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Where to start? Divorce, child, mortgage etc

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  • Jox
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    Yeah some husbands think their wives are unstable, emotional, aggressive etc but if they looked at their own behaviour there might be a clue why.

    Probably best to go to a lawyer and work out the divorce details.

    Good luck
  • flanker6 wrote: »
    Maybe the wife is only aggressive towards the OP.
    The OP has obviously initiated the break up and oftentimes the remaining party feels resentment.


    So, I was right in my second sentence then?
  • So, I was right in my second sentence then?


    Well, not really. It was a judgemental, disingenuous statement.


    The OP could have left his partner due to long term problems that could not be resolved.


    The "sleeping with other women and leaving her to be a single mum" infers that those two have a causal relationship.
    It also implies that the husband has been sleeping with more than one woman. I didn't see him say that.


    The part about leaving her to be a single mum is heartbreaking for many men. The courts will award primary custody to one of the parents. So being forced to be a part time father - or a single mum - is a consequence of any relationship breakdown. But sometimes a relationship is so broken that it just can't be fixed. So it becomes a matter of choosing the "least worst option."
  • flanker6 wrote: »


    The "sleeping with other women and leaving her to be a single mum" infers that those two have a causal relationship.
    It also implies that the husband has been sleeping with more than one woman. I didn't see him say that.

    Ah ok, so cheating is less hurtful if your partner only does it with one other woman he really likes?
  • Ah ok, so cheating is less hurtful if your partner only does it with one other woman he really likes?


    I'm missing the part where he said he cheated.
    I thought the OP implied that he moved out and is NOW in a relationship.


    And cheating is always hurtful. But, the hurt is also due to the fact of a complete relationship breakdown. People are far less likely to cheat if they are in a happy, contented relationship.
  • flanker6 wrote: »
    I'm missing the part where he said he cheated.
    I thought the OP implied that he moved out and is NOW in a relationship.


    Riiiiight.
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