Help asap son wanting to seriously hurt 'dad'

cobbingstones

It seems not.

Thanks for all your kind words x

arealbasketcase

I don't really know what to say I just want you to know how horrid I think this is, I can not imagine how your son feels, or you.

Like thatgirlsam I would think that as a previous employer his dad would still have to justify the bad reference, I don't know the legal implications but hopefully someone will be along soon to help you out.

At least your son has you, and I am sure he knows how much you care. At least now he might stop looking for his dad's approval and he might gain some strength from this, I hope there is a silver lining, best of luck.

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

thatgirlsam wrote: »

i thought you were not allowed to give a 'bad' reference..
just don't give a reference if the person was not a good employee - references are all good i thought..

they get round it with a tick questionaire - excellent, good, average, poor

vaio

lynzpower wrote: »

........What sort of father would do that, what a scummy thing to do.........

sums it up perfectly

yoni_one

If you feel your son is seriously at risk of harming his dad then I suggest you contact the police, do not wait until after he as done something.

It is an awful thing to happen but nowhere near as awful as if he deliberately injures his dad in a white rage.

Fleago

I don't know what to say, Madsmum. How very sad that a father could do that to his son. Shameful behaviour. I only hope that your son, when he has calmed down, realises that he has obviously got a lot going for him to have secured the job in the first place and that if he has impressed enough to be selected for one job, there will be another one meant for him soon.

Gosh, I do so feel for you and your son. Take care!

webitha

madsmum, have you had a word with DS father ( i refuse to call him a dad coz he isnt oone),
i know that if if my ex had done that then i would have gone straight round there demanding an explanation

also let your sonknow how proud you are of him that he hasnt dropped down to fathers level, and did him harm, and let him know that he doesnt HAVE to have him in his life just because of a blood tie, let the sad little man have his poxy life, say goodbye and walk away, he (the father) will one day regret it

Savvy_Sue

Just a question, but was the reference truthful?

cobbingstones

The new employer would not discuss it. As far as I am aware in 18 months he only 3 days off with a bad back which he had a Doctors note for. I assume he worked well, or he wouldn't of been there as long as he was. I tried to contact the previous employer but she would not accept my calls.

Thanks

MM

Sarahsaver

He needs to make a fresh start. he must never use his dad as a referee again. Then he stands a chance. If he killed him he would definitely mess up his career prospects.
Revenge is a dish best served cold and the best revenge of all would be for your DS to do well in life without the 'assistance' of his dad.