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Just given my lodger notice

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  • 25_Years_On
    25_Years_On Posts: 3,029 Forumite
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    I think the correct response is "okay but please let me know next time, thanks".
  • breaking_free
    breaking_free Posts: 762 Forumite
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    Hey everyone, I really do appreciate your comments.

    I hold my hands up to being in the wrong. I did overreact, but as someone asked earlier there actually was a bit of an issue with personalities, which is why I woke up today feeling relieved that I've ended the contract.

    I've had 7 lodgers previously and never had an issue with allowing them extra nights, letting friends stay over, etc. The difference in this case was that she admitted she's known since last week that she wanted extra nights but didn't tell me - just presented it as a fait accompli.

    But you're all correct - the fault lies with me and I should have handled this better. Thanks for taking the time to set me right.
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  • TuppenceWorth
    TuppenceWorth Posts: 148 Forumite
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    OP.
    You seem to have considered 2 options:
    Allow the five nights or offer 'matching orders'.

    Personally I would have given due consideration to the former.

    But what about option 3...
    "Sorry it's not as per our agreement but I'm happy for you to continue with the agreed days..."
  • breaking_free
    breaking_free Posts: 762 Forumite
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    So, I have a question for you all.

    I'm thinking that I should say something to her, along the lines of "I believe I've overreacted and I'm genuinely sorry for that", (but not asking her to stay because I don't want that).

    Would you let sleeping dogs lie or would you admit fault, apologise, and wish her all the best? If so, how would you say it?
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  • marliepanda
    marliepanda Posts: 7,186 Forumite
    breaking_free wrote: »
    So, I have a question for you all.

    I'm thinking that I should say something to her, along the lines of "I believe I've overreacted and I'm genuinely sorry for that", (but not asking her to stay because I don't want that).

    Would you let sleeping dogs lie or would you admit fault, apologise, and wish her all the best? If so, how would you say it?

    There's no point if you still want her to go.
  • AnotherJoe
    AnotherJoe Posts: 19,622 Forumite
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    If it will make you sleep better, I'd sugegst something like what you said "I believe I've overreacted and I'm genuinely sorry for that but we do seem to be different personalities that dont get along so its for the best we dont continue this arrangement, I wish you well""
  • marliepanda
    marliepanda Posts: 7,186 Forumite
    AnotherJoe wrote: »
    If it will make you sleep better, I'd sugegst something like what you said "I believe I've overreacted and I'm genuinely sorry for that but we do seem to be different personalities that dont get along so its for the best we dont continue this arrangement, I wish you well""

    I think that will 'help' the OP more than the lodger. I'd rather be asked to leave for a silly contractual wobble than to bring up a personality clash she may not be aware of...
  • PasturesNew
    PasturesNew Posts: 70,698 Forumite
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    Total over-reaction.

    It might've been more sensible to just say "We had a 3 day agreement .... so I'll be charging you the extra £100 this week" ....

    But what's done's done. She probably feels "well out of it".
  • TuppenceWorth
    TuppenceWorth Posts: 148 Forumite
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    I have re-read the original post.

    I don't see a demand, only a request with some context about why the request was made.

    No contractual wobble unless the contract did forbid any requests. The lodger should be rightly peeved...
  • AnotherJoe
    AnotherJoe Posts: 19,622 Forumite
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    marliepanda wrote: »
    I think that will 'help' the OP more than the lodger. I'd rather be asked to leave for a silly contractual wobble than to bring up a personality clash she may not be aware of...


    Oh yes, this is all about the OP, thats why I said "if it will help you sleep better". Hopefully the lodger is fully cognizant the OP was a twit and doesn't feel bad herself.
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