Real life MMD: She dumped my son - should I make her pay for the holiday

Former_MSE_Debs · 2 July 2012 at 1:05PM

Money Moral Dilemma: She dumped my son - should I make her pay for the holiday?

I booked a holiday for me, my partner, our son and his girlfriend to go to Orlando using air miles for the flight. The four tickets were free, but taxes worked out at £450 for each seat, plus £80 for a connecting flight. We didn't ask our son's girlfriend to contribute. She dumped him last week. Should we ask her to pay for the taxes and economy ticket cost?

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nutty_girl_2001 · 3 July 2012 at 5:47PM

Whether it was real money or air miles, you earned them, and she asked you pay for her via those air miles, rather than her contribute cash (that is assuming she wanted to go!)

I would therefore say you should ask for whatever the economy ticket would have cost AT THE TIME YOU BOOKED THE TICKETS, and try and see if your soon has a friend who'd like to go in her place. He sounds like he could do with a break :S

geri1965_2 · 3 July 2012 at 5:55PM

You didn't ask her to contribute at the time, so why would you now? Sour grapes?

AnnaLicious_2 · 3 July 2012 at 8:43PM

You can usually reclaim the tax for a cancelled flight, so you're not out of pocket. And your airline may credit back your miles.

Let your son fight his own battles, if you go after this girl for money it will make him look like a child.

Sagz_2 · 3 July 2012 at 9:04PM

Has your son got a friend he could invite? If you ask them to cover your costs they still get a cheap hoilday and all it's cost you are some airmile points.

timbstoke · 4 July 2012 at 12:31AM

Absolutely not. You wouldnt have asked her to pay if they were still together, so you're not actually out of pocket as a result of the breakup. Don't make an already difficult situation for your son worse by making a big deal out of the money side of it. Invite a friend (yours or his) instead.

mum2one · 4 July 2012 at 12:43AM

you dodn't ask her to contribute at the start, if you did now it would look like sour grapes, is there anyone who can take the seat over. But before u ask around check what the costs are, as they may treat it as a cancellation, and they someone else would get a big shock,

scotsbob · 4 July 2012 at 2:19AM

If this happened a week ago then he must have a new girl by now, why not let the new one go along?
May cost a few pounds for a name change but that's better than losing out.

scoobydoobydoo · 4 July 2012 at 2:43AM

You can ask, but dont expect to see a penny as it was all goodwill and gifts. And count this as a win, if she was a total b*tch she would have stayed with him until after the holiday and dumped him then!

brewerdave · 4 July 2012 at 7:14AM

It's not clear whether you have actually been on the holiday or not - but either way can't see any benefit in asking the ex to pay anything.
If the holiday is in the future just find someone else to go!!

avinabacca · 4 July 2012 at 7:23AM

£450 taxes per seat????????

Yikes. How's that calculated, then? Really, genuinely confused by this.

Real life MMD: She dumped my son - should I make her pay for the holiday

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