need to get a council house

Prudent

mavric wrote: »

no but you were refering to bagage this means my family curcumstances .IE SON

I didn't mention baggage

As a teacher and a parent I value children

I am sure your were just having a joke. I was too - hence the stuck at tongue smiley at the end. Don't take it personally.

I know from experience that it is almost impossible to get a council house. I had to live below benefit levels for several years to buy and do up this house to give my daughter somewhere to live.

margaretclare

Steve, if you live in a 3-bedroom house now then the council will not be interested in rehousing you because you are not homeless. There are people sleeping on the streets at this moment who cannot get rehoused because the councils simply do not have the accommodation to spare.

I think the word 'baggage' does not refer to your son, but to your history of failed relationships. I had to smile at paddy's mum description of someone she knows. I was warned by friends and acquaintances about what could happen in 1997 when I offered a roof over his head to the man I'm now married to - they thought he was just looking for a port in a storm, a comfortable refuge, and he had 'baggage' too although not children - walked out on 2 marriages before? 'He left them, he'll leave you...' In fact it hasn't happened. Paddy's mum, sometimes it can work out for the best, and it did for us. You're right though about 'any woman with that amount of savvy...' I had never so much as asked a man in for a cup of tea before that!

Steve, perhaps you should be trying to repair this 'split' with your partner. After all, you had a child together - there must have been something there to start with that is worth rebuilding?

mavric

carolt wrote: »

I think it was a joke too.

Or am I missing something here?

thanks at least someone got the point.:beer:

claireac

When I first split up with xh our boys stayed with him to start with as I left him. I rented a tiny 2 bed house and applied for hb, when they came to assess the house even though I had two teenage boys staying every weekend, they said it was too big for my needs and therefore hb award would be adjusted accordingly.

I'd forget about getting a council house! There aren't enough to go round for the unintentionally homeless emergencies.........

paddy's_mum

mavric - I know very well that I was not slating you, nor insinuating anything untoward regarding you, your son or your circumstances. I simply responded to something that you had yourself instigated when you posted your comment about finding someone with her own property. I ended my post with an exclamation mark = jokey or flippant and not any kind of attack on you.

You later comment that posters should have thought through what they were going to say before they said it - pot calling the kettle ... ? Might it be that you are feeling a little sensitive at the moment and have misread other peoples' comments and observations about life and people (not specifically you) with a somewhat hurt outlook?

We all come with baggage. Again, not an insult just a simple statement of fact. The "baggage" is our life's history whether that history includes jobs, children, failed relationships, domestic violence, tragedy, bereavement or anything else that helps to mould us into what we are. Chill a bit .. but if what I said has offended you, then I can only apologise for doing so. It was not my meaning or my intention.

CHARDONNAY_3

Back to the original question - you could put your name on council list but you'll be waiting years.

Best option is to downsize.

You could also try Housing Associations - still a long wait but not as bad as council and often properties are better condition (esp flats which is all either will offer you)

PasturesNew

I had a 6-bed house, kept dropping hints that I was single with my own house.
Still nobody was interested.
Picky sods eh!

I think they wanted a pretty young girl

mavric

paddy's_mum wrote: »

mavric - I know very well that I was not slating you, nor insinuating anything untoward regarding you, your son or your circumstances. I simply responded to something that you had yourself instigated when you posted your comment about finding someone with her own property. I ended my post with an exclamation mark = jokey or flippant and not any kind of attack on you.

You later comment that posters should have thought through what they were going to say before they said it - pot calling the kettle ... ? Might it be that you are feeling a little sensitive at the moment and have misread other peoples' comments and observations about life and people (not specifically you) with a somewhat hurt outlook?

We all come with baggage. Again, not an insult just a simple statement of fact. The "baggage" is our life's history whether that history includes jobs, children, failed relationships, domestic violence, tragedy, bereavement or anything else that helps to mould us into what we are. Chill a bit .. but if what I said has offended you, then I can only apologise for doing so. It was not my meaning or my intention.

apology accepted it was probably just me flying off the handle its human nature to protect ones self from such attacks after reading your statement i know you did not mean it regards mavric.:beer:

mavric

PasturesNew wrote: »

I had a 6-bed house, kept dropping hints that I was single with my own house.
Still nobody was interested.
Picky sods eh!

I think they wanted a pretty young girl

lol did you ever meet mr right :rotfl:

neverdespairgirl

mavric wrote: »

lol did you ever meet mr right :rotfl:

She did - but his first name was "Always"....