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It seems my parents are not good enough
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On the basis of the dog incident, if it were my child, I wouldn't let them babysit at all. I'm sorry.:heartsmil When you find people who not only tolerate your quirks but celebrate them with glad cries of "Me too!" be sure to cherish them. Because these weirdos are your true family.0
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I agree with Whitewing and OP's OH too - clearly your mother is unable to prioritise your baby / her granddaughter above the dog.
There is no way you should expect your OH to agree to the baby going to your mothers.Thrifty Till 50 Then Spend Till the End
You can please some of the people some of the time, all of the people some of the time, some of the people all of the time but you can never please all of the people all of the time0 -
I agree, I wouldn't let my baby anywhere near a jealous dog.A minute at the till, a lifetime on the bill.
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Women often have trust issues with anyone other than their own mothers.
Get everyone together for an informal meal and decide on babysitting rules and make it clear that if they cant adhere to the rules then they cant babysit. Make the rules apply to everyone so as no one feels picked on.That mrs macchicken to you!0 -
Your OH may also be concerned with the potential risk to the baby of being involved in an accident with all that travel.
What happens if the baby is ill? Someone still has to stay off work until your mother gets there? I don't think the travelling part makes it feasible either regardless of whether baby stays at home or goes elsewhere (speaking as someone who worked while DS was a baby).:heartsmil When you find people who not only tolerate your quirks but celebrate them with glad cries of "Me too!" be sure to cherish them. Because these weirdos are your true family.0 -
totally agree it is inappropriate for your mum to babysit - your OH is right. this is one area where your OH and baby must come first not your mums feelings. Maybe you need a full and frank discussion about the dog and hygiene standards and see if mum is prepared to changei'm living in a parallel universe0
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Ok you sound like a troll to me but I'll give you the benefit of the doubt:
If I were your OH there's not a snow balls chance in hell that I'd let your Mum look after my baby. You say yourself that your Mum was stupid enough to allow you sister to be scarred by a previous dog; you give her a chance to look after your baby in her home and she's obviously not learnt her lesson and leaves another large jealous dog to roam near your child.
You should count yourself lucky your OH is willing to let your Mum look after your baby at all; and you should ask yourself why you're prepared to put your child in a potentially dangerous situation.
Given that its a 60mile round trip could you not but the baby in day care for one day or let your MIL have the baby for 3 days a week; that way when you do see your Mum its on your terms and you don't have to worry about the dog.0 -
thanks for your help guys. sometimes it takes an overwhelming reply of no to make me realise that i am wrong. yes you lot are right. thank you.0
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macchicken wrote: »Women often have trust issues with anyone other than their own mothers.
Get everyone together for an informal meal and decide on babysitting rules and make it clear that if they cant adhere to the rules then they cant babysit. Make the rules apply to everyone so as no one feels picked on.
I would think the same as your wife. Both my daughters have attended nursery when I returned to work and thrived on it, as long as there is a happy medium for everyone it will work out ok.
Think the key here is to talk it out and explore other options, maybe rearrange hours or choose a nursery one day a week, children do love to be around other children
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Surely this is a troll???0
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