Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

I think a day in bed may be just what you need calley. Be kind to yourself xx.

tea_lover wrote: »

Glad you're feeling a bit brighter today lambyr. We're always here whenever you need a good old vent (clearly I make good use of this service )

Also, don't be at all embarrassed about any medical issues - have you seen the sort of should-be-TMI stuff some of us come out with on here? :rotfl:.

Don't apologise for being ill and feeling bad! Just because other people in the world have their own issues, it doesn't mean you're not allowed to complain once in a while. It must be really hard caring for your mum - perfectly understandable that when you're tired and ill you just need a good old moan. Seriously, I'd be doing it all the time .

It is a tad embarrassing when I spend a shocking amount of time making trombone-like noises from my bottom! :rotfl: I'm pretty lucky that E has a sense of humour about it all.

On the carer front, I forgot to mention, I was asked to write a blog post for a carer's support service based in West Sussex (I'm not based in West Sussex or anywhere close) a few weeks ago.

Calley - I don't know how much this will help but I've never really thought too highly of myself either. I have a self-deprecating sense of humour, which really just serves to mask my own insecurities. I think we all have a habit of identifying what we perceive to be our worst traits and amplifying them.

I suppose I haven't been hurt very often. The way my life has gone has provided few opportunities for relationships so no real chance of being hurt in that way. I did, however, manage to date some right numptygoggles when I was younger.

For the longest time, I went through life thinking relationships were something for other people. Not me. I'd see friends and family getting married, having kids, being all sickenly happy and here I was... alone. It's different in my case, I know. But I could reel off a list of things that I dislike about myself, things that make me inherently unloveable in my eyes... but I think the difference is what we see about ourselves is not what other people see. When you're low on self-esteem it's baffling that someone can take an interest, but someone did take an interest in you, and no doubt many other people will. For whatever negatives you perceive within yourself, you're still the charming, sweet, caring, considerate woman who comes on here near-daily and shares support and advice to others. No one, not even yourself, can take that away from you - and there will be people out there who are desperately seeking someone with those qualities.

I know it might not seem like it now, and it might seem like an endless wade through the toads to find your prince (sorry for the yucky cliche) but don't give up, and don't punish yourself for something that isn't your fault. Life's a series of moments and each one does not have to inform the next if you don't want it to.

Lambyr wrote: »

Calley - I don't know how much this will help but I've never really thought too highly of myself either. I have a self-deprecating sense of humour, which really just serves to mask my own insecurities. I think we all have a habit of identifying what we perceive to be our worst traits and amplifying them.

This also completely true of me, I do all those things.

Iz, I got an email last week from someone asking me if it was ok to take their dog to site for the day! We're talking construction site, heavy machinery, long hours..... the mind boggles.

Watch the Olympics lambyr! It's generally getting started by this time of day (4hrs behind). Last night of the cycling tonight - am really going to miss it!