ex and would be ex-gamblers support thread

Karrie2129

Thank you everyone. 10 days gambling free, and DH is going to put the block on. I totally agree about accepting that the money is gone is hard... but looking back is never good. Also resisted the temptation to go to the bingo with mum and sister, not because of the bingo as such but playing the slots in the interval.

Did have a day at the races and put on a couple of euro millions tickets, but (and I may be totally deluding myself) never really got into thought about these as " serious gambling" I could walk away after a 2 quid bet and not feel the need to go back.

But still making progress, and I get paid on Tuesday and plan to put every penny possible to clearing my debt. Something positive to get excited about!

So sorry to hear about your MS cantcope, my dad has it, and I hope that you are still well.

cantcope

Hi Karrie,

I always thought that about "other" gambling too. soeone asked me....if you won a million on the lottery would you worry about spending 10k online? well of course i wouldnt, but i know where it would lead. more money, bigger bets.....same with any other form of gambling i'm afraid.
Also, if i won, how would i explain it to anyone? oh i "found" this money??? everyone knows i dont gamble now so just extra barriers for me.
the money you put on at the races and the euro millions tickets could have gone towards paying off your debt or a meal out for you and hubby.

I'm ok with my MS. My mum, aunt and an uncle (both sides of family) has it too so grew up around it. This year has been tough as no meds due to me being pregnant

Buddiesbabe, sorry to hear you gambled. But.........it doesnt surprise me. The lack of support wont have helped and this makes me so angry and sorry for you. HOwever, you knew it was likely and you took the risk. I hope you'll know not to do it again xx

buddiebabe

Hey Cantcope

Thanks your right i took the risk and did it anyway all my good intentions went out the window. My hubby was raging when i told him what had been said.

His mum phoned today to ask if id enjoyed myself yesterday and in the most part i did, however, even though id told her about my gambling problem yesterday all she wanted to talk about was how much her daughter had won at the casino!!!! :mad::mad::mad:

I know that i can't rely on my OHs family for support where gambling is concerned so in future anything involving anything like that will be avoided at all costs.

It has just made me more determined to not gamble and to realise that i have a support network of my family, hubby and friends who wouldn't put me in a situation like that.

First gambling free day completed :j (will be the start of many)

Buddiebabe x

cantcope

Well done. Does his mum realise how bad your problem is? maybe its time to let her know. keep going. be strong and dont be bullied into going anywhere to do with gambling. You wouldnt force an alcoholic into a pub would you.....

Karrie2129

Just checking in.

No gambling for 17 days (I think that's right!)

Hope everyone is doing well.

cantcope

Thats brilliant Karrie keep it up but remember just one day at a time xx

Gazza1964

Well done Karrie.

gambledandlost

It has been exactly 6 months since my last bet. At 11pm on the 5th of Feb I turned off my pc, drew a big circle around 6th of Feb on the calander I kept by my bed and promised that day would be my first gamble fre day. The next morning I went to see my doctor who signed me off sick and I used those 2 weeks to get away from my world by going to an internet and mobile phone free country cottage for some mental peace. Once back home I decided to change what was causing me to gamble and as a result I am now lving in a new home in a new city, going to a new job, seeing new people and spending my free time with new hobbies. Each night I cross off another gamble free day. It was not easy at first but when that urge took hold, I visualised that calender and resisted. These days I see a gamblig add and it washes over me as much as a nappies advert.
I realised giving up was easy, it just required me to face the problems thart made me gamble, in my case, it was my whole life and looking back, changing my life wasnt as hard as I thought it would be.

cantcope

Thats great news.
For me i never did find out what was causing me to gamble and it wasnt important for me to keep analysing why i did it.
All i know is i dont want to again. The thought of going back to where i was mentally is enough to make it wasy for me to stop.

Gazza1964

cantcope wrote: »

All i know is i dont want to again. The thought of going back to where i was mentally is enough to make it wasy for me to stop.

Yes for me to. I dont want to be that person again - ever.

1 month 1 week ... cant wait for the day I stop counting.