what was the worse thing about being pregnant...

pepsicola_2

having read the op its nothing to do with how ill or not someone was/is

we could all post about how near to deaths door (i was only half way there) but the question is how does it affect you financially i was very fortunate to have family nearby when i had my son but yes as i run my own business it was a struggle and i couldnt have done it without them

Js_Other_Half

I was very lucky to work for a local authority - so time off for IVF treatment I made up elsewhere in the week. Once I was pg, they had to let me have all the normal appointments paid for - but for the last trimester that meant one afternoon a week due to gestational diabetes monitoring.

I can imagine being self employed whilst pg and on mat leave would be very stressful.

amandada

I loved being pregnant, and had pretty much textbook pregnancies and deliveries (finally found the advantage of having wide hips!)

The massive down was 9 years of post natal depression

sarymclary

I loved being pregnant, quite enjoyed the births too, and have loved being a mum. It's been harder work than any paid employement I ever had, but I made a conscious decision that if I had more than 1, I'd give up work to be a SAHM, and that's what I've done ever since. I can proudly say I've been to every assembly, every parents evening, every show, every sports day for all 4 of mine, and I know how lucky I and they are for that. My sister wasn't so lucky and returned to work when my nephew was 6wks old, and I took over FT care of him until school age. I then did all his assemblies, etc. in place of her.

I've been a single mum for 6 years now, and it's tough financially, and it's tough emotionally. I have my children 24/7 without a break (they don't have a dad to visit), and whatever they need I have to provide. That said, I still wouldn't change it for the world. This year I have had to make the decision to get back out to work (although nothing has come up yet), which will mean my youngest 2 will have to get themselves to/from school with the help of my older 2 boys. It's a real worry, but for the benefit of us all I am now having to make that sacrifice. So, that is the downside really, the worry and huge responsibility that comes with being a parent.

Spendless

If we are talking the financial/working side. For me when I had eldest it was the lack of choice available to me. The right to request part-time work wasn't in and my company only employed f-time workers, the current tax credit system wasn't in or the childcare voucher scheme. Not wishing to work f-time anyway and def not for all my wages to go in childcare, I gave up work. Later I took p-time evening/w'end work, later still I went to college cos technology had advanced so much whilst I had been at home. I was no longer employable in the tyoe of job I'd once had. My eldest is 8, so not that long ago.
Financially has been less of a problem, as Mr S's career took off around this time, and our money is all joint. Big ticket items can be awkward ie replacing furniture/decorating, replacing my car, holidays- but we've managed ok.

Lizard_Lady

Having Symphysis Pubis Dysfunction (SPD) was the worst thing in the world when i was pregnant, for the last 3-4 months of my pregnancy i couldnt walk. i had to wear a corset under my bump to lift my baby off my pelvis.

And 2 years after a emergency c-section because she nearly broke my pelvis i am still suffering with it.

Deals_2

buying? have a ton at home this way - just diesel to pick up!

Spendless wrote: »

If we are talking the financial/working side. For me when I had eldest it was the lack of choice available to me. The right to request part-time work wasn't in and my company only employed f-time workers, the current tax credit system wasn't in or the childcare voucher scheme. Not wishing to work f-time anyway and def not for all my wages to go in childcare, I gave up work. Later I took p-time evening/w'end work, later still I went to college cos technology had advanced so much whilst I had been at home. I was no longer employable in the tyoe of job I'd once had. My eldest is 8, so not that long ago.
Financially has been less of a problem, as Mr S's career took off around this time, and our money is all joint. Big ticket items can be awkward ie replacing furniture/decorating, replacing my car, holidays- but we've managed ok.

keelykat

Why do you ask?

Broken_hearted

The more pregnancies you have the harder it gets. No-one told me about afterpains and they shocked me, thought something was wrong.

onlyroz

Pregnancy is fine, apart from when you get so big that you can't get comfortable *anywhere* (whether standing, sitting or lying down). Birth wasn't so bad either. The worst thing about parent-hood is the sleep deprivation (haven't had a lie-in since early 2005), and the cost of child-care.