Mooloo’s Managing it in 2018

beanielou · 3 May 2018 at 4:19PM

thorsoak wrote: »

Mooloo - you should weigh up the pros and cons of going away for half-term - what you would have to pay in terms of holiday club for dgd and what you would earn in the shop against the re-charging of batteries and putting a final closure date on The Past (!) There would also be the stress of organising cover in the shop/the rushing around before and after the break. But would it be worth it? Could well be so.

I agree with this.

ognum · 3 May 2018 at 4:24PM

In my opinion a week away will not put a closure on the past. That comes with time, understanding and new life and that does not happen in a week.

I am not sure that this relationship has run its course yet either, these break ups seem to happen and then almost as if there is nothing better around the corner it restarts. BF as well as Moo has a lot going on in his life at the moment.

Sometimes we have to face life and not run from it, when we run we have to come back and deal with it again.

beanielou · 3 May 2018 at 4:40PM

ognum wrote: »

In my opinion a week away will not put a closure on the past. That comes with time, understanding and new life and that does not happen in a week.

I am not sure that this relationship has run its course yet either, these break ups seem to happen and then almost as if there is nothing better around the corner it restarts. BF as well as Moo has a lot going on in his life at the moment.

Sometimes we have to face life and not run from it, when we run we have to come back and deal with it again.

This is true but I also think Mooloo is in need of a break.

ognum · 3 May 2018 at 5:07PM

beanielou wrote: »

This is true but I also think Mooloo is in need of a break.

I understand that and am only putting my opinion which people can disregard.

One of the reasons she needs a break I said because she is financially stressed, this won!!!8217;t be eased by a trip away.

Another reason is because she has too much work, this won!!!8217;t go away if she goes away for a week.

Another is because her emotions are upside down, this is often exacerbated by running away Andi not dealing with the situation that exists.

There are not many people in this country that could not !!!8216;do with a break!!!8217; But as adults we have to face what is going on in our lives and not spend money on running away from them.

I know I sound harsh, it!!!8217;s just my opinion, you have more of a motherly soothing way, I am afraid sometimes I feel we all have to just get on and deal with things. That I should also what Mooloo would say to her kids too.

beanielou · 3 May 2018 at 8:16PM

You are right.
I could do with a wee holiday too.
Havent been away in 3 years :eek: :sad:

Savvy_sewing · 3 May 2018 at 8:48PM

I won't be running away.
Too late for that.
I have always been honest here, but this is the hardest thing to say, Today the bottom fell out of my world when finally my son and his GF have been arrested for child neglect. The boy got out on the street, and my son was asleep on the sofa, and her upstairs. I don't think it was just sleeping. I think he was out of his tree on drugs.
I have been dealing with it since 3.30 when I got the call to get there. The boys are now safe at Biggests. What an ordeal.
Thankfully because of our background checks over Guardianship is DGD Social we're happy for the children to come to us, but it was decided that Biggest was better equipped then me to have them.
I am ashamed and embarrassed to say DS is my Son.
I thought about not writing this as some people know who I am now, but then it would not be telling the truth if I didn't.
I don't expect platitudes, or incriminating comments about DS. There is nothing anyone can say to change the facts, or to ease my mind.
Life sucks

thorsoak · 3 May 2018 at 8:58PM

Mooloo - it is said that you have to reach the bottom before you can rise. I am so sorry to read this - but, like you, I am not surprised. It is so sad :-( DS and GF will never, ever be able to look after these children - and neither will you :-( You are 9 years older than when you took over DGG and Biggest has her own family - and they have to take precedence over these two other two children. I know you have said that you cannot allow any more children to go out of the family - but what choice do you have? None. Physically you are NOT capable of looking after another two babies - who may or may not have feotal alcohol problems - and neither can Biggest - her priorities must lie with her own children.

You have to admit defeat sometime, my dear - and this time is now :-(

Let these two babies have a better chance. Let them go with love xxx

beanielou · 3 May 2018 at 9:12PM

I am so so very sorry to read this.
I have no words of wisdom to offer.

Artytarty · 3 May 2018 at 10:52PM

How tragic, I commend your honesty Mooloo.
God knows you have tried so hard to help them but it is beyond you now.x

sarahevie1 · 4 May 2018 at 12:35AM

Such a shame but you really cannot blame yourself, it's out of your hands now, and I hope a solution is found.

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