Weekly Flylady Thread 25th August 2008

pigpen

Johanne.. I'll PM you.. BTDT!!!

jo1972

OH well and truely scuppered any plans to get half way through my list yesterday and will be doing it again as apparently we're taking the kids out again today so that he makes the most of his week off....doesn't he understand how much I have to do before I go back to work on Monday!!!!

So here's the updated list of stuff I REALLY need to finish before tomorrow :eek: (not gonna happen is it :rolleyes:, painting of lounge will have to wait till weekend methinks...)

[strike]Go to B&Q and buy paint [/strike]CHECK :T
[strike]Clean kitchen (don't think a S/S would cover it!) with my new bottle of stardrops!![/strike] CHECK :T
Take junk to dump
Take old toys to charity shop
Take old clothes to recycling doodah
Clear hallway of OH's discarded jackets, clothes and junk
Clear stairway of everyone's discarded jackets and junk
Clear out airing cupboard
S/S bathroom and toilet
Paint bathroom and toilet
De-clutter lounge
Paint lounge
Put lounge back together
Clean windows
Make place generally look and smell nice once all the above has been done
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jinky67

johanne wrote: »

meh... know i said i wouldnt post here anymore but never needed you guys so much need somone to tell how upset i am and i dont have any real friends in "the real world" i could tell.... plus your the only people who would also understand my despair that sarahs gorgeous nursery (and numerous rooms around the house) are now packed to the ceiling with binbags and boxes and furniture...... so much so i cant even step into the nursery as its that full

Today is the day ive been dreading happening for over 12 months and it finally has.OH not being able to pay the mortgage on his old place and it being in too poor a state to sell has finally caught up with him and its being repossessed in an hour or so...

Weve spent the last few days clearing the last of all his stuff out.. and now its dawning on me that its happening and also that as the house was already in negative equity when we got it valued few months ago to sell it privately were now looking at being another 20k in debt by end of the day possibly... added to the 30k he/we already have.

Were not gonna be able to have our own place ever by the looks of it as we'll struggle to get another mortgage with high debts, a repossession and just his low wage coming in... and were gonna spend the next god knows how many years struggling to pay of all the debt..... most of which he amassed when he was with his ex.... i honestly wanna just sit in a corner and cry...

Sorry girls i feel a fraud for posting when i said i wouldnt post anymore .... but i was really desperate just for someone to tell and get it all out too..

I dont know you or your circumstances but have a ((((((HUG)))))) anyway
xxx

pigpen

Dustykitten wrote: »

PP how you getting on with your painting - how you are doing it with 8 kids on school hols I do not know.

DS1 is out ALL the time.. and the others are more than used to entertaining themselves and playing together they leave me alone if I say.. I need X amount of time to go do this job.. Plus a lot of it I do when they are in bed.. and 4 have been at summer club at church this week so I can emulsion half a room in that 2 hours.. 16ft square.. huge room... The gloss needs whizzing over today and the radiator needs undercoating and there is a bit of white needs patching... then I'm off out on a carpet hunt!

Dustykitten

Johanne hugest hugs hun and welcome home, we are your friends and are always here for you

I can't help you re the debts but you sure are in the right place - there are real experts on here so when you are ready ask them for help - they will help.

You have spent 12 months dreading this day and yes it is now here but you nolonger need to dread it happening - it has and you will deal with it.

You will get the decluttering done, we will encourage you, but not today hun. Hug Sarah, hug her daddy and keep posting.

Sending you all the luck in the world xx

toottifrootti

Hi johanne
Sending you a huge hug - I dont know you but I am sure we dont mind you psoting - thats what we flyladies do - we support each other - have you thought of speaking to the CAB - they dont judge you and might be able to suggest a plan of action - i am sure some of the other ladies will be along with more useful replies but in the meantime keep the chin up and take it one step at a time - deal with today first.
Toots xx

gunsandbanjos

HUGE hugs Johanne, never feel like a fraud for posting here. You had your reasons for not wanting to post before and we respect that, but remember we are always here if you need us.
Take care of yourself and little Sarah, one step at a time.

sexymouse

Big Hugs johanne! I'm glad that you felt you could post on here after all. I've been offline for 2 days and was desperate to get on here and talk to my flying friends. The support on here is amazing, and I'm really glad that I found my way to this thread. Will be thinking of you in your time of need. Sending positive vibes your way that things work out soon for you, your OH and little Sarah.

pigpen

Johanne.. remember also.. it is only money.. they cannot take what you don't have.. and they cannot take your little girl or OH away.. So long as you are loved and can share that nothing else matters it is all material and can be replaced. Plus everything in the house is yours you paid for with your money.. so long as you can prove that even if bailiffs come to your house they cannot touch a THING!! Worry not.. just start decluttering!

rach

just popping on to say byebye ladies. Am washed, cleaned up and ready to go. even got my leftover pizza in foil for lunch on the way...am such an OSer now! I might pop online when awaywith the dongle thing from work but maybe not, we'll see. i'll have the lappy with me for photos. will miss you all! think of me walking 120 miles in 8 days!!

johanne - hugs to you.
dusty - he's always in the mood for love ; just not babies yet! financially not really an option for another couple of years.
soappie - have a great time!