I'm sorry, I'm letting everyone down.

sparky0107

IA,
I can see that this is upsetting you hun, hopefully it will all die down soon & MSE can get back on an even keel, you take care hun I know you've given a lot of people advice and support while you've been on here, whatever your decision about leaving or staying, I hope you will be happy in the future.

Take care

cat4772

Sarah

Just read from the beginning and I'd be very sorry to see you leave. I accept you AS YOU ARE. I don't want or need you to be the perfect DFWer (there's no such thing as perfect but you'd be close). I want you to be you. I want to know that you're reducing your debt and living, providing an enjoyable childhood for your children.

Please don't go

Cat.x

immoral_angeluk

sparky0107 wrote: »

IA,
I can see that this is upsetting you hun, hopefully it will all die down soon & MSE can get back on an even keel, you take care hun I know you've given a lot of people advice and support while you've been on here, whatever your decision about leaving or staying, I hope you will be happy in the future.

Take care

Thank you. To be honest I'm just shocked. This isn't the DFW I know and love and I think if I weren't so shocked I would just cry. The whole reason I was going to leave was the bullying, verbal attacks and nit picking and that all seems to been encapsulated in one thread and it's all my fault.

I'm really really sorry everyone.

bank_of_slate

Dear MoneySavers....

Debt Free Wannabee is one of my favourite boards on this site. It's also one which runs a delicate balance. Many people who have serious debts have hidden them for a time, been scared to confront them, suffered depression or have even had suicidal thoughts because of them.

While elsewhere on the site robust discussion is welcomed, in Debt Free Wannabee may I just caution MoneySavers to err on the side of kindness. Of course many are in debt due to over-spending, financial illiteracy, or mismanagement of money (and some through no fault, only due to circumstance). Yet the fact they are here means they're looking for help, guidance and to take charge of their finances - and that in itself is admirable

Please use your knowledge and kindness to help rather than to berate. This board often has the power to move me to tears with the sheer power of the community that's grown and I hope it will continue.

If you feel it’s important to point something out that the poster may find negative but needs to understand, then it's not a problem, but do think carefully about your phrasing - people can be very sensitive and nuances may mislead when it’s in an online Forum.>>
I love this forum. Many have been and seen through their debts. Yet as it gets larger it's easy for the 'anonymity' of posting to mean as well as protecting users, it's easy to 'post and leave'. I hope this note may act as a wee reminder what it's all about.

Martin


...Linda xx

tigtag02

immoral_angeluk wrote: »

Thank you. To be honest I'm just shocked. This isn't the DFW I know and love and I think if I weren't so shocked I would just cry. The whole reason I was going to leave was the bullying, verbal attacks and nit picking and that all seems to been encapsulated in one thread and it's all my fault.

I'm really really sorry everyone.

Sar

The degeneration of this thread is NOT your fault

Do what you feel is right honey but if you go and lose touch with me I'm coming to find you and chin you remember we are running the RFL together next year

ZTD

yellowmonkey wrote: »

Well then I beg to differ. I know what I read and My job means that I have to get my facts right and to collate information in case it goes to court.

The classic "appeal to authority" fallacy. A logical follow up to your previous ad hominem logical fallacy.

emily_jackson

Stop apologising Sarah, you've not done anything wrong. You're an inspiratrion to many people on here (including me), but I guess the downside of asking for advice on a forum is that you may not always like the advice you receive. I'm all for a discussion forum but I hate to see people not being treated with respect. That's why I regularly post on Pania's thread

ZTD

yellowmonkey wrote: »

I did not make it Up

Well there is a possibility that you (misread OR mistook) it.

The other side of that coin is that (fermi=(blind OR liar) AND Tigtag=(mistaken OR liar)).

Where the capital OR/AND is the relevant boolean operation.

Sorry for the maths bit - but to say that in prose was longwinded and prone to misinterpretation.

benbenandme

I really didn't want to get dragged into posting on this either, but please can we all think about te events of the last week on this board,what if Weller was lurking and saw how petty this all is on here tonight?? Come on guys, lets all agree to disagree and get back to the supportive place this normally is

scorched_earth_erotica

I've never spoken to you and have only read the first post, but just wanted to say that I hope you do come back and don't let some bad eggs run you out of town.