The cost of clutter? Updated :)

Max_Headroom_3

Prudent wrote: »

The 'essentials' include a collection of 400 panda themed items - mainly cuddly.

I know I just couldn't live without my collection of 400 cuddly pandas.

Prudent

clutton wrote: »

tell her that when you move - she can only take with her enough stuff to fill her bedroom in the new house - if she wants to live with boxes up to the ceiling and then needs to sleep in the garden/pavement/shed - thats her choice !!

who is the adult here ?

whose house is it ?

who pays the mortgage ?


you are being manipulated by a teenager - take control !!!!

Her existing bedroom is already full of boxes everywhere :eek: :rotfl:

But yes, I know you are right. Just need to convince dd of that

Prudent

Max_Headroom wrote: »

I know I just couldn't live without my collection of 400 cuddly pandas.

Perhaps they would like some company... I have just the thing

Prudent

poppysarah wrote: »

Clutter will still be there in 30 years time if you don't shift it now.
You have to be firm. She should be allowed to keep a box of memories but bags of old toys and junk aren't needed.

A memory box sounds a great idea ... and hopefully I can persuade her to ebay the rest.

liz545

My boyfriend is about to move in with me, and I've been really struggling to persuade him to get rid of some of the clutter. What has eventually worked is explaining to him that if he ebays it, the money could all go in a separate savings account which was earmarked for travelling (the only thing he loves more than collecting books/music/studio equipment). This way, it's not like you're saying "get rid of your stuff", you're just suggesting something else they could have instead. Maybe there's something your daughter really wants that she'd be prepared to exchange for her clutter?

moanymoany

Prudent wrote: »

Her existing bedroom is already full of boxes everywhere :eek: :rotfl:

But yes, I know you are right. Just need to convince dd of that

Prudent, if you try to persuade her then you are giving her the power in the relationship. She is 16, you tell 16 year olds, give them wriggle room and they will wriggle right out of doing what you want.

Go ahead and get the new place you want. Say nothing, when it comes to moving it will all become obvious to her. Very often clinging to 'stuff' is clinging onto something else. Do you remember that wonderful programme 'Life Laundry', get the book out of the library and have a read, it will give you some ideas?

mishmash

Hiya

I have teenagers and I know they can be very untidy but this is really out of controll. If it were my DD I would be using that time old saying of "when you get your own house you can do what you like in it, but this is mine and these are my rules" and another I quite like is "while I am paying the mortgage and the bills I make the rules". It often has a sobering effect on my kids, I am quite relaxed generally as a parent but I am also in charge.

I struggled to understand from your post but it looks like you are loosing £600 per month in possible rent from your house, as a result of your daughters clutter?

I would sit her down, tell her you are moving explain how this will be of benefit to you financially and that it is what you want , also she will have 1 bedroom (of whatever dimension) only, for all her stuff. Offer to help her declutter with ebay or whatever and give her a deadline. If she chooses not to declutter tell her you will throw the lot away.

I think it's called tough love, you will laugh about it together one day.

Mish

arnie&caseysma!

If your daughter is managing to accumulate all these items and more, that she needs to use the loft/garage/spare room etc then I hate to say it but she is either getting far too much pocket money or making too much money in her job that she can just throw it away on stuff to go in the loft.

She has her bedroom in the house, all her items should be contained within there. I assume if they are in the loft then she has not even clapped eyes on them for some time therefore she doesn't need them.

Sell or get rid. And then start charging her rent for taking up all the extra space for so long and to make back some of what she has lost you.

I was paying digs to my parents at 16 years old - quite happily I may add because I knew it kept a nice warm roof over my head until I was ready to venture out into the world on my own.

Prudent

arnie&caseysma! wrote: »

If your daughter is managing to accumulate all these items and more, that she needs to use the loft/garage/spare room etc then I hate to say it but she is either getting far too much pocket money or making too much money in her job that she can just throw it away on stuff to go in the loft..

Job :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

She tells me she is too tired to get a job and it would effect her social life.

bubblesmoney

Prudent wrote: »

Job :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

She tells me she is too tired to get a job and it would effect her social life.

sounds like u r in for more trouble since she doesnt want to work. doesnt bode well for the future. best of luck