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    • kdalwayskint
    • By kdalwayskint 2nd Mar 18, 11:40 PM
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    2019 Wedding
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    • 2nd Mar 18, 11:40 PM
    2019 Wedding 2nd Mar 18 at 11:40 PM
    I was looking for a post for any 2019 weddings but couldn't find one!

    We've been together since May 2009 and engaged since January 2010. H2B got a nice bonus at Christmas so now is able to pay for his divorce and have a nice amount to go towards the wedding. I'm saving my half.

    I think we are aiming for a budget of 3000 but going to save around 4000. We're hoping to have all the money saved by December.

    We've been looking at venue's and other things we're being realistic and not booking anything until the divorce comes through, but hoping we'll know exactly what we want so that we can get on and book things when it does.

    Hoping to catch up with any other 2019 brides/grooms

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    Last edited by kdalwayskint; 30-08-2018 at 12:14 PM. Reason: Added dates :)
    Saving for Christmas 2018 ~ 231.46/365
    Wedding Fund 1500/1500
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    • xironsongx
    • By xironsongx 10th Mar 18, 5:34 PM
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    • 10th Mar 18, 5:34 PM
    Hey . We're looking to get married in 2019 around September time.

    We have a budget of 4,000 but I do want to try and save 5,600 for it so we have wiggle room.

    We sorta got everything sorted but we just need to find a venue and all the big bits. My H2B wants to waot until we saved all the money before we pay out... which I sorta disagree with but I completely understand why.

    We have 900.80 saved in our bank account and 39 in our piggy bank.

    Today I'm contacting venues and photographers .

    How's things going with you
    Engaged 01-09-17 Wedding 519.78 (BA) 80.22 (Sp) / 5,600 5,000 left to save
    • pinkflump
    • By pinkflump 12th Mar 18, 1:23 PM
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    • 12th Mar 18, 1:23 PM
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    • 12th Mar 18, 1:23 PM
    Hey ladies, another 2019 bride here! Our date is set for 30 November 2019 and our venue is booked. I've just had a lovely big PPI reclaim come through so that's paid off around a third of the wedding already. H2B is working all the overtime under the sun and I'm ramping things up with my home business to pay for the rest

    We have an all inclusive package at our venue so our to-buy list looks like this:

    Photographer
    Dresses (bride and bridesmaids)
    Suits (Groom, Best Man, FOTB)
    Rings
    Cake
    Honeymoon

    Hair/Makeup is being done by friends/family so don't need to worry about that.

    Our budget is around 15,000
    2018 wins: 150 swimming vouchers, 195 LK Bennett "Peggy" Tote
    • elleJay42
    • By elleJay42 12th Mar 18, 5:10 PM
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    • 12th Mar 18, 5:10 PM
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    • 12th Mar 18, 5:10 PM
    Hello! I'm another 2019 bride, we're getting married 25th May next year.

    We've been together since May 2008 so I've had plenty of time to plan the day in my head!

    Our budget is also about 15,000 but doing everything within my power to get that down!

    We have 100 during the day and 130 at night so that's what's ramping up the costs at the moment... both our sets of parents are divorced and remarried and all our brothers and sisters have spawned so there's no getting the numbers down unfortunately but we've got it all budgeted and there'll be no debt at the end of it (and I should be debt free in May this year too thanks to MSE!)

    Looking forward to hearing how everyone is getting on with planning!
    Total debt at LBM = 4861.03

    DFBXmas2018 #91 - 2997 / 3500 (85.6%)

    HTB ISA - 0 withdrawn for house purchase!
    Wedding Fund 1700 / 5000
    • xironsongx
    • By xironsongx 14th Mar 18, 8:31 PM
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    • 14th Mar 18, 8:31 PM
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    • 14th Mar 18, 8:31 PM
    It's tricky for us. We want a budget of 5,000 but we're now not planning anything until we have a substantial amount saved up. So I've gotta stop wedding planning and contacting venues until we have that money.

    He wants to pay everything off all at once rather in instalments so our wedding could be next year or later
    Engaged 01-09-17 Wedding 519.78 (BA) 80.22 (Sp) / 5,600 5,000 left to save
    • lola25
    • By lola25 14th Mar 18, 9:38 PM
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    • 14th Mar 18, 9:38 PM
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    • 14th Mar 18, 9:38 PM
    Good evening fellow 2019 Brides!

    We have been together for nearly 11 years, and got engaged in December.

    We have booked our venue, which is a beautiful converted mill in the New Forest. They are very flexible with regards to DIY etc, but you have to choose from one of their lists of approved caterers (they are all different prices). I am really trying to achieve a 10,000 budget, but am finding the cost of food is bumping that up. We are only having around 45 guests to the day, but we are still looking at over 2,000 for a 3 course sit down meal , so realistically, the budget is more like 12,000.

    I am going to try and DIY a lot of the decor, they also have no corkage so we can supply the daytime alcohol cheaply

    It would be good to share any other tips/ideas with other 2019 brides as to how we can all achieve our desired budget!

    p.s. I have started using the BrideBook app, its fab for a budget breakdown!
    Last edited by lola25; 14-03-2018 at 9:39 PM. Reason: error
    • kdalwayskint
    • By kdalwayskint 14th Mar 18, 10:39 PM
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    • 14th Mar 18, 10:39 PM
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    • 14th Mar 18, 10:39 PM
    Wow! Hi

    I checked back a couple of times and thought I was going to be a Billy no mates!

    There's been a slight movement on the divorce front, the paperwork has been officially stamped and H2B has paid for it, both parties have received a copy and as far as I'm aware it has been signed and sent back off again, I don't want to keep asking about it!

    We went to visit a venue on Sunday, and think it will be the one. There is a possibility that we could have our ceremony there as well as the reception but it adds about 500 on top, so maybe the registry office, I'd prefer the venue as it takes the hassle out of trying to get across a busy city centre to a small town afterwards.

    We aren't going to set the date until the divorce is sorted, but hoping a Friday in August. We are currently down to 3 dates as the friend doing our photography gets married one of the Saturdays and doesn't want to be doing ours the day before which is fair enough and the venue already has a booking on another one.

    This week we've mostly been talking about rings, outfits and table decorations!

    Catch you all again soon
    Saving for Christmas 2018 ~ 231.46/365
    Wedding Fund 1500/1500
    Car Fund 108.46/5000 ~ Bank of Mum 5000/5000 done
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    LBM 25/2/09 Debt at highest 8,037.35 now 0
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    • KDC
    • By KDC 17th Mar 18, 7:44 PM
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    • 17th Mar 18, 7:44 PM
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    • 17th Mar 18, 7:44 PM
    Hi. I'm another 2019 bride. Wedding 6th April 2019, venue booked, deposit paid, dress bought. It's my 2nd and H2B 3rd and we're closer to 60yrs old than 30 - but still madly in love after nearly 11yrs.

    We're keeping it as cheap as possible and I'd like to make our own invitations i.e printed on card via computer as invitations are so expensive!!

    I don't get on the computer every day, but I'll keep looking back here and see how everybody is getting on.
    • xironsongx
    • By xironsongx 19th Mar 18, 9:29 AM
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    • 19th Mar 18, 9:29 AM
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    • 19th Mar 18, 9:29 AM
    i ant to do a lot of thing DIY,
    i'd like to do my on invite but I've also found a free app that allow you to create your on wedding day app for everyone, mines here https://withjoy.com/ourdaytoremember/app so we will have that and also a facebook group.

    i would like to do our own confetti,
    i found lots of shaped hole punchers for 1 on ebay & was going to use those with tissue paper. Confetti cones are so expensive.

    We may not be getting married next year as i'm not sure if we'd be able to save up that much that quick. but i'm still saving & pushing forward with saving for it.
    Engaged 01-09-17 Wedding 519.78 (BA) 80.22 (Sp) / 5,600 5,000 left to save
    • kdalwayskint
    • By kdalwayskint 19th Mar 18, 10:09 PM
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    No further movement on the divorce front which means no confirmed date

    There seems to be a bit of money at the end of my month, which is very rare, so I'm going to put that into my wedding fund on Friday

    I've thought about confetti and decided I'm going to use rose petals, drying my own, first lot are from the roses my H2B bought me for valentine's day this year, I've got some from a reduced bunch from Mr T recently and the next lot are from the mother's day flowers that H2B's daughters got for me. I'll see what they are like in a few months, if they are crap no worries as no real cost but if they turn out ok that would be good

    H2B has an idea of what he would like to wear, so that helps me, well sort of, I was thinking tea length, but that's not 100%

    We're going to a wedding show this coming Sunday, hoping to get a bit of inspiration.

    Happy planning and saving, if it doesn't happen in 2019 it's not the end of the world x
    Saving for Christmas 2018 ~ 231.46/365
    Wedding Fund 1500/1500
    Car Fund 108.46/5000 ~ Bank of Mum 5000/5000 done
    DFW Nerd #1155
    LBM 25/2/09 Debt at highest 8,037.35 now 0
    Credit Card 2200/2500
    • xironsongx
    • By xironsongx 25th Mar 18, 10:11 AM
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    I'm so sorry to hear that.
    Congrats on saving extra!

    That's a clever idea! May as well try it.
    Tell me how it goes.

    I've stopped planning the wedding. I've been window shopping but not in a way to plan.

    I've shuffled my savings around as there's lots of things for me to save for and needed to borrow extra cash this month... March is super busy for me but because I was ill I was 300 down. Other wise I would have been fine.

    So my total is now 500 for the wedding.

    I got a good amount if money in each of my other savings now so I can focus more on the wedding & emergency fund.


    How did the wedding fare go?

    And yeah exactly ! I'm not fussed it'll take us a while to save 5,600
    Engaged 01-09-17 Wedding 519.78 (BA) 80.22 (Sp) / 5,600 5,000 left to save
    • kdalwayskint
    • By kdalwayskint 31st Mar 18, 11:47 PM
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    Yay! Movement on the divorce front! Next step for H2B is to apply for the decree nisi. We might be in a position to sort out a date

    We've been into town today and looked at suits, my shoes, table decoration ideas, sweet jars and artificial flowers, not sure I fancy artificial flowers though.

    We've talked about invitations and the venue.

    Lots of ideas floating around but no decisions made except losing a little weight and a couple of inches each

    xironsongx the wedding fayre was quite good, we talked to a couple of jewellers, a cake maker, suit company and another venue near us (but a bit pricey!) Came home with loads of leaflets and a couple of magazines.

    How's everyone else getting on?
    Saving for Christmas 2018 ~ 231.46/365
    Wedding Fund 1500/1500
    Car Fund 108.46/5000 ~ Bank of Mum 5000/5000 done
    DFW Nerd #1155
    LBM 25/2/09 Debt at highest 8,037.35 now 0
    Credit Card 2200/2500
    • FanDango
    • By FanDango 7th Apr 18, 9:06 PM
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    Nye 2018/19
    Hi all

    I have already booked for this coming New Year's Eve. I'm struggling with budget quite a lot. We had to go with NYE because of H2B work, but it's so expensive. Some people have quoted thousands more because of the date. I've been searching on Pinterest and other wedding websites, but some of the information they give about saving money is pretty rubbish or common sense - like get people to do everything for you! I'm struggling at the minute with a wedding dress. I'm not really a fan of the traditional, but I do want white/ivory and long. Everything I see costs thousands and you can buy a similar dress in any other colours costs a couple of hundred. Anyone come across any good sites? I don't mind second hand.

    The other thing I have a pickle with, is I have made or bought most of the decorations myself and now I'm stuck trying to find people to help me with it or having to pay someone. But most venue dressers want you to hire their stuff. It's all very frustrating!

    I've made all our save the dates, invites, confetti is all the petals I have been saving and drying, made the confetti bags, thank you notes for the tables, colouring print outs. Happy to share my money saving notes with anyone.

    Good luck - I had no idea how much there was to organising a wedding if you have a restricted budget!!! x
    • FanDango
    • By FanDango 7th Apr 18, 9:11 PM
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    kdalwayskint

    I've been saving my petals for over a year. Stick them on a baking tray on kitchen towel in a sunny window and when they are dry they go in a brown paper bag, again this is stored somewhere dry. I got a wooden crate from Ikea (it was less than 5) and found a template I liked on pinterest and printed the confetti bags, sealing with double sided tape. I am quite far behind with how many I think I need, but in the summer I am going to head every flower I see to make it up!! Just read your note after and thought you should know that mine are working OK.
    • kdalwayskint
    • By kdalwayskint 7th Apr 18, 10:13 PM
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    Fandango, thank you, are they paper bags? Have you looked at Debnams and also dotty p? They both have reasonably priced dresses, I guess it depends what you're looking for.

    With regards to budget for my outfit, I'm looking about 100-200 but want to get shoes and something for my hair out of that too, I don't want a veil though. I can't decide on what style of dress I want to go for, with such a low budget I don't feel I could go to a dress shop.

    I saw a post about a couple that really liked the venue that they'd picked but the wedding coordinator didn't make them feel as welcoming as they'd expected, other posters encouraged them to enquire if someone else was available for them. Because of that post it encouraged us to ask for someone else at the venue we like and we are now going for a second viewing. Just wanted to say thank you to whoever that was.

    How's everyone else getting on?
    Saving for Christmas 2018 ~ 231.46/365
    Wedding Fund 1500/1500
    Car Fund 108.46/5000 ~ Bank of Mum 5000/5000 done
    DFW Nerd #1155
    LBM 25/2/09 Debt at highest 8,037.35 now 0
    Credit Card 2200/2500
    • xironsongx
    • By xironsongx 8th Apr 18, 3:07 AM
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    I purchased a laptop using our wedding savings.

    I spoke to my fiance about this as it was our money and I didn't want to be selfish but I kinda 'need' a laptop as my desktop set up runs horrid and is basically just a keyboard plugged into a tv. No, seriously. I need it for my actual work and my side business. He was absolutely fine with this and helped choose a laptop for me. He's a tech god!

    So because of this, I have decided that I will save up a starting emergency fund and will start saving properly for the wedding when the fiance can start putting towards the wedding too as that way it's fair on both parts. I will be saving all change towards the wedding in my little frame though.

    The finance is saving for a car and insurance etc... as he is in the final stages of learning how to drive.

    We aren't in a rush to get married either. We know we have each other and we're only what the other person "wants" . I will be buying tiny bits for the wedding here and there as and when but it's not so much of a priority.

    It's just simply not the right time for us to get married as there are other things we need to buy or want to do before we say "I do" .

    Plus, I'm going through some hard times with family - my granddad has alzhimers and is in the last few days/months of his life which I still really hard for me to get over or to come to terms with and to accept it.

    Sorry and hope to return soon.
    Good luck to everyone , I'll be popping in & out x
    Engaged 01-09-17 Wedding 519.78 (BA) 80.22 (Sp) / 5,600 5,000 left to save
    • kdalwayskint
    • By kdalwayskint 8th Apr 18, 10:03 PM
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    Ah big hugs to you xironsongx

    We've been together a long time and there's always been something else we've needed to use the money on, we both have children from previous relationships so they always came first. My son is 20 now and I'd like to say he's not quite as dependent on me as he used to be, but that's not completely true!

    Catch you soon x
    Saving for Christmas 2018 ~ 231.46/365
    Wedding Fund 1500/1500
    Car Fund 108.46/5000 ~ Bank of Mum 5000/5000 done
    DFW Nerd #1155
    LBM 25/2/09 Debt at highest 8,037.35 now 0
    Credit Card 2200/2500
    • kdalwayskint
    • By kdalwayskint 11th Apr 18, 10:38 PM
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    We're looking forward to visiting our venue choice on Tuesday evening and I think we'll probably set a date after that meeting.

    We've bought some vases, jars and lanterns and are going to add some hessian, ribbon and lace to bring them into our rustic type theme. H2B can get some log slices from someone he knows so a saving to be had there!

    I've bought a dress from e bay. It's tea length style. I'm hoping it fits ok, I may have to slim my jelly belly down a bit but I'm thinking I've got a good year to go so there shouldn't be too much of an issue and no drastic dieting to be done!

    How are you guys keeping on top of any spends of the budget? At the moment I'm just writing it down in the note pad we're using for anything wedding related.

    I popped into HappieLassie's diary, organising getting married in 2020, the brides over there are much further along with their planning than I am, how are you other 2019 brides doing?
    Saving for Christmas 2018 ~ 231.46/365
    Wedding Fund 1500/1500
    Car Fund 108.46/5000 ~ Bank of Mum 5000/5000 done
    DFW Nerd #1155
    LBM 25/2/09 Debt at highest 8,037.35 now 0
    Credit Card 2200/2500
    • elleJay42
    • By elleJay42 13th Apr 18, 1:47 PM
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    Hello! I go from being 100% confident we're organised enough to thinking we really need to get more done!

    Just over 13 months to go and we've got:
    venue (but haven't sorted food with them yet)
    photographer
    videographer
    officiants
    invites - designed and ready to print
    save the dates - designed and ready to print
    bouquets - I'm making them from paper and I'm 1/3 of the way finished
    I have my wedding shoes and a hair decoration

    I'm really considering making my wedding dress, my mum sent down her dressmaking mannequin at the weekend so I think I'm going to have a play around tomorrow

    we also have our colour scheme - mint and copper with hints of peach and blush

    Happy with where we are at the moment but would always like to have more done
    Total debt at LBM = 4861.03

    DFBXmas2018 #91 - 2997 / 3500 (85.6%)

    HTB ISA - 0 withdrawn for house purchase!
    Wedding Fund 1700 / 5000
    • HappyLassie13
    • By HappyLassie13 16th Apr 18, 11:26 AM
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    Hi all all and KD,

    I have a thread running as i'm getting married on the 20th November 2020.
    All are welcome to take a look.

    some lovely money saving tips and ideas being shared on here.
    I need to look at dresses but i also want to lose weight to feel more confident trying them on first.
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