Depression Support Thread

shazrobo

morning all, (((big hugs))) anni, can't really comment on you personally, but my mum has dyslexia, and she spells some words wrong, or just copies them down incorrectly. reading your posts, you always spell correctly and use good grammer, something i'm afraid i dont do, as we never did grammer at school.
hope everybody has a good day.
hugs shaz xxx

Amber_Sunshine

Shouldn't worry about the typing, Anni, I have excellent grammar and spelling, but sometimes my typing just goes to pieces.

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Morning! hope all is well,I am fine today,off out on a boat trip with parents this morning and having lunch out then returning on boat and then they will take me home afterwards

I hope you all have a nice day!

*hugs* to those that need one


love and light,

Katie xxx

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
I thought this may be of interest to some of us. Time To Change is working with MIND and other recognized groups to end the stigma attached to people with mental health issues.

Time_To_Change wrote:

...We would like to update you about some exciting events that are coming up for Time to Change (formerly called Moving People).

Time_To_Change wrote:

Our campaign is piloting in Cambridge from this Wednesday, and will be running in the city for the whole of October in partnership with Cambridgeshire and Peterborough NHS Foundation Trust. It's not launching nationally until January, but we thought you'd like to see a sneak preview of the campaign and hear about what's going on in Cambridge...Get Moving Week kicks off on Saturday 4th October with a bulb-planting event at the Eden project, and there are events all over the country all week, culminating in a mass walk in London's Battersea Park on World Mental Health Day, Friday 10 October, at 10.30am.

Go to www.getmovingweek.org.uk to find an event near you and to find out more about joining the London walk. Finally, our new website will soon be up and running to coincide with the beginning of Get Moving Week, at www.time-to-change.org.uk

Well done to anyone who goes to the mass walk in London on Friday, or to a event nearer to you - good luck!

I think it's great that our section of society is finally getting some respectful attention and that it really is important to help if we can, to help change people's attitudes and prejudice where we can.
After all, we'd only be contributing to help make things better for ourselves.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
Morning all - how's everyone feeling? Well, I don't know about where you are living peeps, but we've got our first real frost of the season here. I'm dreading the icy pavements because my legs go like bambi's did - each one in a different direction.
I thought I'd start your day with a snapshot from Monday's aqua-mobility class!

Actually, I quite enjoyed it although the instructor wouldn't listen to me when I told her that Tiffy doesn't do hip thrusts in public on a Monday morning! What I do at home though is my business!
Seriously though, it was fun and done to sexy salsa music. There were quite a few people there, all friendly, and all at least 15 yeas older than I am. And there was only 1 gentleman! It felt like I was dirty dancing in front of my parents! Plus, despite my best efforts, my boobs were the only ones that responded to gravity and insisted on trying to stay on the surface!

I shall probably go back next week just to prove that you can't scare a Tiff. Besides, there were some little schoolchildren waiting to go into the pool as we climbed out and I want to experiment with claws and their effect on rubber armbands!
I'll wear a bin liner as a costume next time so that my chest doesn't try to escape again and to protect my fur from that nasty chlorine...

I've just about dried off now, so I'd better go and read what you've all been up to while I was gone. Safe journeys guys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi lfh!:hello:
Welcome back hunnie - it's been a long time since you posted and I'm really sorry to hear of your situation. You are, of course, more than welcome to post here, angel.

lookingforhelp wrote:

Hello Everyone,

lookingforhelp wrote:

This is probably the wrong place and site to post on, but I have posted here before and need some advice.

My Marriage hasn't been going well and this morning I told my wife that its over
At the minute I am very sad (we have been married for 5 years, and together a couple of years before that), confused, emotional, tired, feel very isolated. I really don't know what to do next. My wife says the marriage can be saved but I don't feel it can and have given her my wedding ring back.
Any help or advice would be much appreciated. I have got through two boxes of tissues already!

Ok hun, I may be completely wide of the mark here, so please feel free to tell me I'm wrong, but my Tiffy radar is going off and a couple of things occur to me...

May I ask if it is purely your marriage that you feel isn't working, hun? I just get this feeling that there are other areas where you are not happy. How is everything else going for you, angel? Was there anything specific that happened on the day you told your wife how you felt, lfh? What is confusing you and making you feel isolated hun? Also, tbh, you sound as though you might possibly be depressed. This is quite aside from the sadness of you feeling your marrige is over, I feel. It's very hard to pinpoint, because of course, your emotions are going haywire at the moment with what you are going through.

Obviously I don't know your situation hun, but we have to go through our problems one step at a time. We have to break everything down, in order to work through the issues. By identifying what the issues are, we can prioritise them and then work through them, so please forgive my questions - I don't mean to pry, I'm just trying to understand hunnie.

Firstly, I'd say it's very important that you keep the lines of communication open with your wife and everyone else, hun. You said that she feels the marriage can be saved but you disagree. With all the emotions you're going through sweetheart, it makes it very hard to see things objectively at the moment and it may be hard to see a way forward. You may find at some point that there are options to try and you could be glad you kept talking. So keep your options open and don't burn any bridges just yet, angel.

I'd advise you not to make any snap decisions right now hun, when you're feeling so low. It's a time to go back to basics, to looking after yourself physically (eating, washing etc.) and to trying to recover emotionally.

There is nothing wrong with crying, lfh. It is the body's way of releasing chemicals that get built up when we're stressed or upset. When we end important relationships, we go through almost a grieving process, even if we are the ones who have ended the relationship. Even though I ended a long marriage due to domestic violence and went with my son to live in a shelter, I still grieved for all that had been at first and for what could have been. I did the right thing, but it still broke my heart to do it. It is better to let all these emotions out hun, than to bottle everything up.

It might be a good idea to see your dr, angel. They will be able to gauge whether you are depressed or whether you are going through the natural emotions resulting from the end of your marriage. Either way, they can offer you support. They are professionals with access to many resources and it would, of course, be confidential.

I'm not a professional hunnie so I can't vouch for them, but here is the link to RELATE, a national realtionship counselling service...

http://www.relate.org.uk/

lfh wrote:

Over the years we have changed a lot as people and live seperate lives with different interests, the care is there but the love has gone

This isn't uncommon angel because as we get older, things do change - even our outlook and opinions. After all, we've gathered life experiences and met an array of people, all of which will have left some kind of impression on us so we don't remain the innocents we once were. In my humble opinion, we never stop growing and evolving as people - it's a constant learning process for us as we move through all the stages of our lives. Maybe the love hasn't gone but is hibernating or evolving instead? How about trying to put that excitement back into your relationship by changing habits and routines? If things aren't working, it doesn't hurt to explore all avenues and maybe a heart-to-heart talk with your wife will give you some answers. Having some separate interests can be good for both of you. Is there anything that you could still both do together?

As I said before, time is still very new and you don't have to make all your decisions now. Only you know what your relationship is like hunnie and what you want to do. If indeed your marriage is over, then you can still get support to help you through the process.
I'm sorry I can't be of more help to you right now, lfh, and I hope something here made some sense. Please feel free to post here any time you need to hun. I hope all goes well for you.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Miroslav

Well, it seems my cold has returned for a ?th time.

Not as bad at the moment, but still annoying.

I've taken many things, it goes, then returns.

No idea how to fend it off for good

Diamond78

Hi Everyone,
Hope your all well and having a good day. Sorry not a ong post, just wanted to say thinking of you all and wishing you all happiness and good health.
Hugs to you all.xx

shazrobo

need a hug,
son has put his arm thru a window, so need to take him to a&e wen they bring him home from school
hate hospitals, will have other son too, so lots waiting two impatient kids
and i was going out tonight, and will have to cancel that too
biggest fear is if daniel needs stitches, he will be petrified, he never had em before, and hates needles.
will no doubt need x-ray to check whether glass present, can see it being a long night
shaz x

Amber_Sunshine

Why didn't they send him straight to A & E?

Shaz, I think you deserve a medal for coping as well as you do (even if it doesn't feel like it), hope you get your night out soon.