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Why do I feel so paranoid...
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I can get this completely irrational jealousy. Often I can talk myself out of it telling myself I'm being paranoid.
I think the root of the problem is that sometimes I have really low self confidence and don't believe that I would be enough for someone, but I am beginning to believe him. What's been very nice is when I have been paranoid about specific people, I have told him and told him to see it as a compliment, that I do think he is desirable and could have anyone he wants.0 -
ha ha are you sure you're not? :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:
Fairly sure. I'm pretty comfortable being a male, the equipment works for the moment and after I lost all that money in the Colombian escort market I'm wary about entering into similar ventures there again... I mean, really, how was I to know they were cops?Lotus-eater wrote: »I don't get the different !!!!!! emails now, googlemail is great at stopping all spam. I miss them in a way, now I actually have to go looking for it. :rotfl:
I used to have a Hotmail account that never got any spam except for emails from Hotmail about how to stop spam.0 -
neneromanova wrote: »I saw an email in OH's inbox the other day and it was of web cam girls (the standard junk email, even I get Viagra emails) but ever since then I just can't get out of my head that he could be cheating. He's said to me why would he have kids, buy a house and want to marry me if he wanted to go looking at other women.
I know this is true, but I just can't get the worry out of my head.
Maybe if he's been working really hard lately and you've been stressed then this extra worry may be a signal that you both need to spend some more quality time together? Emotions are an odd thing. We all need to feel loved and wanted and this can get pushed aside whn we have other responsibilities. Do you get to go out much, just the two of you?"One day I realised that when you are lying in your grave, it's no good saying, "I was too shy, too frightened."
Because by then you've blown your chances. That's it."0 -
neneromanova wrote: »I saw an email in OH's inbox the other day and it was of web cam girls (the standard junk email, even I get Viagra emails) but ever since then I just can't get out of my head that he could be cheating. He's said to me why would he have kids, buy a house and want to marry me if he wanted to go looking at other women.
I know this is true, but I just can't get the worry out of my head.
Do you think it's worth going to talk to someone about this? I think it all stems from my ex's who have nearly all but 1 cheated on me, (I know how to pick them hey.)
Please Help...
If you had gone onto his computer and found he had been viewing web cam girls behind your back then I think you would have something to worry about. However as you stated this was a standard junk email that came through to him.
When you approached him he reassured you as best he could how he feels about you. He didn't, from what you say, get defensive or give you any reason to think something was amiss.
You know him better than any of us but it sounds to me as if he is a keeper. Dont let bad experiences with exs ruin what you have now.0 -
Why are you spamming my ooooooold thread?What's yours is mine and what's mine is mine..0
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How are you doing anyway
Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.0 -
neneromanova wrote: »I saw an email in OH's inbox the other day and it was of web cam girls (the standard junk email, even I get Viagra emails) but ever since then I just can't get out of my head that he could be cheating. He's said to me why would he have kids, buy a house and want to marry me if he wanted to go looking at other women.
I know this is true, but I just can't get the worry out of my head.
Do you think it's worth going to talk to someone about this? I think it all stems from my ex's who have nearly all but 1 cheated on me, (I know how to pick them hey.)
Please Help...
Who would you go and talk to? A counsellor wont give you answers to the one thing that is worrying you. They just gently encourage you to have coping stategies and to look at things from different angles.
Forget for a minute worrying about what your partner feels about you and ask yourself how you feel about him. Do you trust him? Are you sure he is 100% committed to you by all the things he says and does? Are you ready to marry him and feel secure in a marriage with him? If the answer to any of this is no then it is him you need to talk things through with not anyone else. I am sure it must be hard to trust again in a relationship when former partners have cheated. For your own happiness though this needs addressing, nothing worse than feeling insecure hey.
So sorry, realised this is an old thread that I answered back in July0 -
I'm All good now thanks Lotus Was just a wobble as I was so tired and stressed. Thanks for asking. What's yours is mine and what's mine is mine..0
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