Miserable first time buyer with buyers remorse

PositivelyPerturbed · 10 March 2018 at 8:47PM

Spent all afternoon making myself ill and crying which is totally counter productive so figured I'd come onto here for some guidance and proactive words instead.
My husband and I scrimped and saved to buy our first house. We had no help from anyone and we have rented and lived in many hovels and dumps over the years. We moved to a much cheaper area and bought a fixed upper. We got it for a decent price and viewed it twice. It backs onto the A470 motorway in Wales. We have lived in busy city centres and by main roads before so we are not hypersensitive to noise. We have lived here for a week and had double glazing installed before we moved in. However, I am finding it insufferable and miserable living here as we failed to hear or notice the damn cattle grid that is about 30ft from the back of our house and making a heck of a racquet day and night :-( I feel ill just being here. I am already looking at secondary glazing as a matter of urgency and my husband is going to cement all around the new windows internally tomorrow instead of the expanding foam. I feel like we have made the most expensive mistake of our lives though.

Mickygg · 10 March 2018 at 9:11PM

Secondary or triple Glaxing may help.

Unfortunately as I found out when you view a house you don't notice the noise level. It's a different ball game when you are laying in bed and then hear the noise.

You do get used to the noise. I lived near a main road and I zone out to the noise when in the garden.

Until you get used to the noise and stop you going mad put the radio on, turn tv up loud, invest in some noise cancelling headphones. This way you well get some rest from the noise.

However backing on to an A road (a motorway is another level) you can't get away from the noise. Give it time, then if still terrible you'll have no option but to move.

HampshireH · 10 March 2018 at 9:12PM

The cattle grid will be like any other noise. You will adjust to it.

I lived right on a train line. 1st 2 weeks were hell. 3am every morning a freight train went past and then the other started.

2 weeks in and I didn't even notice it anymore

pinkshoes · 10 March 2018 at 9:18PM

You are being over-sensitive and daft.

Week 1 noises are annoying, but give it a couple of months and you won't even notice them.

You are spending too much time an energy focusing on this, and should instead be making it feel like your home.

I live under an RAF flight path. It drove me NUTS to begin with, but now I quite like all the random aircraft overhead.

The most annoying noise is my husband's snoring if he has had too much beer...

rach_k · 10 March 2018 at 9:31PM

As others have said, you'll get used to it, although it doesn't feel like it now.

I'd always lived next to very busy roads with single glazed windows so thought I was pretty insensitive to noise... until we moved into our current house which is on a fairly quiet little street but has a guy with scrap metal trucks living opposite us. The trucks being started and warmed up every morning, then leaving and returning every few hours drove me up the wall for the first few months and I felt like we'd made a huge mistake. I felt awful but couldn't do anything about it. A few months later, I didn't hear it any more. Just give it some time.

ACG · 10 March 2018 at 9:36PM

I moved to a place once on one of the main roads in to Manchester city centre. It was horrible for 2-3 weeks.

After that I started to sleep through it.

If the property is a fixer upper, get it fixed up and sell it on. Rather than look at it as a long term investment, just look at it as something for the next 6-12 months.

Fosterdog · 10 March 2018 at 9:36PM

I'm very noise sensitive and my one house had a trainline on one side with just one other terraced house in between and a pub with a loud extractor fan two doors down in the other direction, the main road through the village running in front of the house, and they all drove me nuts for the first few months but you do eventually get used to it and in time you stop even noticing it.

Pa_Ja · 10 March 2018 at 9:51PM

As others have said, your tolerance levels will adjust, the noise will become second nature. Give it time.
And I strongly advise you don't throw anymore money at attempting to sound proof your house as you will no doubt still be able to hear the sound and you'll be feeling worse for it.

Bogof_Babe · 10 March 2018 at 10:00PM

When I worked in a hotel the live-in accommodation was about 50 metres from a church, whose bells chimed every 15 minutes day and night, and gonged the count of each hour, so if I was asleep at midnight I was immediately wide awake. But after a few weeks I never noticed it and slept right through.

Give it a while, and try not to anguish yourself about it, it's not going to change anything if you have a breakdown.

PositivelyPerturbed · 10 March 2018 at 10:07PM

I hope you're right about me adjusting to the noise - my earplugs aren't even helping and I feel tired and fed up. On top of that, our puppy is being the devil incarnate, bless him. Why is house buying so bloody horrendous in this country?!

DavidF · 10 March 2018 at 10:14PM

The main point here being don't fight it...give in to it, by all means install secondary glazing ect but after that then just leave it, Concentrate on your vision, get to know your neighbors...say hello, it all helps your state of mind.

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