What would you do about neighbour I have suspicion

dekaspace wrote: »

I never asked on the occasions we spoke specifically about men though, she told me she had a husband that babysat, on the 2nd occasion I said I hear the kids come in from school and she said thats her (male) babysitter so both times it was her that told me it was a male looking after the kids the 2nd time she said "hes deaf in one ear so speaks loudly and thats what (you) hear"



The third time I said I heard a male voice, I guess thats your babysitter she was very defensive and went she never has male guests which I only said as she herself told me the previous time her babysitter was male so yeah I only went by her previous comments.



Im not insulted by them lying as much as annoyed me getting told its none of my business, I don't care if she has guests round every day. male or female.


On a side note just in 10 minutes and I am hearing multiple voices upstairs and kid crying.


She had no problem asking about my friends that came round though.


But her reasoning for the party was that her friends showed up unnanounced and she couldn't turn them away, she kept shifting the time they arrived from 10pm-11pm, then said they went at 1am, but each time saying they left at 4.30am. she admitted they were heavily drunk but again went "but it was my birthday" so all that I "asked" was me saying I heard noise and assuming it was her babysitter, but in our oriignal chat last year I knocked on door and said "oh I heard noise last few days" and she straight away went "we wear slippers, see there they are" I never mentioned what type of noise it was so she must of known that.



That was the insulting the intelligence thing as she kept contradicting herself, but also shifting blame.


I honestly don't care about the secrets but being fobbed off and the fact she seems to be so obsessed with.saying its the other neighbour



I mean its a very rare chance that its a very deep voiced female or two up there


But the main reason I worry is that if I make a complaint this 6foot5 guy who looks like a bodybuilder will cause problems, when we were supposed to have mediation she told me she couldn't attend and she was sending her male friend round.


But as I type that, hold on she told me she doesn't have any male friends or guests.

dekaspace wrote: »

Im worried about going on my own, I have just been given a mental health advocate so likely they can help me but the neighbour herself told me originally she was going (with the 6 foot 5 guy) then sending the 6 foot 5 guy alone, either way felt bad for me.


As we speak in last few mintues heard people come in and past minute dog barking and obvious male voice.


Really do feel like she is taking the mickey.

dekaspace wrote: »

Updating in part to vent, forgot to say she claimed she would be away Wednesday-Sunday this week, but today the noise is as bad as the party at weekend, no doubt its male voices now, heard kids laughter then adult laughter and then dog bark then a female scream "SHUT UP"

For past 30 minutes since I walked through door its been dog barking multiple times, sounds like group of people walking about, obvious as its loud male laughter.

dekaspace wrote: »

I think council wants mediation to happen first then see what happens, maybe that way so theres a official confirmation noise will stop.

Though council has a weekend out of hours warden service that can witness noise, all i'd worry there is if they are noisy unless its like non stop and at its worst levels it may seem like everyday noise.