am at my wits end

louise35_2

to cut a long story short my 15 yr old grandson (who has lived with me since he was 2) on the last day of term, tuesday 22 july, went with a few friends from his school and got themselves drunk and he has been missing since then. I am sick with worry as i dont know what he is getting up to i can only imagine and its not doing my head any good, the local police have been looking for him and i know through checking his mobile online that he has been using his phone, but i ring his number 2 or 3 times a day and send text messages to him but he doesnt reply i am nearly beside myself with worry about him he isnt a very streetwise lad but fear that that will change if he stays away for too long.

Amanda65

How awful for you - I would be out of my mind as well. Not much help but I do sympathise. My immediate thoughts are:

1) Contact Missing People helpline for practical advice / support
http://www.missingpeople.org.uk/

2) Have you spoken to his friends? Is there anyone who could pass on a
message from you to let him know that you just need to know he is OK?

3) Could you text him and let him know that you just want him home,
regardless of what he has done, or thinks he has done?

It may be that he is now too scared to come back having been away for so long (not suggesting he is scared of you - just that he may not feel it possible to come home). Had there been any problems leading up to this or was it a compelte surprise?

His friend's must be your key to his whereabouts and I would try really hard to get them to talk to someone in your family.

Whatever happens, I hope he is safe and home soon.

Amanda

Mappygirl

Just wanted to send bigs hugs to you and I hope you find him soon. Have you had any contact with the friends he was out with?

Good Luck x

loobylou2

Mappygirl wrote: »

Just wanted to send bigs hugs to you and I hope you find him soon. Have you had any contact with the friends he was out with?

Good Luck x

Ditto the above!!! Also this may sound silly but can I suggest that you try contacting the Salvation Army as well as The Missing Persons helpline. I understand that they also do a lot of work regarding missing people. Hope this helps you or anybody else who finds themselves in this awful situation.

Classy_Chick06

louise35 wrote: »

to cut a long story short my 15 yr old grandson (who has lived with me since he was 2) on the last day of term, tuesday 22 july, went with a few friends from his school and got themselves drunk and he has been missing since then. I am sick with worry as i dont know what he is getting up to i can only imagine and its not doing my head any good, the local police have been looking for him and i know through checking his mobile online that he has been using his phone, but i ring his number 2 or 3 times a day and send text messages to him but he doesnt reply i am nearly beside myself with worry about him he isnt a very streetwise lad but fear that that will change if he stays away for too long.

Are the police not concerned about this? especially as it is almost 3 weeks he has been missing for now...
My daughter does this to me on a regular basis, (usually about twice a week)
She chooses to not come home for whatever reason, and i am therefore stuck with no option but to report her missing to the police.. she only usually goes missing for 2-3 days at a time though....although it is still as much a worry all the time they aint home, as you just have no idea where they are or what they are getting up to.
But surely to god, someone should be doing something about this.....
If he is at a pals house, are their parents not questioning why he has been staying so long? Do you know any of his pals Mothers who you could call or pop round to see if anyone knows of his wherabouts?
What is he doing for money?, clean clothes, etc etc....
Are the police in regular contact with you?
I am sorry for so many questions, but this is very close to my heart as like i say, i have this all the time, but not on this sort of scale and never for so long!!
I am now on first name terms with our local missing persons police department whom i must say do an excellent job in circulating pics, info, details etc etc to all units.
You poor poor soul, you must be going out of your mind...
Have you tried calling him of a number unknown to him? he may well answer it just out of curiosity?
Of course i have tried all these things with my own daughter, but the thing is , they are way too clever aint they!
If you want me to try to contact him for you with my number, PM his mobile number and i will try for you...
Please please try to keep your chin up, as i am sure he hasnt come to any harm, and probably just being a clever so and so.
I am assuming that his friends must know that he hasnt been home, or have friends been calling round the house for him?
Good luck in your search, I hope to god he is ok. x

whatatwit

Have you tried ringing some of the numbers that he has been calling.
I would think that even a call or a text to let you know he was safe would be a starting point.

Do you know where any of his friends live, could you call and speak to their parents. It's quite possible that has lied to his mate's parents about why he has left you and they are putting him up.

Big hugs for you.

Rubia_2

Firstly a big hug for you and I hope he turns up soon!

Have you looked on his computer, or yours if he shares yours?
To see if there is a clue in his mails, is he on Facebook, is there a friend who could phone him on your behalf, so that he perhaps will pick up? Sorry, probably not much help.


Good luck, x

sharon59

Just saw your post and whilst have no more advice to offer wanted to send you a hug and hope you hear somthing positive soon.
sharonx

yoni_one

What a worry for you. I really hope he comes home safe and well.

The only suggestion I can make is a pretty obvious one but worth throwing in the pot anyway, have you tried withholding your number before you ring? If he doesn't know it is you he may just pick up?

vic1

IF you know the phones being used can't the police use the information working with the phone company to try and find him. and are you sure it's him using the phone he may have sold it. who is he ringing texting. As you I presume are his legal guardian you have the right to access the info from the phone company, and i am certain the police are able to do it. think they are able to trace phones by using the radio network. even if they come back to you and say he refuses to come home at least you know someone has spoken to him and observed how he is. ASK Them please to do this if they haven't. i have two daughters and i know how wor ried i have been when they stopped out all night. you must be so desperately worried.

chrismoney1800

vic1 wrote: »

IF you know the phones being used can't the police use the information working with the phone company to try and find him. and are you sure it's him using the phone he may have sold it. who is he ringing texting. As you I presume are his legal guardian you have the right to access the info from the phone company, and i am certain the police are able to do it. think they are able to trace phones by using the radio network. even if they come back to you and say he refuses to come home at least you know someone has spoken to him and observed how he is. ASK Them please to do this if they haven't. i have two daughters and i know how wor ried i have been when they stopped out all night. you must be so desperately worried.

Thats great advice vic. You should be able to get the info on his wareabouts from the netword provider. Also if this a contract that is in your name, Im pretty sure that you will be able to do this. If not push the police into doing so..

I really hope that he returns safe and well. This must be extremely hard for you.

So big hugs . Keep your chin up and PM me if you need any private support.