Work's Xmas Party Exclusion

Pixie5740 wrote: »

A good piece of advice I received for managers and work nights out is to buy the first round and be gone by the second.

Yep totally

You can’t be in a friendship group with people who work for you. It doesn’t (or very very rarely) works.

Wish them the best and go out with some friends you can let your hair down with

JReacher1 wrote: »

That’s not true. You can be friends with your boss. I am god father to my senior managers son and two of the team that work for me are very good friends and we socialise a lot together.

The trick is understanding the difference between a professional and personal relationship.

In work we all act professionally and behave with the relevant level of respect to each other.

Outside of work we are just friends and dont really talk much about work.

+1 to this ^^^^

I was very good friends with my last boss, I was witness at his wedding.
We had a great work relationship too.

I suspect the OP has a somewhat strained working relationship with this person who has organised the party.

Re the party - you’re the boss. They don’t want you there. Get over it.

Re the wedding - both of them work for the same company so it is likely they both have a lot of friends there. Doen’t mean they want *everyone* there though - there are likely to be some they don’t get in with or are not fussed about.

hazyjo wrote: »

I invited my 'team' to my wedding (lawyers and a Partner). I certainly wouldn't be asking them out on a social night out. Totally different. I have a line manager who I can't stand and also wouldn't dream of asking her along to any social event. Nobody wants the boss there :eek: It's something you often forfeit once you step into a managerial role.

Not sure why you’d want to invite work colleagues to your wedding if you don’t like them enough to socialise with.

Pollycat wrote: »

+1 to this ^^^^

I was very good friends with my last boss, I was witness at his wedding.
We had a great work relationship too.

I suspect the OP has a somewhat strained working relationship with this person who has organised the party.

+2. I can't believe in this day and age anyone has a problem socialising with their boss, we always have works dos where everyone is invited right up to senior management and they're always a great laugh.

A couple of years ago a senior manager got totally ratted and me and a colleague had to help him home, we never tire of reminding him at payrise time :rotfl:(in jest, obviously).

I've had some bosses who I wouldn't want on a do but same with other work colleagues, nothing to do with their position in the hierarchy.

I guess some people still work in environments like in the 70's where there's an "us and them" attitude and you call your boss "sir" or "ma'am" and they have the key to executive washroom etc...I feel sorry for anyone working somewhere like that.