Depression Support Thread

Chollita

I bet you are drained, FG! Do think of yourself as well. Do some meditation or something. I've had a little think, and I won't stay away pemanently, you guys are too nice and supportive. I do need to take a break, though, as I have to concentrate on finishing a project, and finding more work. I still need a job, even if Mr C has one. Back later, Cholly xx

Tulip

Chollita wrote: »

I appear to have inadvertantly upset QB, so I'm not coming back, as I don't want a sour note to appear on this thread. Thanks to you lovely people for listening to me when I reached out, best of luck to you all. Cholly xx

:hello: Cholly,

Sorry to hear about this do come back sometime as I have liked chatting to you.

Katie

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope you are all ok.I am fine today,Got up late today as I dont seem to be able to get up earlier in the mornings I am seeing my parents today but not for lunch as they are just visiting me

I hope you all have a lovely day


*hugs* to those that need one,great to see you posting again Anni hope you are ok


love and light,

Katie xxx

geminilady

absolutebounder wrote: »

You cant please everyone all the time you know. Fake niceness is not support at all. If someone really takes offence over what is written on a public thread then that says as much about them as it does you. Why not just use the PM facility to explain you didnt mean any harm.

I agree that you cannot please everyone all the time but not sure what you mean by the rest of your comments.Who are you accusing of fake niceness? and what do you mean when you say "If someone takes offence over what is written on a public thread then that says as much about them as it does you? Although the comments were written on a public thread they were addressed personaly to QB and i can understand how he could have taken them the wrong way.I believe Chorlita was as she said just trying to add some humour to the board but when that humour is pointing out personal faults i do not find it suprising that it was taken with bad grace.I agree with your suggestion of using the pm facility.

LadyMorticia

Thanks for your concern lovelies.

I'm struggling at the moment, really struggling, which is why I hadn't been posting or coming online much as I didn't want to bring people down.

I'll be okay. I'm seeing my doctor tomorrow so will just spill everything out to her.lol.

xx

absolutebounder

geminilady wrote: »

I agree that you cannot please everyone all the time but not sure what you mean by the rest of your comments.Who are you accusing of fake niceness? and what do you mean when you say "If someone takes offence over what is written on a public thread then that says as much about them as it does you? Although the comments were written on a public thread they were addressed personaly to QB and i can understand how he could have taken them the wrong way.I believe Chorlita was as she said just trying to add some humour to the board but when that humour is pointing out personal faults i do not find it suprising that it was taken with bad grace.I agree with your suggestion of using the pm facility.

Sorry Gemini lady perhaps I could have written it better. The majority of people on here have never met in real life and so you dont really know the person you are being nice or nasty too which makes it all a bit pointless.
Communication is a 3 part thing. There are words but only about 7% of the communication is made up of words themselves. 38% comes from tonality and about 55% from body language. So on a forum it is easy to get the wrong end of the stick.
Take a sentence " you dont want to do that" and by raising the tone at the end as you say it, it becomes a question. Keep the tone level and its a statement. Lower the tone at the end its a command. 3 different meanings of a short sentence. You could say the sentence 6 times but this time leaning on a different word and give it 6 different interpretations.
Add to this body language smiling , frowning etc and you can see that words dont count for much.
As far as we know Chollita could have wanted to upset QB but by the use of the smileys I doubt it. I think she was saying it as a joke but it got taken the wrong way which is very easy to do on a forum.
If anyone takes offence at what is written on a forum by a stranger then they are not really understanding things. At the end of the day does what Chollita say affect who QB is? He is still QB and nothing changes unless of course he needs to hear nice comments to massage his ego. In reality being male he has probably forgotten about it by now anyway.

shazrobo

LadyMorticia wrote: »

Thanks for your concern lovelies.

I'm struggling at the moment, really struggling, which is why I hadn't been posting or coming online much as I didn't want to bring people down.

I'll be okay. I'm seeing my doctor tomorrow so will just spill everything out to her.lol.

xx

hi ladym, sorry to hear your struggling right now, feel free to post hun, we here to support each other thats what we do best.
big hugs
shaz xxx

Diamond78

Hello All,
Hope everyone is well and looking after themselves. Have quickly come on for 5 minutes before I go and do dinner.
Sorry to hear those that are having a bad time.
Gillette sending you hugs.
FG, glad you supported your friend even though it was draining.
Anni, nice to see you back hun, hope you feel better soon.
Katie, glad you are well and hope the tiredeness wears off.
Shaz, you ok hun?
Hi KentishLady and everyone else.
My son is doing my head in at the moment. He has such an attitude sometimes and his only 6. He is being so naughty. So he is now on the naughty step and throwing his toys down the stairs and demanding his dinner and telling me how Im making him starve. I could tear my hair out at the moment. I have never made him starve.His crying and going on and on. I dont need this right now. Arrggghhh how do ppl cope when a child goes off on one????I am trying to ignore him but its not working.
Better go and cook his dinner,I am nothing but a slave and never feel appreciated. I still have over 10 years of this to go through and it wont be getting any easier.
My head hurts now.

Anyway chat soon my lovely friends

Hugs to u all xxx

alba37

Diamond78 wrote: »

Hello All,
Hope everyone is well and looking after themselves. Have quickly come on for 5 minutes before I go and do dinner.
Sorry to hear those that are having a bad time.
Gillette sending you hugs.
SF or was it FG, glad you supported your friend even though it was draining.
Anni, nice to see you back hun, hope you feel better soon.
Katie, glad you are well and hope the tiredeness wears off.
Shaz, you ok hun?
Hi KentishLady and everyone else.
My son is doing my head in at the moment. He has such an attitude sometimes and his only 6. He is being so naughty. So he is now on the naughty step and throwing his toys down the stairs and demanding his dinner and telling me how Im making him starve. I could tear my hair out at the moment. I have never made him starve.His crying and going on and on. I dont need this right now. Arrggghhh how do ppl cope when a child goes off on one????I am trying to ignore him but its not working.
Better go and cook his dinner,I am nothing but a slave and never feel appreciated. I still have over 10 years of this to go through and it wont be getting any easier.
My head hurts now.

Anyway chat soon my lovely friends

Hugs to u all xxx

Hi D, poor you. I can totally empathise! Mine's now 15 and can be a total rat sometimes still! I think the only way is to try and ignore him, I know it doesn't really work... but can't think of anything else tbh.

Hopefully he'll be out his mood soon.

Enjoy dinner.

A x

Diamond78

Thanks Alba hun, his being all nice now as if nothings happened. I sometimes cook dinner before he comes home from school and sometimes after he gets in. Sometimes ds has no patience lol, maybe its coz he is a male.No offence to our lovely male friends on here but it is the truth lol.
I can relax a bit now, done the dishes now having a fag and cappacino(sorry for spelling)....
Sorry to hear your not feeling to good. I hope you feel better real soon.
Ccstar, hope you feel better soon too hun.
Hugs to all x