Story For Fathers Separated From Their Children

NAR

I had a messy divorce some 7 years ago and my vindictive ex-wife ensured my our two children were told sufficient lies to make them stop having contact with me. She also cut them off from seeing any of the family (on both sides) because all my in-laws continued to have contact with me.

I was told by friends and family that at some stage as they grew up they would realise they had not been told the truth and would want to see me again. As the years passed I found this harder to swallow and believe, but put on a brave face to those who said it.

Well on Monday my new wife and I were out for a meal with my sister in law and brother in law. Afterwards we went to a nearby pub for a few drinks. As the night wore on my brother in law went out for a smoke. My youngest daughter (20) came over and said hello to him. He told my daughter I was inside and she came in and we had a tearful reunion. :j I discovered she had left her mother some 4 months ago and was house sharing with 4 friends. She told me she had been hoping to meet me but had been unable to discover my exact address. The last two days have been a real voyage of discovery for us both, as all the lies were unravelled and I had to listen to horror stories of how she had been verbally and physically abused by her mother (which finally drove her into leaving). :mad: Now my mission is to "rescue" her sister too. One cracker of a lie she told them was that the court had given her jurisdiction over the kids until they were 25! :eek:

All the family that she has met so far have welcomed her with open arms, which ran very contrary to what her mother had told them about the relations all hating them. :mad: She now wants to meet everybody else as soon as possible.

So to all the fathers (and mothers in the same boat) out there I say, don't lose faith in the possibility you will be reunited with your kids.

Lady_Inversneckie

Awww NAR, I'm very happy for you.

Thank you for sharing it with mse.

Some good news.

:T

squidge60

i am so glad everythings come together for you sadly my bil hasnt seen his children for many years (his ex made sure of that )but at least there is hope for my bro hes had the lies false accusations so sad as its always the children who suffer and i really dont get how mums sleep at night! heartwarming to hear you are making up for lost time at least you have many years ahead of you to make up for the ones you were denied .best wishes x

scruffy96uk

Congrats it sooooo good having a happy ending although I'm sure it will be even happier once you see both your daughters.
All the best and keep us MSErs posted on your news

specialK

You must feel on top of the world! As the saying goes, the best things come to those who wait. Not that either of you deserved what you have been through.

I really don't understand how some people choose to do this, the kids are the ones who hurt most Why can't people just be amicable in public then pop pillows in private? My parents divorced when I was 5 years old and they decided they should remain friends for our sake. Even now friends of mine are baffled at the relationship they have as their own parents divorces got messy. There is no animosity at all and they can meet up and have a drink with their new partners, many people fail to look into the future and what harm they can be doing. I honestly believe they are better parents for splitting up.

Anyway, I hope you can build a lifetime of memories from now and wish you all the best in doing so.

Paparika

awww congrats NAR, hope it all goes well.

I split and divorced almost 10 years ago, i hate him i really do, he has been such an evil git, violent to me and vindictive with his lies.

But at the end of the day we had a child together and he has every right to see him as he wasn't violent to him (hit him once and i went ballistic)

I never let me son know i hate his father, but encourage the fortnightly visit, He's already come to realise his dad isn't the hero he thought he was.

Your time has come, enjoy it

littlepinky84

What Fantastic news, enjoy getting to know your daughter again

mspig

It is really lovely to hear, i had a messy break up when my son was 2years old hes just coming up to 12. Hes not had contact with his father since we split, but i have never told him horror stories about him(god knows i would love to and they would be the truth) and unbeknown by my husband i always try to know where my ex is living or working through third party just incase my son does ever want contact.
Not sure how it would go though as my ex decided he didn't want contact with his son and he tells people he hasen't got any children(hes not married or got any other children as far as i know).

Glad you've got your daughter back, and i hope you make contact with your other daughter.

zztopgirl

Great news and thanks for sharing:T

My daughter has been told lots of horrible things by her dad and his family, she even told me once that daddy told her that i never took her out anywhere when she was a baby. I just put on a brave face and keep completely quiet but we know she will figure out the full truth when she grows up. Mum and her family never said a bad word about daddy, yet daddy and his family constantly sl*gged them all off? I do have all the court paperwork full of his lies but thats another story and wont be shown to dd til she is ready.

Keeping everything crossed for you NAR that you have a reunion with your other daughter now.

To all those parents who do this to their children, im sure there is a special place reserved in H3ll for you all.:mad:

Js_Other_Half

My eldest godaughter was separated from her father by her Mum after a remarriage. There were no concerns about her biological father, but her new husband didn't want the child having contact! It took a private detective and 3 years to track her down. Contact with her father was sporadic at best, but she is now 15 and on Facebook He chats to her most days, and I'm hoping she is coming to visit us over the summer.

lady_stardust

Great news, I always believe that good will out in the end when it comes to these situations.