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We are being evicted, some advice please...... the date has arrived......
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Hey blue, I'm in hertfordshire too, hatfield. If there's anything at all that I can do please yell. Anything at all from moving to babysitting, I'm here.:A
:A"Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid" - Albert Einstein0 -
At least you have a date now, even if its not much consellation.I hope the council pull there fingers out and that the MP gives you the support you need.I'm sending virtual best wishes.wish I could do more!!!!!lost my way but now I'm back ! roll on 2013
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Thanks everyone, yes, something to focus on really more than anything else. At least we know the end is in sight and it'll be over one way or the other by Mid May. Not long really.
I am just getting sick of not being told anything to be honest as I feel that I have no control over the kids futures. I forgot to say earlier that when i questioned the lady about what would happen she told me that They 'there was nothing suitable for us at the moment' - so maybe this mean that they are looking out for us if something comes in? It was the way she said it so you never know I suppose but am not holding my breath anymore.
I wanted to explain about the school I send my son to, so you can understand why I want to keep him there. Today he met one of his friends on the way to school and had an absolute mare as he could not go into class with him. I dragged him into school (as he was refusing to go in) and he laid on the floor, I managed to get his coat off and carried him and his shoes to the classroom while he was crying (he has this fake moaning noise he makes) and refused to get his shoes on.
I put him on the floor and the nursery assistant came over and said 'come on Ryan, the milk is here for you, I need you to get it ready' and she said 'come on get your shoes on' and he had his shoes on in an instant and everything was forgotten as he had this little job to focus on now. If he did not have this job he would have had a tantrum with me leaving and he would have hidden under the table, cried and refused to speak to anyone and this is when he lashes out at the other kids and hurts them.
And it is just little things like this really, the school are so accomodating towards his condition and they are so nice to him, I feel sad to think that he might not get this elsewhere and I have to take this away from him. What if no other school will have him, or will not be patient enough to want him or accept his condition?
I know it is stupid but this is the only thing worrying me about the whole thing if I am really honest with myself. Do they expect me to change schools when we go to the hostel and then we will have to change again when we get somewhere to live? what if the schools are full and there is nowhere for them to go? Am I stupid for worrying about these things?
Anyway, have a cracking headache I think the lack of sleep since November is finally getting on top of me as I feel exhausted all the time but when I was not sleeping I was OK I guess. I shall leave you all in peace. Thanks for listening.0 -
Hey blue, I'm in hertfordshire too, hatfield. If there's anything at all that I can do please yell. Anything at all from moving to babysitting, I'm here.
Thank you Toto, that is kind of you. LOL, babysitting, not sure you would want that job with mine, it comes with bruises I am afraid, LOLThank you once again though for your kind offer, we are about 20 minutes from Hatfield by car so not too far. x
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Hey there
I can't offer anything in the way of anything useful. However, I just wanted to send you big cyber hugs. You are having such a terrible time and I feel so bad for you.
Sounds to me like you're a great Mum - having a child with Aspberger's can't be easy and surely the council will understand that you don't want to re-school him and move him again. I can't think that you'd have to do that.
Anyway, nothing helpful - just very very big hugs to you
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Hi Bm,
Reading your posts today has brought a real sense of deja-vu to me. The 'what ifs' and 'when' s soon to become 'why's' and 'why nots' are oh so familiar to me. I'm afraid that you will be left on tenterhooks right until the very last moment if the council are left to decide your 'fate' - you may not even find out where you will be going until the afternoon of the day before you are due to leave your home!
Gosh, I'm so sorry that sounds really harsh but its what happened to me and to others I have since met - I think it is so very cruel and does absolutely nothing to help alleviate your worries and depression over your situation.
The likelihood is that the council will move you into temporary accomodation whilst they decide whether you have made yourself intentionally homeless (I know you haven't) then even if they decide they will house you you will probably have to stay there until a suitable property becomes available - if they decide you are IH then please ring me and I will give my solicitors details for appeal!
I really feel for you BM, call me if you'd like to meet up for a coffee and a chat xxChristians Against Poverty - www.capuk.org0 -
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And it is just little things like this really, the school are so accomodating towards his condition and they are so nice to him, I feel sad to think that he might not get this elsewhere and I have to take this away from him. What if no other school will have him, or will not be patient enough to want him or accept his condition?
I know you're happy with your sons school and the way they "accomodate his condition" but I'd like to think that most schools would do this.I currently volunteer in 2 primary schools.They have children with "problems" as they are often described.They have teaching assistants employed to support the children and the teachers.
I'm sure that if you discussed your child's individual needs to the new school should their be one then everything possible should be done to make the transition as smooth as possible.
If you know an area that you may end up in is it worth visiting schools in the area? This would give you a little insight in how the school works ect.
All schools should welcome visitors even if you're not going to be going there.
I appreciate you might not know where you will be housed but if you know an area then it should be easy to find the schools in that area and plan some visits.
I know changing schools is one of the most worrying factors for you at the moment and I just wanted to try and give you some reasurance.
I'm sorry if I've not explained what i wanted to say properly.On reading it back it sounds more like a ramble LOl.Sorry:olost my way but now I'm back ! roll on 2013
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blue_monkey wrote: »Thank you Toto, that is kind of you. LOL, babysitting, not sure you would want that job with mine, it comes with bruises I am afraid, LOL
Thank you once again though for your kind offer, we are about 20 minutes from Hatfield by car so not too far. x
Bruises bah, I'm immuneI have a daughter with severe autism, I've seen (and felt) it all. I understand so much about how you feel about Ryan's school, these things are important and I know from experience they are a bigger worry that anything else. But one day at a time honey, cross every bridge only when you get there. Life with children with special needs is a day by day thing and we could worry ourselves into an early grave.
So, deal with what's on your plate this minute and worry about tomorrow when it gets here. That's how I've got through many a nightmare.
I'll drop you a pm, please please call on me if you need anything, even if it's just somewhere to come and have a good moan with a glass of wine.:A
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If your son has been statemented and the school named as the most appropriate school for him, Hertfordshire should provide transport to take him to school. Hertfordshire schools transport provides so much transport in my area, its probably larger than the housing budget! In my area there are county coaches running to the schools and taxis with escorts taking individual children to schools. If they can't provide transport, they will pay towards your costs.
Link to Hertfordshire transport policy:
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Good point silver, doh, forgot about that even though Amber has a bus pick her up every day :rolleyes:
The transport is great and the kids seem to love it, they are all grown up getting on the bus and the escorts (not the dodgy ones) are really good with the kids.
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