getting married and ive had the biggest argument .....

flowerscotland

moggylover wrote: »

Congratulations!:T . And a big hug since I think you probably need one.

Just go ahead and plan it. It need not cost a fortune, but I do feel that you have the right to celebrate your decision to formalise your relationship and have some happy memories of the day to take with you for the future.

I should just get on with organising it ( don't try to involve them in this) and send an invitation - I think you would be equally saddened by not inviting them.

Hope you have a wonderful day - remember you will need a VERY big cake so that you can send us all a piece:rotfl:

thank you ! I will defo order the biggest cake in Marks and Spencers :beer: lol !

flowerscotland

rchddap1 wrote: »

You do what you want. Its your life, your wedding, your day. If they choose to be there then fantastic, but if they decide that next year's holiday is more important then stuff them.

I am engaged, with partner and we have a child. I'm sure when we finally sort out the date my family with need to be sitting down....or else they'll fall down (surprised that we've finally sorted it out). But if they started saying such things to me ..... ooooohhhhhh I'd be so angry.

Its your day. If you choose to get married they should be happy for you. If you choose to make it special by having a small select group then they should be happy for you. Its about sharing your happy day with the people that love you.

It doesn't matter how long you've been together, or how many children you have. It is a decision for you and your partner. Your family have no say in the matter, and should just be happy that you're happy.

I'd agree with the 'carry on regardless and let them sort themselves out' brigade on this one. Don't let anyone ruin your wedding day. As it should be the only one you'll ever have (with a bit of luck).

thank you, best of luck with sorting a date for your big day

rchddap1

flowerscotland wrote: »

thank you, best of luck with sorting a date for your big day

Well...we nearly sorted a date once. But ended up with a little girl instead. Now we have no money...again.

flowerscotland

rchddap1 wrote: »

Well...we nearly sorted a date once. But ended up with a little girl instead. Now we have no money...again.

lol sounds too much like me :rotfl:

what age is your little girl ?

x x x

Sparkle80

Just wanted to say Congratulations! Please don't let anyone put you off doing what you want to do, you will find that many people have different ideas and opinions when it comes to organising a wedding but you have to do what's right for you - remember it's YOUR big day and only yours and h2b's opinions matter!

Good luck and happy planning xx

flowerscotland

thank you sparkle

x

Stephb1986_2

This day is about you and your OH not anyone else not your family your long lost aunt fanny just you two do what you feel like and if no one else wants to join in its their loss!!

Its never too late to get married what about this on eastenders now with peggy getting married to that other guy dont we think thats a bit too old!

you are no where near dead by the sounds of it.

Congratulations!!

Steph xx

rchddap1

flowerscotland wrote: »

lol sounds too much like me :rotfl:

what age is your little girl ?

x x x

She's getting towards 21 months. And as you can see from my sig we've had a few issues. its been nice to have a period of calm for a change. We're saving as much as we can, but there are so many other things that seem far more important than a wedding. At least at the moment anyway.

tudorfan22

congrats!!!! i cant believe any parent would talk to their daughter like that! im sure once they realise whats at stake, that they could lose out being a part of your big day, they will come round. once they realise you will pay for everything and that this is more about love than the novelty of getting married they hopefully will come round!

both my parents died when i was younger so none of them will see me get married or see their grandchildren, youre parents dont know how lucky they are to have such a lovely family who are obviously devoted to each other!

good luck and keep us posted with the details!

Krystaltips

When I had DD a lot of people had ideas on how I should raise her but my Aunt gave me the best peice of advise I have ever received and it can be aplied to just about any situation...

If it's not a problem for you... Then it's not a problem

It's a mantra I live by now... We're all grown ups, we're all capable of making our own decisions and we should stick to our guns if it's the right thing and something we really want. (Within reason obviously)

Not everyone was please when OH and I started planning our wedding but they've come round now and the worst offender was really excited to be buying a handbag that matched her shoes a couple of weeks ago, especially for the wedding!