Breast feeding, pros and cons

neverdespairgirl

I tried a dummy with my son, and he'd never take it, just spat it out.

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neverdespairgirl wrote: »

I tried a dummy with my son, and he'd never take it, just spat it out.

Same here. My baby just used it as a chew toy for teething pains.

Hell_Dans_Un_Handcart

The research re. soothers was rather precariously interpreted, as I remember...the results showed that babies who normally had a soother succombed to SIDS on a night when they didn't have it (so you could say that the soother would save them, but only if they had begun to have one in the first place). Babies who never had a soother were no more likely to have SIDS.

I think it was Dr Brian Palmer who brought this to attention - would be worth a google for those interested.

It's also worth noting that baby using you as a "dummy" for the first month of breastfeeding or so is their way of continuing to stimulate your milk supply (it can take several months to regulate)

gemmaj

Mrs_Pepperpot - as well as "leak cups" and pads (disposable or washable) there are also LilyPadz. I think that the leak cups, whatever there proper name is, are only meant to be worn while feeding on the opposite side (this is what my Avent ones say). LilyPadz look like a giant suction cup to stop the milk flowing and can be worn day/night (just take off to feed!). Haven't tried them though, I only leak if I feed with no bra on!

Mrs_Pepperpot_2

carol9uk wrote: »

thanks again. to answer some question, am planning on getting a dummy when he is a month old, he is only 2 weeks, i am getting the one that helps prevents cot death. got very sore nipples at the start, they were bleeding, had nightmare at hospital as tested son to check it wasnt him, he was put through torture when they told his blood from around his body, anyway it was me. have cleared up now. would like the cot bed idea but dont have the space. will look into getting a sling, will have to ask m/w when i can use it as i had a c section.

well better get to sleep.

thanks again

Hi carol - you're doing really well. If it gets too much- before you jack it in completely then think about combining breast and formula. The purists will probably string me up for this but it was the only thing that kept me going with my first and I have done it from the start this time.

Basically DH does the 10pm feed with formula and I go to bed about 8.30pm. This means I don't have to feed again until 1/2am.

I know it's not as good as breastfeeding exclusively but it has to be better than just giving up. If my HV hadn't suggested this with DS1 I would have given up after 2 weeks or so - I can't do sleep deprivation - it makes me want to kill people!!!!

Thanks Gemma -will have a look. I'm still soaking the sheets at night. Maybe because of the 10pm formula feed - I'm sure it will settle eventually.

carol9uk

daphne_descends wrote: »

Carol you are doing so well, please come back if you need to talk or get more advice, you're doing a fantastic thing for your baby

I have got a Hotslings pouch in a size 4 you are welcome to if you want - PM me if so but there are loads to choose from

Hope you got some sleep x

thanks ive pmed you

Floxxie

I can't believe this thread is still going - or perhaps I can because of the subject matter!

Anyway, I think I posted a long time ago somewhere here...
my situation is that I can't breastfeed as I had a major breast reduction with everything cut. After my second and third children were born I had one duct working so obviously not enough to feed a child.
I had a reduction a year after my first son was born and I tried to BF him but of course smothered him (with my breasts, not literally!) and the whole process was unsuccessful given the fact that I hated my breasts.

Ironically when my second child came along I would have loved to have BF him but couldn't. We had already used bottles with first child and continued with second and now third and I have to say the biggest thing I have against FF is the cost and inconvenience. Having been out this week to buy some more SMA Gold, it has gone up in price so that effectively I am using my son's child benefit to pay for his formula milk.

It is also interesting that the dummy discussion has been raised. Not too long ago the use of dummies was frowned upon and now because a possible solution to SIDS has been mentioned, they are all the vogue. At least I have one less thing to feel guilty about :rotfl:

Floxxie

daphne_descends

Floxxie, the sad thing is that sometimes women having breast reduction surgery aren't even told about this as a possible result of the op

Hope it left you feeling much better though, a friend wants hers done so desperately, poor soul

Oh and the dummies thing - the research was funded by MAM and provides nothing more than a tenuous link! But the peace a dummy can provide is priceless and there's no reason to feel guilty is there? I wish my DS would take one, he just spat them out and screamed instead! :rotfl:

Floxxie

It was almost the first thing I was told when they were booking me in for my op - mind you I had postponed it as I got pregnant after losing the weight for the op.
Have to say despite the inability to BF, it was the best thing I ever did and changed my life. I lost 2 stones overnight and the backache disappeared. I went from a size 18 to a size 8 very quickly.

My 3 weren't/aren't keen on dummies - DS1 got rid of his at a year, DS2 at 16 weeks and DS3 well we wait to see. I find that all 3 wanted comfort and the dummy provides this. Pain in the ar*e though if DS3 wakes in the middle of the night searching for the thing!

Floxxie

onlyroz

Regarding dummies, I think they're prob OK as a temporary pacifier but some kids seem to hardly ever have the things out of their mouths. It makes me sad to see a baby in a push-chair with a glazed expression on its face, sucking away on a dummy like there's no tomorrow...