dla advise needed ( UPDATE I WON MY APPEAL )

welshmaiden

last week my friend decided to take some action and made me go back to my doctor. i ended up breaking down in his office and a lot of things came out that ive never told him before. it was like the floodgates opened. this time he got quite upset to realise how bad things are for me and he has changed my medication and arranged with the receptionist that i have urgent councilling. two days later i had my first councilling session.
after about fifteen minutes with the councillor and finally someone listening to me the councillor realised that i have delayed post traumatic stress disorder.
i have suffered from depression on and off for many many years. but in the last couple of years things have become much much worse. i have been haveing nightmares and flash backs from an incident that happened when i was just five years old. for all these years i only remembered a small part of what really happend. i explained to him that gradually over the last couple of years i have remembered the whole incident.
both myself and my sister in the same night where both badly hurt by a man that we had known our whole life someone we loved and trusted who was a close family friend.
i was five and she was fourteen. he first hurt me and then whent into another room and hurt her even worse. i followed him into the room to try and help my sister i even physically tried to stop him to protect my sister. but i wasnt able to and i saw everything he did to her.
the next day i told my sister what he had done to me and she begged me not to tell anyone ever. she told me that if my dad finds out that my dad would go after him and kill him and that i would never see my dad again because he would go to prison for the rest of his life.so i didnt tell a soul because i didnt want to lose my dad.
five years later the police turned up at our home wanting to see my sister and i as other children had also been hurt by him. he was sent to trial found guilty and sentenced to ten years in prison. i never had to attend court but my sister did.
now i can remember everything every little detail for all these years i didnt realise that i was there when he hurt my sister. but now i know i was and now im having to relive it on a daily basis. through nightmares flashbacks panic attacks and lots of other things.
the councillor explained that whats happened is that my brain couldnt cope with it at the time so it had blocked out most of the memory to protect me. he said it was like a fuse blowing in my mind and scattering all the information into different parts of my brain and it has done that to protect me.
he said that something has triggered my brain to put all the pieces back together. its probably because of all the stress that i have been under in the last few years.
it is a relief that my doctor now believes me and that ive finally been able to tell someone. the councillor asked me if it is ok for him to talk to him and work with the doctor to come up with a treament plan.
i know it will be a long road to recovery but at least now it is known why i am the way i am and at least now my doctor realises that i am genuine.
to be honest i think he feels guilty for not listening to me.because i was inconsolable when he last saw me. so hopefully things will get a bit better over time

SuziQ

Thankyou for updating us.I'm so relieved for you,that you are finally getting some help. I know from having counselling ,myself,that at times it can be very painful but longterm it is such a relief.

I hope this is the start of a whole new life for you.Well done for persevering!

parisjordana

aaawwwww sending you hugs on your road to recovery....bless you for sharing your storyxxxxx

beanielou

When is your appeal?
Welfare rights are helping you?

lilac_lady

I'm glad you're getting the help you need and wish you a happier future.

welshmaiden

my appeal is on the 10th of october. but on friday my mum had to go to broadgreen hospital in liverpool to see a consultant. he has decided to give her a triple heart bypass. they where not going to do it as it is very risky due to other health problems and she is also 72 years old but they have decided now to operate. if they dont do the op then she wont have long left as three of her ventricles are over 80 percent blocked and one of her heart valves is twisted so they cant see very well exactly what is going on in there but it is her only chance. better than the first time we saw a consultant as he had told us there was nothing
they could do.
the operation will be on the 29th sept. a bit close to my appeal. just got to hope that things are ok as the near future is very very uncertain. it just feels like everything is all happening at once not sure how much more i can cope with.
does anyone have any ideas would i be able to postpone the appeal if necessary. dont want to do that untill after the op though or should i inform the dwp straight away

colin13

this is easy for me to say,, but dont worry too much about ur mother,, my father had same operation at roughly same age,, after the initial shock of cing ur mother in hospital lookin poor,, u will b amazed how she looks 1 week later and feels,, ur mother operation is now a standard routine operation with great success 29 th sep -10th oct ober not long i agree but ur mother will b out and feelin a lot better than she is just now,,, keep ur appointment with ur appeal and good luck

welshmaiden

thanks colin im just praying that it works out ok. at the moment my heads all over the place. i just wish my parents had the support of my brothers and sister but to be honest i dont think they care at all. its heartbreaking that my mum and dad have to go through this alone. they only have me for support and im not strong enough to cope with it all but i have to find the strengh from somewhere. at the moment i feel so helpless. my dad is beside himself with worry and doesnt have a clue what to do at the moment. i can see that his health is failing and that he is struggling to cope too.
my dad is 75 and they have been together 55 years and i dont think my dad can imagine life without my mum. if we lose her then it will destroy him.
they are both heartbroken about there other four children turning there backs on them when they are needed the most. my mum is absolutely terrified and i just wish there was more i can do to help. but they are both inconsolable

welshmaiden

sorry got date of my appeal wrong its on the 15th of october

welshmaiden

hi just letting you all know that i had my appeal today and i was awarded lrc and lrm.

whilst i was there my wro was getting very worried because it had been almost an hour after the time that we where supposed to go in. she said that it was very strange as we where first on the list and this was unusual.
then someone came into the waiting room and asked if they could speak to her alone. she was gone for about fifteen minutes and when she came back she explained that the tribunal members had looked at my case and they felt that it would not be fair on me to be interviewed by an all male panel. due to the sensitivity of my case.they felt that it would be too traumatic and damaging and that they felt it was in my best interests to adjourn the case and insist that i should have an all female panel.

they also felt that whilst they where satisfied that i was entitled to lrc and lrm and they felt that my gp report was unfair and that my gp hadnt given enough information about how my disabilities affect me. they also felt that i needed a lot more specialist care than my gp was providing and because i have not had appropriate treatment and i had such longstanding conditions it would now take a very long time for me to recover. they felt that my gp has jeopadised my chances of recovery by not providing the care that i need and that with the severity of the conditions i have that he is not prescribing the right medication. they told my wro that if i had had the correct treatment then my conditions would not have had chance to become as severe as they are now. this was all told to my wro who repeated it all back to me.

they wanted me to have and emp examination. with a female doctor. my wro asked them to concider awarding me lrc and lrm as she thought it would be worse to drag this out for much longer and that when it came up for review she would present a good case for me and that she believed it would be better for me to have some sort of award for now than to put me through the stress of dragging things out. she also said that it would also help my next claim if i was already on the dla system.

after she had been back in the waiting room for a while they called her back in. and she came back to tell me that i had been awarded lrc and lrm.
she said that they where very impressed with my own statement and the honesty and consistency of it and the helpful information it contained.
i have had a lot of problems with my gp he has been very difficult for a long time and hasnt been very sympathetic to my problems.

i dont know if this is a coincidence but three hours after i got home from i recieved a phone call off my own gps receptionist. she asked me to make an appointment with my gp as he wanted to see me. this is very unusual and never happened to me before. will see him in the morning. i wonder what he has got to say. i know i havent had any tests so i know it cant be anything like that he wants to see me for.

i just cant believe how sensitive they where to my needs and how thoughtful and fair they where in not makeing me face an all male panel. the way that they handled things even surprosed my wro.i am really pleased with the outcome and im pleased that i had the courage to fight this to the end.
i would also like to let everyone know that my mum had her triple heart bypass operation two weeks ago and she is making an amazing recovery.

i would also like to tell you that i have already taken steps to change my gp.