getting married and ive had the biggest argument .....

MrsE_2

Just perhaps they fell obliged to help pay & felt stressed about having to find that sort of money.
BUT saying that they had no right whatsoever to say what they did, you haven't asked them for money, you've told them you are having a small wedding funded by yourself, END OF!

Give them time to calm down, they may be round saying sorry.

BUT it is your wedding & don't let them put pressure on you to have a big wedding that you feel stressed affording.

Just do what you're doing, you are perfectly entitled to set a wedding date for next year.

******CONGRATULATIONS********

flowerscotland

Incisor wrote: »

Yeah, congrats. I'm happy for you! You've been together 10 years, [ok, a bit long!] and you have made up your minds. Live long and prosper!

its taken him 10 years to talk me into it :rotfl: :rotfl: lol no im joking! I was a student for 5 out of those 10 years, and then our little girls came along, so there never really was a right time I met him when I was 16, so Im stil quite young !

thank you

x

pandora205

Congratulations flowerscotland.

Remember this is your life and your wedding. Do it your way.

Your parents will come round given time (probably). Don't let them spoil your happiness.

endure

Plan your wedding and tell your folks that if they're that unhappy about it they've no need to come so you're not going to bother inviting them. Tell your Dad that until he starts acting like an adult you will have nothing more to do with him. It's your life - don't let other people !!!!!! it up.

Btw Congratulations

moggylover

Congratulations!:T . And a big hug since I think you probably need one.

Just go ahead and plan it. It need not cost a fortune, but I do feel that you have the right to celebrate your decision to formalise your relationship and have some happy memories of the day to take with you for the future.

I should just get on with organising it ( don't try to involve them in this) and send an invitation - I think you would be equally saddened by not inviting them.

Hope you have a wonderful day - remember you will need a VERY big cake so that you can send us all a piece:rotfl:

rchddap1

You do what you want. Its your life, your wedding, your day. If they choose to be there then fantastic, but if they decide that next year's holiday is more important then stuff them.

I am engaged, with partner and we have a child. I'm sure when we finally sort out the date my family with need to be sitting down....or else they'll fall down (surprised that we've finally sorted it out). But if they started saying such things to me ..... ooooohhhhhh I'd be so angry.

Its your day. If you choose to get married they should be happy for you. If you choose to make it special by having a small select group then they should be happy for you. Its about sharing your happy day with the people that love you.

It doesn't matter how long you've been together, or how many children you have. It is a decision for you and your partner. Your family have no say in the matter, and should just be happy that you're happy.

I'd agree with the 'carry on regardless and let them sort themselves out' brigade on this one. Don't let anyone ruin your wedding day. As it should be the only one you'll ever have (with a bit of luck).

flowerscotland

pandora205 wrote: »

Congratulations flowerscotland.

Remember this is your life and your wedding. Do it your way.

Your parents will come round given time (probably). Don't let them spoil your happiness.

thank you, I hope they will come round too, I will keep you updated

flowerscotland

MrsE wrote: »

Just perhaps they fell obliged to help pay & felt stressed about having to find that sort of money.
BUT saying that they had no right whatsoever to say what they did, you haven't asked them for money, you've told them you are having a small wedding funded by yourself, END OF!

Give them time to calm down, they may be round saying sorry.

BUT it is your wedding & don't let them put pressure on you to have a big wedding that you feel stressed affording.

Just do what you're doing, you are perfectly entitled to set a wedding date for next year.

******CONGRATULATIONS********

thank you, Ive told my mum in the same breath I told her we were thinking about booking something, that we didnt want any money from anyone. My dad called me last night when he heard and said I hope you dont want me to contribute, and I told him that I certainly did not.

flowerscotland

pandora205 wrote: »

Congratulations flowerscotland.

Remember this is your life and your wedding. Do it your way.

Your parents will come round given time (probably). Don't let them spoil your happiness.

thank you, I hope they do come rtound as they are my parents, and I dont want to spend time arguing with them, I hate the conflict.

flowerscotland

endure wrote: »

Plan your wedding and tell your folks that if they're that unhappy about it they've no need to come so you're not going to bother inviting them. Tell your Dad that until he starts acting like an adult you will have nothing more to do with him. It's your life - don't let other people !!!!!! it up.

Btw Congratulations

I think I will take your advice, I cant cope with his childishness any more