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HOw do I manage all the presents my 6 year old will be getting for birthday
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Newly_retired wrote: »60 children!!!
So now they all have to invite your child back, whether they can afford it or not?
Why do they HAVE TO invite you back? i would certainly not want all my son's party guest inviting him just for that reason. Some families just want closer friends or just close families to their party & I would not want them inviting me just because they were at my son's party.
So would you not goto a party because you MUST return with a party for them at a later date??????“…the ‘insatiability doctrine – we spend money we don’t have, on things we don’t need, to make impressions that don’t last, on people we don’t care about.” Professor Tim Jackson
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Newly_retired wrote: »60 children!!!
So now they all have to invite your child back, whether they can afford it or not?
No not at all, i think my son has been invited to 5 parties in the last year. 2 of which he couldnt make as we had prior arrangemets. But he still sent a card.
There are no expectations at all. The childs parents can stay and eat too or go if they want to, everyone is welcome.:TIs thankful to those who have shared their :T
:T fortune with those less fortunate :T
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You don't dictate what people should give to you - that's rude
You don't ask for money - that's rude
You don't take a child's presents away from them - it's not your place
My background, to give just for the sack of it is rude! Wasting their money & consuming just for the sake of it. If I gave your child a knife you would be rude by taking that dangerous present from him/her as it does belong to her. For me it is wrong for my son to be swamped with a mass of stuff & it is against our values.
People enjoy giving & people want to give whether the present is wanted or not; so I will ensure that much less fortunate children can have a much valued Christmas.“…the ‘insatiability doctrine – we spend money we don’t have, on things we don’t need, to make impressions that don’t last, on people we don’t care about.” Professor Tim Jackson
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i like the idea of giving to children less fortunate butMy background, to give just for the sack of it is rude! Wasting their money & consuming just for the sake of it. If I gave your child a knife you would be rude by taking that dangerous present from him/her as it does belong to her. For me it is wrong for my son to be swamped with a mass of stuff & it is against our values.
People enjoy giving & people want to give whether the present is wanted or not; so I will ensure that much less fortunate children can have a much valued Christmas.
i feel for your six year old .. hes being given with one had and taken away with a nother
i very much doubt any one would be giving him a knife
i think you would be better of suggesting that people give no presents than to ask for money or vouchers and then you won't have to dissapoint your child by forcing him to choose which friends presents he takes and which ones you give to charity
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Well tough!
It's a gift.
Definition of a gift: –noun 1.something given voluntarily without payment in return, as to show favour toward someone, honor an occasion, or make a gesture of assistance; present.
You don't dictate what people should give to you - that's rude
You don't ask for money - that's rude
You don't take a child's presents away from them - it's not your place
If someone asks you what to get, well that's different, but you wait to be asked first.
If you don't want the gifts - then don't invite the people in the first place. Don't expect people who are invited to a birthday not to bring presents - it's not the way we do things in this country.
And don't insult people by telling them what to bring either - or they'll think you rude and inappropriate (unless that's how you want to be perceived by your son's classmate's parents? - in which case, carry on.....)
I would be devastated as a child if someone took my presents away. Can't imagine anything more cruel.From Poland...with love.
They are (they're) sitting on the floor.
Their books are lying on the floor.
The books are sitting just there on the floor.0 -
That's so naff - if you were going to be mercenary, I'd much rather you were honest than tried to dress it up in such a vomit-inducing cutesy manner.
Vomit inducing cutesy :rotfl:
If only you knew!
It's not something I'd ever do- but then I'd never feel duty-bound to invite so many kids to a birthday party either. My kids have their friends round. I can't be doing with people feeling obligated to keep up with the Joneses, and the seeming need for parents to outdo eachother all the time.
Where will it all end?
However, there have been times when I've been stuck for ideas when the voucher option, had it been suggested as an alternative, would have come as a relief.
Only dead fish go with the flow...0 -
My background, to give just for the sack of it is rude! Wasting their money & consuming just for the sake of it. If I gave your child a knife you would be rude by taking that dangerous present from him/her as it does belong to her. For me it is wrong for my son to be swamped with a mass of stuff & it is against our values.
Sorry, I haven't got a clue what this all means?
What has all this got to do with you supplying illegal weapons to my kids? Are you stating that you think that some parents may be thinking of giving your son knives for his birthday?
Where do you live? Kabul?
I don't understand what the first two sentences even mean?"One day I realised that when you are lying in your grave, it's no good saying, "I was too shy, too frightened."
Because by then you've blown your chances. That's it."0 -
LOL at the idea of a an adult giving a 6 year old a knife!
As If!
IMHO He is 6 for gods sake, let him have his presents. If you dont want the unwanted clutter then dont bother inviting so many. In my family it is wrong to assume anything you get what your given and if you dont like it then tough,0 -
mrcow i think the OP is saying that if they gave your child a knife, then you would take it off them because you don't want them to have it, (ermm and rightly so !!!!!! lol!!) so its the same as the Op taking a present/s from her child because she doesn't want him to have it/them.
I don't think it matters what culture you follow, there is no need to be ungrateful. It does sound though that you want to CHOOSE what your son receives because you don't want him to have a load of presents which won't be upto your standard.Tank fly boss walk jam nitty gritty...0 -
My background, to give just for the sack of it is rude! Wasting their money & consuming just for the sake of it. If I gave your child a knife you would be rude by taking that dangerous present from him/her as it does belong to her. For me it is wrong for my son to be swamped with a mass of stuff & it is against our values.
People enjoy giving & people want to give whether the present is wanted or not; so I will ensure that much less fortunate children can have a much valued Christmas.
Next year it might be an idea for you to just invite those from your "background". :rolleyes:
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Yes it looks like we made it to the end0
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