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nimbo

good luck, and BIG HUGS....

your being incredibly brave.

riquelme

im actually close to tears in work thinking about it, its not a great time to tell her as we have our niece staying with us for 4 days, but i have to tell her to sort out the joint account and get my name taken off.

i feel very fragile and vulnerable and just want to be told by her that we can work it out, i doubt i will get that tonight though. ive started to work it out but need her alongside me

poptart1_2

Good luck ,but I bet you wont need it as if she loves you she will stand by you, I will be thinking of you, please let us know how it all goes .At least she should respect you for doing something about it , can you not get your niece to go home or out for a while? just so that you can discuss it logically without prying ears and to save her from hearing anything she shouldnt or you want to keep private. Take Care hun, you are doing the right thing.xxxxxx:smileyhea

mummum2

Just wanted to add, my good luck! sending you a hug.

Bismarck

Hope it goes as well as it can. Take care.

riquelme

update - absolutely nightmare scenario - heartbreaking to see my wifes reaction. ive hurt and let her down so much. im so stupid and selfish. shes reacted this morning by wanting to protect the children and home. so our joint account is to be signed in her name and probably the house too. (if this keeps my family i will do anything) she wants nothing to do with it and leaving it to me to deal with. and finally she has yet to make a decision as to whether she wants still to be married to me.

ive probably got a few weeks grace , im speaking to cccs early september who will give me a better idea as to the impact this has had on us financially.

thanks for all you thoughts, x

**Amy**

Hi

Im glad you spoke to your wife. In the long run I think it is for the best. It is better she was told by you than to find out.

She seems to be doing the "right" thing re: property and bank account. You say she is leaving the debt up to you, which gives you an opportunity to show her you are serious about sorting it out.

x

jetcat

riquelme wrote: »

update - absolutely nightmare scenario - heartbreaking to see my wifes reaction. ive hurt and let her down so much. im so stupid and selfish. shes reacted this morning by wanting to protect the children and home. so our joint account is to be signed in her name and probably the house too. (if this keeps my family i will do anything) she wants nothing to do with it and leaving it to me to deal with. and finally she has yet to make a decision as to whether she wants still to be married to me.

ive probably got a few weeks grace , im speaking to cccs early september who will give me a better idea as to the impact this has had on us financially.

thanks for all you thoughts, x

Just sending hugs. Well done on speaking with her - that must have taken a huge amount of courage! Just give her a little time and space, she will no doubt be in shock etc. Whatever she decides, you need to continue on with your plan of recovery. As another poster said to me recently - baby steps!!

Yorkshire-Lady_3

One day at a time, and if needs be, hour by hour.

You knew your wife would be shocked, and we all react differently. She's bound to feel hurt, let down, cross, and down right Mad at you, and that's all to be expected.

Give it time, and I hope that soon, you'll be able to fight this battle together.

In the meantime, I'm sending you a hug.

Y-L x

rayday2

I am glad you spoke to her and you are still in the house!

I can understand her gut reaction to protect the money and lets hope she feels that is enough and you can continue your recovery together. Don't give, yesterday you thought you wouldn't be in the house so, so far so good!

Let us know how you get on