What would you do?

skintas_2

im sorry to hear this , sounds like a nitemare situation, arethe parents whos party it was are they being supportive of you, or are they in denial that a friend/visitor to theyre home could do this to a child at there own childs party.. does this person , the accused have any children of there own......... hope you get it all sorted out.... x x

MrsTinks

Definitely call the police - calling the police doesn't constitute an official complaint unless you want it to be. They take these things very seriously but if you want a non-official solution then they'll often support that too.
More to the point, you are looking at this from a SINGLE incident point of view... What if this parent/adult already has past reported incidents? What if they work in a nusery/school?
Even if it was accidental then it needs to be dealt with and sorted out.

bestpud

It is really difficult to make a judgement based on the info you have provided (I understand your reasons for not putting details though) but I just can't see how a child can be deliberately beaten at a party.

I would back the people who have said contact your local police, if you are even thinking ab out making a complaint) and ask their opinion. I wouldn't leave it too late to do so though, as there is less staff on at night and you may well have a longer wait.

I'm assuming you know this woman quite well if you are going to ask her about it? I think if you are going to do this (and it's likely she already knows via other people) then take someone with you.

I really don't know what I would do tbh. How likely is your ds to come across this woman again?

squidge60

if he was pale and shaken and subdued i would be bothered most kids love partys and even if it was horseplay it was a step to far.i think the person who did this needs to realise its not acceptable horseplay or not i would report it.bottom line is i guess if you dont do anything about it and when he gets older he says to you it was someone really angry and nasty to him you are going to beat yourself up over it.hope it turns out ok.x

morganb

Whether it was horseplay or not, these injuries are not acceptable.

If a child in my class came to school, got changed for PE and I witnessed these injuries, for example, I would certainly be speaking to the Headteacher for advice.

lilac_lady

I would have taken him to the doctors and then contacted the police. I wouldn't go near the woman involved as a surprise visit from the police might do her more good than an argument with you. I hope your son recovers quickly but I know that it'll take longer for you. Good luck.

RedBern

I don't think I'd advise approaching this person yourself. You are obviously concerned about the injuries to your son - and I'd be inclined to believe his account of what happened. I'd go to the police station and ask to speak to a family support officer or someone who is used to dealing with children, and explain what has happened. Ask them their advice, and leave it to them to deal with. As someone has already said, this lady should have been waiting at the door to the party with an explanation and apology for you. this hasn't been forthcoming - so you need to take the initiative. Leave it to the professionals to deal with.

Loretta

If you are concerned, and you obviously are, you are probably correct that something is very 'not right' here. Go with your feeling.

Go to your GP if you want to, I don't think that there is any need just yet, report it to the police and ask for their advice. You report what you think is a crime and it is their job to investigate and decide what to do about it. As has been said they may already know something about this woman, or have had other incidents which are not as serious and have been unable to do too much about it, but by you reporting your incident they may have just what they need or be able to add it to what they already know to build a picture. I am sure the police will take their own photos and I expect it has to be done in their way. They may get their own doctor to look at the injuries too. If you think your boy needs some treatment or some help go to your GP but I would not delay any longer going to the police.

I would not go and see her and would stop discussing it with anyone else because I think that will complicate things and make it harder for the police to do their job.

Go with your first feeling and get it dealt with, your boy deserves to be taken seriously and should not have to endure this, it is not acceptable and he will very much welcome your support and help I am sure
No I don't think anyone will think that you are over reacting, tell the police and see what happens.

There is no excuse for these injuries to happen, if they were deliberate that is very serious if they were the result of over enthusiastic horseplay this woman has to be told officially that this behaviour is completely unacceptable