pleased to see you in better spirits and thanks for your kind remarks.
With mums stuff I'm just passing it on like she'd have wanted. Just finished wrapping parcel up of her brothers bibles, war letters etc. to go off to her step brother. I've photocopied them so they'll go in the history file -reminds me, I seem to have a load of stuff to go in various history files -just keep piling it up for now. Maybe that'll be a 'tomorrow' job - dentist first to have front tooth out then run home into hiding before someone sees me and thinks I've turned into a witch !! Get my denture back Thursday - do hope the tooth is the right size and I don't start resembling a horse.............:rotfl:
So, as I daren't leave the house I can file all these bits and pieces away where they belong
Just found out that the charity that is collecting the furniture next week doesn't collect bric a brac as I thought so if its all still there I think we'll just box it up and bring it home for our charity shops. Big Bruv said that his son was going to do a boot fair with what the care home don't want for theirs........spoke to him this morning and seems he's not ! Where does big bruv get these notions from. I just know I'll end up sorting it out -he's off to spain on Wednesday. Oh well, what I bring back maybe foster daughters sister would like -she often does boot fairs and helped me clear out a few things last year.

ceridwen - love the quote 'not what you've got but what you do with it.......' How true is that

ceridwen

mardatha wrote: »

Ceridwen please dont quote the bible at me this time of the day. Wait till I wake up fully andfeel stronger ! LOL
..sneaking very quietly out...

Are you awake now Mardatha? LOL.....will you feel a leetle tad happier if I say "An it harm none - do as you will";) - which actually sums up a very pertinent thought too...

Me - I'm just as likely to quote summat from Buddhism...or any other religion that has an apt way of putting things......one can derive "light" from many different lamps to light the way....

Lula-Hula

Hello all,

Mary - I think you're doing wonderfully to be able to go through 'stuff' already & thank you for your kind words & support in your earlier post. I am coping with all the finances, just a bit miffed that as I finally got myself sorted with a speedy repayment plan ... someone ordered a recession, which completely threw all my plans :rolleyes: . Such is life, we live & learn etc etc

best wishes to all
lula
xx

mary43

Lula -Youre doing well. You're coping and thats something a lot of people aren't managing to do at the minute, understandably so. You'll get there - don't worry.
Its been a struggle going through some of Mums stuff and I have to admit some has gone into a box file till a later date. Finding a bit of family history stuff among it helped a lot and I put that away in my files this afternoon.
Mum did a sort of life story work at the care home - a way of stimulating the residents. Amazing some of the stuff she's came out with, things I never knew. Its a bit out of order due to her ramblings and when I feel more clear headed I'll get around to typing it out properly.
Some photos of her when she was quite poorly I can't bring myself to go through -she's not the mum I knew and I can't face it. Its a case of doing what I can when I can..........the rest can wait. So much other stuff to do involving solicitors and paperwork...............once thats sorted life will be simpler -I hope.
Toyed with the idea of taking an extra week off but think both me and OH need to get back to normal routine a.s.a.p. so our young lad came back today. He knows that any refusal to attend school or any kind of 'kicking off' as he puts it and he'll have to go back to a respite carer as I won't cope as well. Think he understands that so here's hoping.

Brother is at it again...........silly thing I know but I'd rung the stone mason about adding mums dates to dads headstone (her names already) the week she died and told brother this as it was on my 'to do' list. Today he rang stone mason again to add extra wording to it. I'd have thought he'd have talked to me first about it just to get an opinion but he didn't. OH says its not worth fussing over and it isn't I know but its just one of those things that I feel ought to have been a joint issue. Quite why he does these things I don't know but despite this, and other events of the past I do feel that after the final signing of legal papers I should offer an olive branch......suggest we accept our differences and be friends. But to do this he has to accept me as I am, without the endless jibes about not being 'good enough'......I know I am. If he cant accept it then it'll be a no go but at least I'll know I've tried.

(My word - havent I gone on and on.................OH always said I could talk for Britain.............:rotfl: )

Lula-Hula

Mary - you ramble away as much as you like my lovely :A It's good to hear you chatting away & about your plans. I completely understand your feelings on certain photos; one of the things I found hardest was to erase the image of my mum when she was in hospital, as you said so unlike the person we've known & loved It has faded somewhat now & I can block it out most of the time.

Grrr to the brother again, it's probably one of those male ego type things that's covering up his emotions, maybe. Your OH's advice is probably the least confrontational & for the moment the easiest way of coping. Hurrah for spain eh .

My chest of drawers is still wonderfully tidy & I have missed nothing from it. A help the aged collection bag arrived today so I think that I will fill it with all the stuff that's currently in my bedroom awaiting a trip to the charity shop .

I'm not able to do anything about the garden at the moment but have decided to invest in a lavender plant for the front paved area - I have empty pots & am concerned about the bees

blessings & good night

lula
xx