Work's Xmas Party Exclusion

Pollycat

MLA73 wrote: »

Oops I dont think Ive explained myself very well. The groom told me who wasnt being invited to his wedding and I said to him ok it might be a bit awkward but its your wedding. His future to be wife was regularly talking about her wedding in front of someone who wasnt invited and that person was very upset about it.

On the Xmas party thing you're right I should let it go. Confront wasnt the word I meant to use.

But who was invited to the wedding was still none of your business as it was nothing to do with work.
Move on is the best policy.

MLA73

pinkshoes wrote: »

It's a fun night out and they don't want the boss there.

Given your previous comment to her husband regarding the wedding, then they probably don't want you there so you weren't invited.

Have you, as the boss, organised them a Christmas social?

The other two havent been invited are bosses too. Concerning her husband, I play 5-a-side football with him twice a week so don't think he hates me that much. I just think his wife manipulates situations like this to have a go at other people. It is blatantly obvious that she uses her relationship with her husband to her advantage but what can you say. The joys of working with a husband and wife!

As some of the posters have suggested I should rise above it and let it wash over me. I was speaking with some anger earlier.

Thanks all for helping me see the light.

Pollycat

MLA73 wrote: »

The other two havent been invited are bosses too. Concerning her husband, I play 5-a-side football with him twice a week so don't think he hates me that much. I just think his wife manipulates situations like this to have a go at other people. It is blatantly obvious that she uses her relationship with her husband to her advantage but what can you say. The joys of working with a husband and wife!

As some of the posters have suggested I should rise above it and let it wash over me. I was speaking with some anger earlier.

Thanks all for helping me see the light.

And there you have the answer.
Instead of looking for a deep and meaningful reason for your lack of invitation, it's right there in bold.
They don't want bosses at the party.

getmore4less

I suspect the person doing the organization has a far better idea of the workplace dynamic than you do.

It is not a you/them it is you/everybody.

If they invited you how many would not want to come?

JayJay100

That horrible blurred area between boss/staff/colleagues/friends. I think others are right, and it is just because you are the boss. Try looking at it this way; if you witnessed something that they shouldn't be doing, and it went against your company's policy, as a boss, you'd be obliged to do something about it. I know, because I've been there. I thought I could handle it, by just having a quiet word, and it would stop, but it blew up in my face, with a massive show-down. Not only was my colleague in big trouble, but I was too, because I didn't use the official channels. No invitation can be a good thing.

suejb2

You have different types of party's . This is a D.A.T.B party.
Don't Ask The Boss, don't over think it .

On a side note I wouldn't dream of saying to any host who you invite and don't invite.

Marvel1

MLA73 wrote: »

Oops I dont think Ive explained myself very well. The groom told me who wasnt being invited to his wedding and I said to him ok it might be a bit awkward but its your wedding. His future to be wife was regularly talking about her wedding in front of someone who wasnt invited and that person was very upset about it..

True it's never nice, I think what would !!!! me off more is if I was asked to provide a contribution as part of a work collection.

Zeni

Ditto, think you reading way to much into this. You are the boss - I wouldn't want to go to a social event with my boss there, never feel like you can switch off and have fun!

z1a

So, you're not paranoid, they really DO hate you.

Janey3

Glad you have made the decision to let it go. You are the boss not friend and mustnt expect to be asked to these get togethers

Give them a couple of quid to start the kitty for their drinks and wish them a nice evening.