problem with bridesmaid sister - advice please!

Mandles

I had a lot to do with a very close relative on drugs. Drugs really affect their personality and she will be messed up with all the deaths you have had lately and drugs don't help you deal with it, just make it worse.
I totally believe in tough love & don't see why she should try and rule your wedding. I would just say i love you and always will as you are my sister but this is MY wedding and MY day. Wear this or this or don't be a bridesmaid,Choise is yours! (when i think of the awful dresses i have worn for weddings as a bridesmaid , it is part and parcel of weddings and you grin and bear it)

You are bending over backwards for her. It is a day when you can be selfish as it is all about you and your other half not her. So don't let her ruin it for you.

No one is going to help her all the time you are giving her money. So if you love her you have got to let her reach rock bottom & see how true her friends really are.She'll hopefully get back to her old self again and appreciate you for emotional support rather than financial support in the end.

Have a lovely wedding.

RoxieW

some people are so selfish! My sister in law (18 and a totally spoilt daddies little princess) didnt offer any help with our wedding and was just concerned with what shoes we were going to buy her. We went out of our way to include her, inviting her boyfriend who we hardly know to our small wedding at a cost to us of £100, buying her dress, a gift etc. She flounced out of our wedding half way through because she wasnt centre of attention. It definately put a dampner on our day with the relatives asking after her 'is she ok?' etc. Just what she wanted then! That was over a year ago and we havent spoken to her since. Until she grows up and apologises then I have no time for her. Sad thing is, I thought she'd be offended not to be bridemaid but turns out she couldnt give a crap.