am at my wits end

Witsend_2

vic1 wrote: »

IF you know the phones being used can't the police use the information working with the phone company to try and find him. and are you sure it's him using the phone he may have sold it. who is he ringing texting. As you I presume are his legal guardian you have the right to access the info from the phone company, and i am certain the police are able to do it. think they are able to trace phones by using the radio network. even if they come back to you and say he refuses to come home at least you know someone has spoken to him and observed how he is. ASK Them please to do this if they haven't. i have two daughters and i know how wor ried i have been when they stopped out all night. you must be so desperately worried.

The police can trace calls and be there within moments please call them now. So very sorry that you have been put through this, I have 2 children and know how I worry if I have a missed call. Take care x x

junior_j

Really hope he is safe , i myself am 16 and a half years so old,

If i was to leave home , i would be at a friends house for sure , a friend that my parents are not really aware of , also , i would be very sly with my phone so you need to go to his best friends house and get his best friend to ring him?

Also if he has run off he may feel he has a huge amount of freedom , check pool clubs ect?

I have never run away before , nor do i plan to but those are just some suggests i personally think people my age would do if we were to run off . Yes looking through his pc and online mobile bill , may give you the clues you need , hassle the police as much as possible!
Jess x

Witsend_2

Any news Louise35 I have been thinking of you all and I hope that today you get some good news. Keep strong ((Hugs)) x

louise35_2

hi just to let you know that the police have not as yet found him i would like to thank all mse,rs for their support it is a comfort to know that all you guys are out there, we do however know that he is in a town about 10 miles away from us, we just want him home safe and sound, i will keep you posted, thank you all x x x

Js_Other_Half

At least you know he's somewhere relatively close - I can't imagine how worried you still must be.

louise35_2

just an update............the police found my grandson on friday at said friends house they were both worse the wear for drink,had to handcuff him to bring him out in the struggle he banged his face and ended up having a huge nose bleed and the police had to call the paramedics to sort it out.He was taken by police to his mothers house (because he said that he didnt want to live with us anymore) and lo and behold sunday night he took off again !!!!!!!!!

bestpud

I feel for you - it must be an awful situation to be in.

I'm wondering if it is worth trying to get him in contact with an agency such as Foyer or an alternative youth organisation?

Perhaps he feels he wants independence and 'going along with it' for now may be enough to get him to see a youth worker of some kind. They could then discuss all the pros and cons of living independently (although I know he is strictly speaking too young at the moment) and maybe help him see it is not so bad being at home after all. They may also help with family mediation where you could all try and come to some agreement and find a way to get him home again. Plus many will offer him counselling (although he may not accept it).

Many of the case workers have been in his situation and are very good at getting them to listen.

Worth a try perhaps? Like I said, you would probably have to approach it as though you are supporting him in being independent to get him there in the first place!

I hope you are bearing up ok yourself?

Firefly

What a sad situation for you all. You must be beside yourself with worry and frustration. I've worked with lots of grandparents who have been to the ends of the earth for their grandchildren over the years and I know how dedicated you can be.

Your grandson must be feeling very mixed up at the moment and although I always smile when I see Bestpud's signature (above), this is a situation where he is caught between the frustrations of childhood and the demands of adulthood. He needs a lot of help and support at the moment at a time when he feels he is independent and can go it alone. Connexions are often a good first port of call as they can access ALL the local organisations who can offer support whether that is social services, CAMHS (mental health), drugs & alcohol advice, housing, work, school or almost anything. As Bestpud says there will be keyworkers somewhere who have been through this situation with others as he isn't the only one to have been through this.

It's hard on you though and I feel for what you are facing. Keep smiling.

louise35_2

hi best bud thank you for recommending foyer as i have never heard of them before, looked them up on web rang the local one but they only deal with the over 16,s , thank you anyway we are waiting for the social worker that i spoke to at the weekend to get back to us.

Amanda65

Hi Louise

Have been following your thread since I first commented and just wanted to say hang on in there!

I realise you may not want to discuss these questions on a public domain but wondered why your grandson lived with you, if he's disappeared before and if there is anything in particular triggering this right now?

If you are happier to keep the above private I completely understand but it may give a better idea as how to help.