Why do I feel so paranoid...

neneromanova

I saw an email in OH's inbox the other day and it was of web cam girls (the standard junk email, even I get Viagra emails) but ever since then I just can't get out of my head that he could be cheating. He's said to me why would he have kids, buy a house and want to marry me if he wanted to go looking at other women.

I know this is true, but I just can't get the worry out of my head.

Do you think it's worth going to talk to someone about this? I think it all stems from my ex's who have nearly all but 1 cheated on me, (I know how to pick them hey.)

Please Help...

Percy1983

With no trust there will be no relationship, it does seem you have major trust issues which need addressing.

You should see some of the e-mails I get my other half finds them funny.

Tropez

You need to try and work out why you are feeling insecure.

Spam emails are just that - spam. I have an email account setup solely for website registrations, public forums etc. where my email address could be pulled by a spambot and lo and behold, that address receives numerous emails per week of all sorts - !!!!!! of every possible variant, penis enlargement, breast enlargement, breast reduction, viagra, cialis, how to invest in South American !!!!!! companies... I mean, if my partner saw that and didn't know it was spam, she would think I was a gender confused pervert with erectile problems who is looking to bankroll a series of South American adult features.

As you say, your insecurity may be related to your romantic history and so it could be worthwhile going to see somebody, or even just trying to talk it through with your partner. Relationships cannot survive without trust and you need to try and overcome the emotional obstacles that are blocking your path.

neneromanova

Thanks, yeah i know it's just spam, like I said, I get it too, and I've seen him get this kind of email before, I think it's just he was mega grumpy last week, then seeing this lead me to think stupid things. I thought I had got over the insecurities but I'll have to work on them again. Thanks peeps.

scooby088

I still get emails from dating sites that i never used and my attempts to block them are continually ignored, i wouldn't pay any stock into junk emails on you OH account really not worth a second thought.

3v3

neneromanova wrote: »

Thanks, yeah i know it's just spam, like I said, I get it too, and I've seen him get this kind of email before, I think it's just he was mega grumpy last week, then seeing this lead me to think stupid things. I thought I had got over the insecurities but I'll have to work on them again. Thanks peeps.

I assume when he was "mega grumpy" you talked this through with him so you at least understand *why* he was so grumpy? If you understand why he was grumpy maybe that would help reassure you?

Hard to trust completely when you've been so hurt before, isn't it. But, be patient with yourself, (and him) unless he gives you reason to be otherwise

neneromanova

He was just working too hard which is a fair enough reason to be grumpy.

3v3

neneromanova wrote: »

He was just working too hard which is a fair enough reason to be grumpy.

Aha!!! In that case then, you are worrying unnecessarily and being a little too hard on yourself ((hugs))

lurvlyloz

Tropez wrote: »

Spam emails are just that - spam. I have an email account setup solely for website registrations, public forums etc. where my email address could be pulled by a spambot and lo and behold, that address receives numerous emails per week of all sorts - !!!!!! of every possible variant, penis enlargement, breast enlargement, breast reduction, viagra, cialis, how to invest in South American !!!!!! companies... I mean, if my partner saw that and didn't know it was spam, she would think I was a gender confused pervert with erectile problems who is looking to bankroll a series of South American adult features.

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ha ha are you sure you're not? :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Lotus-eater

Conversation, honesty and being open with each other, is in my mind the perfect setting for a relationship. Tell him you are having a few problems, don't make it a massive thing, but don't keep it to yourself, it will eat into you in an unhealthy way.

Lotus-eater

Tropez wrote: »

You need to try and work out why you are feeling insecure.

Spam emails are just that - spam. I have an email account setup solely for website registrations, public forums etc. where my email address could be pulled by a spambot and lo and behold, that address receives numerous emails per week of all sorts - !!!!!! of every possible variant, penis enlargement, breast enlargement, breast reduction, viagra, cialis, how to invest in South American !!!!!! companies... I mean, if my partner saw that and didn't know it was spam, she would think I was a gender confused pervert with erectile problems who is looking to bankroll a series of South American adult features.

As you say, your insecurity may be related to your romantic history and so it could be worthwhile going to see somebody, or even just trying to talk it through with your partner. Relationships cannot survive without trust and you need to try and overcome the emotional obstacles that are blocking your path.

I don't get the different !!!!!! emails now, googlemail is great at stopping all spam. I miss them in a way, now I actually have to go looking for it. :rotfl: